Scout

From this woman's perspective - you are plenty big enough...not to worry. But trust me, there's so much more to all of this than your size - it's what you do with it, you lips, your eyes, fingers, arms, legs - the fact that you are separated from your wife makes all this much more difficult and when you do get together, I can only imagine that it's "Katie bar the door!"...but when you are together, take time to communicate - look at the websites together, read the toy reviews on this site...start off slow and work up...you are both young and have a life ahead of loving and giving...enjoy the journey - every second of it! If you're wife is wanting a toy to help ease her tensions while you are away - again bring her to this website, have her read the toy reviews - and try whatever appeals to her. She'll be doing it alone at first as you're occupied elsewhere...and in doing this alone, she'll learn more and more about her own body - what feels good to her, what she likes better than others...and when she can bring herself to orgasm time and time again, she'll be able to share that with you when you come home. And from this Texas girl - thank you for doing what you do for our great country...and please, please, keep safe! Scout

Oh, my - everytime is always sooooooooo good, it's hard to say which one was better - but I guess I'd have to say when we were in St. Louis - he had been invited to Purina Farms to be a part of a herding symposium and so I flew up to meet him in St. Louis. We stayed at a lovely hotel - way up high and could see the arch and all from our room...which was a suite, complete with separate sitting room - like who's gonna be doing any sitting, really! We'd been to supper with a lot of the other folks and the Purina people and I couldn't keep my hands off him (under the table, of course), so by the time we got back to the room, we were both so damned horney we were incredibly hot and ready! Tearing each other's clothes off - he threw me on the bed and we went at it - I couldn't begin to tell when one orgasm ended and another began - and then I squirted....WOW! That was the first time for me - and I couldn't believe I was even still on this planet! It was the most intense, incredible orgasm I had ever had and I'll always remember that first time. I'll also remember his laughing at me when I finally regained some consiousness - and asking if I liked that...ha! 'ya think? Scout

Favorite position? Hmmmmmm - well, they're all good. In reading some of the posts, I can sure tell I'm getting old - not quite as limber and flexible as I once was, but we do OK for being "old folks!" Still have to say that the old standby, Missionary, is my favorite - I guess cause we like to watch each other's expressions. He'll cup his hands over the top of my head so that he doesn't push me into the headboard! I also love doggy-style - especially, when I'm on my hands and knees on the bed and he's standing behind - talk about penetration - WOW! And G-spot stimulation? Whooooweeee! And the way he'll hold onto my hips, sometimes he'll bend over me, holding on to my shoulder to keep me steady while he slams into me. Oh! Heavenly! Heavenly! - then he'll fip me over and I'll be lying on my back with my legs over his shoulders, and then, look out - !!!! And spooning? You bet! Seems like almost all of our morning sessions start just like that...what a glorious way to wake up! :-)) Scout

DON'T GIVE UP! Yes! As Howard has stated - you must work TOGETHER to make this happen. And believe me, there is more than just a night of good sex at stake here- this is your life we're talking about. You want to have a good and happy marriage? Well, then become a participant, not a spectator - if it helps, sit down and write your husband a letter... tell him how you want to make him feel, and how you want him to make you feel, but sit with him while he reads it. And if it means that one of you has to call in sick, so that you two can be together to do some planning - then do it! No job, no school - NOTHING - is as important as your lives together...and you need to have that foundation of being together. You both must have a least one day off a week - take it and plan to take it together! Fight for what you want, girlfriend! Scout

Thanks so much for sharing - sounds like fun to me! Scout

Telecom - hats off to you. Sounds like you're doing just what needs to be done. It won't be easy and the road may be long with lots of bumps ahead, but persevere. It's hard for children, grown or otherwise, to accept that Dad has a new woman...and it ain't Mom! The fact that your ex is wanting to get back together now doesn't help the matter - and yes, heaven only knows what she's saying to the kids. Hopefully, she will have started to learn her lesson and be more guarded with what she says and does in the future. Be sure you tell her that there is NO future for her with you so that she is clear on that... And you will need to put your foot down every once and awhile. Your g/f is your special lady now and the children need to treat her with respect. When you think the time is right, include the kids in some outings...July 4th fireworks ( course that's past now ) - picnic at a park - or something outside where talking is OK...let them have a chance to get to know her and they'll soon see why you've picked her to be in your life. And take it slow and easy...lots of bruised feelings here and sore toes (from being stepped on)...I hope your daughter is recovering from this travesty in the same way you are. I'm proud that you've forgiven your wife, and that's a huge step - God willing that she has learned something from this...it's all well and good to have sexual feelings for someone, but each one of us always has the control to choose not to act on those feelings - especially when it is so completely against all laws of nature, of man and of good common sense! Good luck - be gentle and kind - Scout

