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He went first. He loves the smells, the tastes, and the feel of my pussy, and lets me know of his enjoyment - and he can get me to cum like I never have before, and I have always been multi-orgasmic. It makes me very eager to return the favor and give him as much pleasure as he gives me. To me, nothing is sexier than kissing each other with both of our juices mixing in... incredibly erotic for me.

I've also used the nibbling move, and my partner loves it. I don't really bite with teeth, but nibble with my lips.

For me, something about the vulnerability and unpredictability of what is to happen is very erotic... the lack of control contributes to that, but for me, it is the vulnerability I think...

Mickey, don't let your penis size deter you from sexual relationships. My current bf has the smallest penis I have ever seen, I was aghast the first time I saw it, but he makes up for it in absolutely unimaginable ways, with his lips, tongue, fingers, and toys - I have NEVER had such screaming, gushing orgasms, and that is the truth! He is the best kisser I have ever met, and has absolutely made a hobby of learning about how to please women, learning female anatomy - and studies my reactions to whatever he is doing, so that he can repeat the things that give me the most pleasure. He will say things like "oh, I can feel your g-spot", "I can see you squirting, can you feel it?" and "those ridges and that spot right there are where you really respond" - and all the while I am in such ecstacy that I can hardly even focus on what he is saying. He is a master, without a doubt, and even though his penis IS really small, I have never been so satisfied sexually. It makes me wonder if men with small penis's learn to compensate on purpose - my bigger penis'd boyfriends have not been nearly so skilled in lovemaking. Additional bonuses are that I really enjoy going down on him, and he hardly ever chokes me - and like you say, he is the first guy I have ever considered allowing in the back door, because his size is not intimidating, and even seems sort of reasonable. There are definite benefits....

Elise, thank you so much for these suggestions. Based on your 30 second description, I know I am not reaching where I need to get - The problem may be short fingers - I was led to believe that the prostate was just inside the anus, at about the place where my first knuckle would be - so I am definitely not going deeply enough, based on what you are telling me. I have also gotten my middle finger in as far as I can; that is my longest finger, and didn't feel anything there. I will try harder, maybe repositioning him will help - and I have a prostate massager on order, so that may also help - but I really wanted to do it with my fingers, if you know what I mean.

With this particular boyfriend, no way - he tensed up when my fingers even wandered in that direction, I could feel it. He was just a very conservative guy all the way around, I guess! But I have moved on... to a new bf who loves all things oral and anal, and as I posted in another thread, I have not been able to successfully locate the prostate, even with my best efforts on multiple occasions... any suggestions? I did not realise it was that tricky to find...

Sexualhealing, I am no religious scholar (not by a long shot!!) but religious law has many assumptions and stereotypes that, if you read the Word carefully, you will not find. All of the 10 commandments basically boil down to two: "love God" and "love one another". The commandment about adultery really says nothing about living with someone outside of marriage, it just says not to covet someone else's spouse (by which is a way of respecting other people, and which falls under the "love one another" category). And if you read Jesus's words carefully, you will find that he really only gave us two instructions: to make Peace and to help the poor. Enjoying sex with your lover does not violate any of these instructions. Fundamentalist viewpoints will have you believe that you are living in sin in God's eyes, but a careful reading of the Bible for yourself will not uncover anything like that. As I said, I am no Bible scholar, but a wonderful former lover was and I have taken his interpretations to heart, as this version makes much more sense, coming from a loving Creator. Many believe that God is actually in each of us, and loving one another as we love God is the highest form of worship. I have chosen to believe that sexual pleasure was given to us to enjoy, and that full enjoyment of this is one of the highest forms of worship. God wants us to enjoy each other just as we enjoy a beautiful sunset or the smell of the ocean, and there is no limit to this. So let go of those limiting beliefs and begin to see your love as pleasing to the Creator. You can really choose to believe whatever you like, as who really knows the truth other than what is in their heart?

