Members KentJ Posted January 9, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2010 Okay, so how does one get a sexually conservative wife to loosen up? Will toys help? What toys, and how does one make the introduction? My challenge is that my wife and I are having the same sex that we had when we first started dating over 16 years ago. Now I have to say that we spend almost five years without a sexual realtionship. And it has only been over the past month that we have begun to have sex again...yes it has been a long time, but I am committed - or maybe I should have been committed for waiting for so long for her to "defrost" - to our marriage. Funny thing is that all of the women I dated - and I did have healthy active, creative, lust filled sexual relationships - were as voracious as I was when it came to sex. I thought that my wife was that type of woman. We started slow with petting, then moved on to oral, and then onto intercourse, so I thought this is great and will only get better as we grow with each other! Opps! Thoughts? Njoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 9, 2010 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2010 If she was a conservative as I was, bringing home a toy might either scare her or she'll think "people like us don't use these things". You have to S L O W L Y get there. After years of refusing sexual aid or porn at my husband suggestion I had finally taken the plunge by purchasing a sex positive game. Don't go for a play out your fantasy game right off the bat, start with something, a little tamer, that might prolong and enhance foreplay. My first game was "Hearts are Wild". Look around and see what you think might work for you. Is your wife on board with all this or your not really sure how she'll react. And take her away the first time you play it. A hotel room is less inhibiting and one feels freer to experiment. Keep us posted on your progress.**Once you open the door for us conservative women - WATCH OUT! it will take a while, but it will eventually be worth all your effort. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted January 10, 2010 Review Team Report Share Posted January 10, 2010 What about introducing her to this site, or would that be too much for her?Maybe ask her what she thinks could spice up the love-life. Don't let her think you are not satisfied but maybe ask her how you could make her more satisfied. Us women like for things to be our idea, or at least have the men in our lives make us think it was our idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members KentJ Posted January 10, 2010 Author Members Report Share Posted January 10, 2010 What about introducing her to this site, or would that be too much for her?Maybe ask her what she thinks could spice up the love-life. Don't let her think you are not satisfied but maybe ask her how you could make her more satisfied. Us women like for things to be our idea, or at least have the men in our lives make us think it was our idea. She is certainly not quite ready for this site yet; I do hope the day will come/cum! The truth is, I have asked her what she wants new, different. The only response I get from her is, "I loke what you do. You know what I like." She is just not able to "let go" yet...I guess if I have waited for more than 20 years, I just have to keep on waiting. That said, I thougt that maybe I could find something that might "peak her curiosity" to play outside of the lines without causing her to believe "it is a foul". I like the idea of a game, if I can get her to play. A nice dinner, and a couple glasses of wine with the ocean in the background may just work. Thanks for the suggestion(s) and encouragement, Njoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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