1) there may be a possibility that you don't give good oral (sorry, had to throw it out there) yeah i thought about this ALOT! we have talked about it and he says im good, but he just cant get off by it. He swears that he never has been able to. which he knows for me just means its a challenge. Sometimes he is into it, moans, directs my head, thrusts his pelvis, and tells me what he likes, what i should try, hes even asked for it a time or two (he sent me a lolipoop saying that i could have that now, or something better to suck on later...sorry had to add that in there it was cute) when Im down there he seems to enjoy it but never lets me finish him off. he says hes just never gets close. 2) he doesn't feel 'right' letting you do it (religious upbringing perhaps) and that makes him uncomfortable like i said in #1 he likes when i do it, he is in no way shape or form religious. 3) he gets off too quickly with it, doesn't want the sex to go to quickly actually i think its the opposite. Sex for us last about 2-3 hours. He pulls out a lot to last longer. Ive asked him how long he masturbates for and he says it normally last about 30-40 min(he again stopps because he gets bored, starts again) he has also confessed to using the blue pill before with me so i am not sure HOW long he naturally lasts. i have been down on him no longer than 30 min, he either stops me and pulls me into a position for sex, or switches for eating me out, we have done 69 a few times but again he never gets off. 4) he needs more, direct stimulation (do you use your hands?) I have used hands, breast, pop rocks, hot tea (his request) and all the technics that i have found searching the too timid (and other sites)... i have encorporated in toys, to which he has told me which ones he likes or would rather never see again. he and I talked again last night and i tried to explain that I love when he goes down on me, and asked him how it felt to feel ME quiver, hear me moan, and how it turns HIM on to get me to orgasm, then i switched and told him he isnt letting me do the same. He said hes sorry but he doesnt know what to tell me, hes never been able to get off by it, he said he knows im getting frustrated and would love to have a magic solution but he just doesnt get off by it. he comapred it to intercourse with me, I love the feeling when hes inside me but i cant get off by thrusting alone. Im a cliteral girl. He did say that the "that again" comment was due to him wanting me to come up with different sexual activities. He feels that oral is my "go to" act when i dont know what else to do... sigh.