Yes, I feel very fortunate in this way - he is very into all of the play, and absolutely loves it when I am doing anything with him anally - including inserting vibes, my finger, or playing around the opening and perineum. He makes all the expected happy sounds and says it feels wonderful - but somehow I don't think I'm hitting the prostate! I don't feel it and he does not have the strong reaction I was led to expect. I appreciate your suggestions (and yes, I have read those articles and much more) and I am hoping some men with experience in this will offer some advice! I have also read the reviews and ordered a prostate massager from TT, hopefully it will be able to hit the right spot reliably!

The first step in making the changes you want is to make the decision to change. Once that decision is made, there is no "trying" - you either do it or you don't, and you seem well aware of the problems in failing to make those changes. Just do one thing differently each time. Just risk one thing every time. I have found that life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

You have gotten good advice, I think - I'd just like to add that I was having sex for months before I ever had an orgasm! Even though I enjoyed it, I just never got there and actually didn't know what I was missing. My first orgasms came when I was just beginning to date a new boyfriend, and didn't want to have sex with him too soon - I think because we spent a huge amount of time in foreplay! When we finally went "all the way" my body was just begging for him in a way that had never happened before, and the orgasms began then and have never stopped - only gotten better with age and knowledge about how my body works. So my advice to the two of you is to spend more time in foreplay and teasing (I'm talking hours not minutes - maybe even an entire evening or two with nothing more than that) and see if that helps you. Good luck, relax, and just enjoy the sensations.

My current bf is very into anal play, and I am happy to learn and enjoy these techniques for the first time. I have read about doing prostate massage and have tried it with him twice, but with pretty disappointing results - he says it feels good, and he enjoys it, but he does not have the mega-orgasms that I have heard described as a result of this! Also, I think I should be able to feel the "walnut-shaped" nodule in there somewhere, which I have so far not been able to do! Help!! What am I doing wrong? Any suggestions would be appreciated... I would really like this to work as I have heard it described.

Thanks, MsLayD - for the info and for the congrats! And yes, congrats were worth repeating as it was incredibly, amazingly hot. I will never look at sex the same way again, that is for sure. I've done some more researching about this and what I have learned is that if you have ever lactated, those glands are still active and with adequate stimuation, can produce again - I think this was a situation of enough stimulation for that to occur. I'm amazed at him (and me!).

Thanks for all the replies - as some of you suggested, I suspect there are "upbringing" issues that linger.... or maybe he is just one of those guys who just doesn't prefer it because he likes to be in control of the movement or whatever.... To update, since this original post I had some minor surgery and was restricted from vaginal intercourse, so oral became the way to go, at least temporarily..... and despite my VERY best efforts, I could not get him to cum. I am sure no teeth were involved, as over the 40 min bj I wore blisters on my own top and bottom lip from where I was protecting him from my teeth.... I worked with one hand and or both hands on the penis as well, also teasing below the balls (I was afraid to try the nut-thumping thing, though!). I was into it and really wanted to pleasure him, but, honestly, I am sure I have never worked so hard with so little to show for it. There was one place where I thought he might be close, but it just didn't happen..... I had even re-read all of the "How to give good bjs" articles and posts and used those suggestions, too..... I would be really doubting my skills except that other guys I have been with have seemed to enjoy my talents.... Anyway, I do appreciate all the feedback and suggestions!

I don't have any great imagination, either - what works for me are just texts that let me know he is thinking of me in "that way", such as Hi sexy Hi gorgeous I want you right now Other ones I can think of which might work are: I need you I need to feel your mouth on me I need to feel your mouth on my (insert preferred body part here) Imagine my mouth on your (insert preferred body part here) Just tell him what you are thinking.... and wishing for..... and missing.

