I had my first true bondage experience just last week while on vacation with Sir. Of course, there have been times before when whoever would simply hold or pin down my arms with theirs. However, Sir actually used real cuffs on me. I thought it was pretty fantastic--not just for the fun of being tied up, but because I then didn't have to worry about what to do! When everything is always feeling it's most extreme for me, I tend to do a lot of stretching and flexing--fearing I look more like I'm flailing than anything remotely resembling anything sexy. Well, with the restraints around my wrists, I could simply pull on them and enjoy the ride! So, I've been converted. Yay bondage! No more feeling bad for not always being the active one! After all, it's not your fault if you're tied up, right? Honestly, before Sir, I was quite hesitant about anything nearing the concept of BDSM because of previous rapes, etc., etc. But, fortunately, I don't have any trust issues with Sir. In fact, he knows he's perfectly allowed to bend and break all my levels of "comfort." Sex and its various styles aren't unhealthy. Rather, they can actually be quite healing. If you find the right partner, exploring different things may just be the tonic you need to overcome past issues. That is, if you're like me.