Ok, first of all, what a great site. Finally an educational site that can actually help people with relationships and sexual issues. Second, my wife and I are 29. We have been together for 8 years and been married 4. We don't have any kids but we will probably within the next 12 months, god willing. Our sex life is incredibly stale. We have sex 4-5 times per month and if you were to watch it on film, it would be like watching reruns. It's the same exact thing time and time again. When it comes to trying things new, my wife is resistant and not interested. She always says something like "let's just get the normal stuff down first". Since we both end up with end results we want, I would say that we have that part down pretty good. My wife has no kinks, fetishes, fatnasies, etc..., at least that shes willing to share. Its almost as if in her mind she has what is considered sexually morally correct and acceptable and what is not. She won't do anything or admit to anything that she would be embarassed to tell her friends about. Not that she would, but it seems as if she wanted to, she could get their seal of approval. With me, I am completely the opposite. I think the most erotic aspect of fetishes and kinks, is that you get to share them only with your lover. I get thoroughly arroused by the thought of doing things in the bedroom that I would be ashamed about if other people knew. It's a "secret" that only we share. When it comes to me, with the exception of being with another man, I will do/try/attempt/participate in anything. I belive that my wifes closed mindednest comes from some of the good qualities that she has. They are good qualities almost to a detriment. For example, my wife can not lie. She's the female version of Jim Carey in "Liar, Liar" If some asked her, "have you ever made your husband wear your panties out in public", she would have to say yes, and this would generate humiliation for her, so therefore she won't do it. I think a lot of her lack of willingness to try new things also stems from her upbringing. She was raised in a very conservative Catholic family. Attended catholic schools all the way till high school. Her family never showed each other emotion, never told each other that they loved them, never ever ever talked about sex. In fact, my mother-in-law tried to sit down with my wife when she was 23 to have "the talk". Sorry mom, but a little late. My wife isn't a total prude though. She has more toys and dildo's than a normal woman should have, although she doesn't use them nearly enough. we have done some things that have bordered on the line of kinky but not in a long long time. She'll watch porn anytime I suggest it. My question to the group is how do I get her to open her mind a bit or create an environment in our relationship where we would feel more comfortable to get outside her comfort zone to try new things? Things I would love to try would be light to medium bondage and submission (yes , I allready read the article, that's how I found this site), have my wife tell me to wear her panties out to dinner, video taping and pictures, etc. I am not asker her to screw the dog here. A females perspective would be greatly appreciated as I have found that many women have been through similar experiences in the past. Thanks for all your imput and advice in advance.