I have just had an incredible weekend of the most electrifying sex I have ever had in my life! My partner was highly skilled in what I would describe as nipple play, and really used the pleasure/pain connection to excellent advantage.... it was unlike anything I have ever experienced in my life. But the question is this: he tells me that on 3 different occasions, while sucking on the left breast, he tasted drops of a salty sort of fluid that he is certain came out of the nipple. It was just a drop or two at a time, not a big flow - and it was chilly in the bedroom, not hot at all, so neither of us think it could have been sweat. (It was not blood, either). The first time, my partner wasn't sure he was not imagining it, but the second and third times it happened he was sure of it. Now I have to add that I am in my early 50s and have not nursed a child in 25 years, so I cannot imagine what could be happening. Has anyone else ever experienced this or does anyone else know what it could be? I appreciate all suggestions, as I am at a loss to explain this very odd occurance.

]Well, I guess he didn't say that he didn't like it - he just said he had never cum that way! I'll have to ask if he enjoys it even if he cannot cum.... But I guess I want him to be able to cum, too...

I have a new boyfriend, great guy, very sexy - with the stamina of a bull, truly an energizer bunny type - he keeps going and going and going..... all of which is well and good and very enjoyable. However - he does not enjoy oral! He tolerates it, he'll let me kiss, suck, lick, whatever - but pretty much just lies there. He has told me that he has only cum once or twice this way in his life (and he is mid 40's, plenty experienced). When I asked him how he came those times, what was different, he could not really give me any feedback that I could use to replicate the experience, and does not really seem interested in having me figure out how to make it good for him. He is also very quiet - I hardly even know when he has cum, he does not give me any advance warning or talk to me at all during sex - which I really miss, I really like verbal feedback about what is happening. I am working on trying to get him to talk to me.... And of course I am pretty noisy - one time he even stopped and asked me if I was okay, lol! I didn't mean to scare him - it just felt good and I need verbal release as well as physical, if that makes any sense. Any ideas about why a man would not enjoy oral, and how to make it enjoyable for him? Thanks all - I have really missed the forums when they were down for updating!

Sooo..... you are talking about inserting these objects into the vagina? rubbing them on boobs or penis? Sorry, but I feel a bit dense and I am having trouble being creative - which is why I came to the wonderful people on this board!

Okay, boys and girls - what creative uses of food in the bedroom - with a partner - can you share? I need ideas beyond the typical chocolate paint and whipped cream....

Thanks for the follow up, ladylove and especially thanks to ohshelly. Ohshelly reinforced much of what I had learned through independent study on the web. Haven't met my irishman in person, yet - our planned meet this month got postponed, and he's in ireland for the summer - it will have to wait until he gets back in August/September. I promise a full report!!

That is somewhat different from what I had read when I was trying to get a handle on this. The articles I read said that the penis was more sensitive when usually covered by the foreskin, and that orgasms were quicker and more intense. Without the foreskin, the articles said that the head would be less sensitive since it is continually exposed to sensations. I guess we'll see! I am also interested in the question of whether sex feels any different from the woman's perspective - anyone with experience both ways care to share?

Thanks, dscn - I have done some more research and come to that same conclusion - I am not sure why I was so freaked out initially, I guess because it was a new thing to me - and it just looks so different from what I am used to. But help me with this: Do condoms just go on right over everything? Have you had any problems with them? Thanks so much -

Were condoms problematic because he wasn't circumcized or did it have to do with his size to begin with?

Thanks, for the reassurance, blueberry - you are probably right; maybe I am worrying too much about nothing - I just can't figure out how these practical things will work!! I have no experience with that body part - but I guess he's had experience with it before, LOL. And like I said before, I don't have any experience with this and it is waaaayyy outside my comfort zone. I guess I've lived a pretty white-bread kind of life up to now- spicy in the bedroom but all within a narrow type of man, I guess. And Irish is different on so many levels. I appreciate ALL responses and experiences with this -

Thanks, angelkisses - I am so happy that someone can help me here! I would have not thought of any of this. So.... the skin is attached near the head? See, I just have no idea how this works. Have you and your hubby ever used condoms? How does that work?