Members taylorblu Posted December 6, 2011 Members Report Share Posted December 6, 2011 my husband is uncomfortable with my sex toys while we have sex. i have never kept them a secret from him (i only have 2) and he has seen me use both of them (we had been drinking heavily though) how can i make him feel more comfortable without sending us both to rehab? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted December 6, 2011 Members Report Share Posted December 6, 2011 I think you have to have a frank talk outside the BDR when your sober. Uncomfortable as it maybe at first, it must be done. Then If adding toys to your together sex play is agreed upon it may take a while to be comfortable with it.... soldier on at some point it will become common play and fun without any of the awkwardness. Make sure you don't get tipsy every time you do use toys or it may never loose it's awkwardness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted December 6, 2011 Review Team Report Share Posted December 6, 2011 Some men seem to feel like if a woman uses toys, that means that he isn't able to satisfy her like he should - it is an ego-thing. Assure him that is not the case, that the toys are intended to be fun for both, but are not a replacement for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted December 7, 2011 Members Report Share Posted December 7, 2011 Yes, it sounds like he's worried that you will enjoy the toys more than him. We love to use toys during sex !! We don't use them all the time, but they are a nice addition. I think you should start by first using a toy on him. Take the focus away from yourself at first. Use a small vibrator, gently massage under his balls --up and down his shaft. Let him enjoy the feeling. Before you know it, he will be the one to initiate the use of toys into your playtime ! We have the We-Vibe II. It's a small vibrating toy that can be worn internally during sex. (It's flexible and horseshoe shaped--it fits in the palm of your hand ) It also has multiple speeds. Part goes into your vagina next to his cock and the other part rests on top of your clit. My husband cums TWICE every time we use it !! The downside is that it can't be used with condoms. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted December 11, 2011 Report Share Posted December 11, 2011 My hubby was against sex toys when we first got together. I made it plain and clear I had them, I used them, and yes, I LOVED them. However, after a couple of years of "boosting" them up, letting him know that they're for FUN and not to replace him, and then joining this site, after he saw some of the fun I was having, he wanted in too!!! ;) So, after a while, some test runs, and helping me test out some products, he became more and more comfortable with them. He's gone a lot, so he knows I can satisfy myself by getting something out of a drawer. He teases me and says that I have more toys, so he's not worried since I have a complete arsonault of satisfaction in the bedroom so I needn't go elsewhere! LMAO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 11, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2012 This is an interesting thread, as Ive never used a "Toy" of any type...Hell, Ive never even held a Sexual Toy before. Maybe I have lead a sheltered life after all... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 11, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2012 This is an interesting thread, as Ive never used a "Toy" of any type...Hell, Ive never even held a Sexual Toy before. Maybe I have lead a sheltered life after all...Sheltered???? Nooo, you've just become enlightened! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 11, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2012 Sheltered???? Nooo, you've just become enlightened! But, WE havent even practiced... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 11, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2012 But, WE havent even practiced...Well, practice does make peeerfect! What shall we practice first? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members alwayswet Posted January 11, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2012 Get something small to use during foreplay... start with something to tie each other up with (or even handcuffs)...Also, get him using creams and lubes! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 12, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Well, practice does make peeerfect! What shall we practice first?Well Professor, I am most interested in learning of these Toys many have discussed, please demonstrate... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 12, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Well Professor, I am most interested in learning of these Toys many have discussed, please demonstrate...Ok, what shall we start with first? Students choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 12, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Ok, what shall we start with first? Students choice.Bullets, You be the model, I'll follow your instructions on how to apply... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 Bullets, You be the model, I'll follow your instructions on how to apply...Oh, No No. We will use the bullet as suggested, but I believe the only way to learn is by actively participating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 Oh, No No. We will use the bullet as suggested, but I believe the only way to learn is by actively participating.Which were my thoughts exactly...you being the model, Id be the "Protege" following your guidance as to how to properly apply said "Bullets"... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2012 Which were my thoughts exactly...you being the model, Id be the "Protege" following your guidance as to how to properly apply said "Bullets"... sounds delicious.... however I think I'll make you experiment and when you hit the "sweet spot" I'll light up like a Christmas tree.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 16, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2012 sounds delicious.... however I think I'll make you experiment and when you hit the "sweet spot" I'll light up like a Christmas tree..I Love experimenting...This could take a while...I hope youre sexually patient...I have to know every minute detail Im exploring...Leaving Nothing un touched... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 16, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 16, 2012 I Love experimenting...This could take a while...I hope youre sexually patient...I have to know every minute detail Im exploring...Leaving Nothing un touched...Sexually patient.... I'll try my best. I may end up begging you, sometimes I can loose my patients, but I'll try. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 17, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 Sexually patient.... I'll try my best. I may end up begging you, sometimes I can loose my patients, but I'll try.Sexually Begging could be a turn on... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 17, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 17, 2012 Sexually Begging could be a turn on... I'l have to remember that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 18, 2012 Sexually Begging could be a turn on... More of a turn on if you are being begged or if you have to beg? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 19, 2012 More of a turn on if you are being begged or if you have to beg?Hmmm, Interesting...But I wont beg, or I havent Begged... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 19, 2012 Hmmm, Interesting...But I wont beg, or I havent Begged... joke:Q - What do jewish women consider to be foreplay?A - An hour of begging ()Lesson - never know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted January 20, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 20, 2012 joke:Q - What do jewish women consider to be foreplay?A - An hour of begging ()Lesson - never know Hmm, I am not Jewish... I missed the humor...As you said, we never know... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 20, 2012 Members Report Share Posted January 20, 2012 Hmm, I am not Jewish... I missed the humor...As you said, we never know...You don't have to be jewish to get it..... It just means Jewish women dont' want to have sex, so their man has to beg for an hour to get some.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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