Newbie last_kissed Posted July 8, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 It seems to take a lot of effort to get sexually aroused. Its been so bad that my hubbie and I will go months without having sex. He's in the mood almost all the time and I'm never in the mood. Is there anything that might help me with this problem of mine? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie lovewoman Posted July 8, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 It seems to take a lot of effort to get sexually aroused. Its been so bad that my hubbie and I will go months without having sex. He's in the mood almost all the time and I'm never in the mood. Is there anything that might help me with this problem of mine?I wpould like for sure to find out how to help you, my wife and I being married for 10 years we use to have sex all the time, every day. And on weekends more than once. Now is so hard for her to want to have sex becouse she is not in the mood, she even went to the doctor to see if she could get a pill or something and was trold that there is nothing for woman only viagra for man. I think it suck, I told her she needs to make and effor becouse I can wealk aroun all day with a hard on and I don't want to cheet on her. But I am loaded and I am affraid that iot may happen. We try porno and it seems to help, some times. I wish you find an answer. let me know... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Scout Posted July 9, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Goodness, Howard! You are truely a doll - I think you've said it all very well, hmmmmmmmm, very well in deed! In some cases, as Howard so beautifully put it, begins days in advance. Cards, flowers, phone calls - all suggestive, of course, can do wonders for a woman's self image and her libido. Being pampered is also wonderful - getting a baby sitter - going on a date - hubby doing the meal preparation - candles, etc....but you know why all this works - and usually works so well - simply because it tells her that you've been thinking about her and wanting to maker her happy - Foreplay - there can never be too much! Give her a full body message - kiss and suck on her toes and her fingers...yes, we all know what you want to do - but take the time to find out what she wants you to do, and then do it...I spent a day not too long ago with a friends daughter and two grandchildren. My friend's daughter never stopped moving the entire time - constantly up and looking after her two beautiful daughters. It made me think of how she would be feeling when she got home and finally got the kids to bed...totally exhausted, I'm sure, and if her husband was "in the mood"...could he blame her if she weren't?So...ladies - get the man in your life to really share the burden - if he knows why he's being roped into extra duty, he should do it gladly with a smile on his face! And you men, get up off your you know what and start taking care of your ladies...and have fun!Scout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie last_kissed Posted July 10, 2006 Author Newbie Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 I'll definately pass the ideas from everybody so far to my hubbie. I guess another part of my problem is that I've never been able to verbalize what it is I like and want. Another issue in planning ahead is that mine and my hubbie's work schedules never mesh very well. When I'm at work, he's at home or school and when I'm at home he's at work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Scout Posted July 10, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 I'll definately pass the ideas from everybody so far to my hubbie. I guess another part of my problem is that I've never been able to verbalize what it is I like and want. Another issue in planning ahead is that mine and my hubbie's work schedules never mesh very well. When I'm at work, he's at home or school and when I'm at home he's at work.DON'T GIVE UP! Yes! As Howard has stated - you must work TOGETHER to make this happen. And believe me, there is more than just a night of good sex at stake here- this is your life we're talking about. You want to have a good and happy marriage? Well, then become a participant, not a spectator - if it helps, sit down and write your husband a letter... tell him how you want to make him feel, and how you want him to make you feel, but sit with him while he reads it. And if it means that one of you has to call in sick, so that you two can be together to do some planning - then do it! No job, no school - NOTHING - is as important as your lives together...and you need to have that foundation of being together. You both must have a least one day off a week - take it and plan to take it together!Fight for what you want, girlfriend! Scout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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