Goodness, Howard! You are truely a doll - I think you've said it all very well, hmmmmmmmm, very well in deed! In some cases, as Howard so beautifully put it, begins days in advance. Cards, flowers, phone calls - all suggestive, of course, can do wonders for a woman's self image and her libido. Being pampered is also wonderful - getting a baby sitter - going on a date - hubby doing the meal preparation - candles, etc....but you know why all this works - and usually works so well - simply because it tells her that you've been thinking about her and wanting to maker her happy - Foreplay - there can never be too much! Give her a full body message - kiss and suck on her toes and her fingers...yes, we all know what you want to do - but take the time to find out what she wants you to do, and then do it... I spent a day not too long ago with a friends daughter and two grandchildren. My friend's daughter never stopped moving the entire time - constantly up and looking after her two beautiful daughters. It made me think of how she would be feeling when she got home and finally got the kids to bed...totally exhausted, I'm sure, and if her husband was "in the mood"...could he blame her if she weren't? So...ladies - get the man in your life to really share the burden - if he knows why he's being roped into extra duty, he should do it gladly with a smile on his face! And you men, get up off your you know what and start taking care of your ladies...and have fun! Scout

Mikayla ~ yes! I think the reviews are very helpful...your review of the Glittering G-Spot vibe sold me! I think you said it had you in orgasm in about 30 seconds. Well! I could have done that too, if I'd taken the time to read the directions when it arrived. But, Oh, no! I was in too much of a hurry - besides it's so pretty! Couldn't figure out how to get the battery pack out, get the batteries in - Arrrgggghhh! When finally I got that going correctly, I still didn't take the time to read the directions and figure out which buttons did what. But did I have an orgasm? Wow! like an earthquake! And each time I use this darling toy, it takes me to new heights of pleasure - and it has flashing lights - and the other evening, with it's lights flashing - it was like the explosions going off in my head or wherever - really added to the intense pleasure I was feeling! And yes, the real thing is always preferable - but the only thing this wonderful toy doesn't do is have arms to hold me and lips to kiss me...and believe me when it has me climbing that mountain...my fantasies can take me wherever I want to go and with whomever I'd like to have take me there! So, yes - keep up the good reviews! Scout

I think of whomever I'm thinking of...maybe it's my lover, or my ex-husband (who was always a great lover), or the man I'm talking to the phone who has me totally turned on - hmmmmm, wonder if he knows he does that to me? The wonderful thing about it is that we can fantasize with whomever - and make them any kind of lover we choose! Enjoy! Scout

I have to agree with Howard and Mikayla and the others...please don't think of yourself as ugly. Yes, when looking at the fashion models, actors, everyone that the media seems to think represent what we're supposed to look like, many of us are, well, let me just say, appearance challenged! But that's not what makes us who we are...it's what is inside. Sometimes, we need to take stock and decide what we would like to change about our physical features - and then take that step and make the changes. For me, it was weight - what? No one has ever been a bit "plump?" Ha! Bet me! But you know? I was not just a bit plump - I was very much overweight - what I enjoyed doing was becoming a chore because of the extra weight I carried - that was the real incentive. Now, 80 lbs lighter - I'm still a "big gal" but I'm proud of myself and proud of what I can do, physically. Most women my age would faint if they saw me in action - and most men my age - well, let's just say, my man loves having me work along side him. And the one thing I think that lets women know what kind of lover you would me, is that smile, the kind of smile that lights up your face - that says clearly how glad you are to see her - or to meet her. The way you talk, laugh with her, look at her ... those are the things that tell her you are a great lover. The way you tease with her, and how you play... Ever have any doubts about how Jerry Lewis kept his wife happy? I doubt that it was just his money...and there are so many others... Please, don't put yourself down...remember that we are all here for a purpose. I know it's sometimes hard to find what that purpose might be...but we will find it. And doing, as Howeard said, something that you enjoy, will put you in touch with others that enjoy the same thing...and the best way to meet someone is to have the same interests...and don't forget to smile! Scout

Hi all - well, there's not too much I can add that Mikayla and Howard and the rest haven't already covered. However, the ponts to remember are really quite simple once we slap ourselves around a bit - with all the added stresses of life, it is very easy to get into a rut of running here and there and rushing around just to take care of the process of living - and then we forget about loving, or wonder how can we possibly find time. Simple, we MUST always make time. And even if you don't want to join him in the shower - there's always that moment when he's out of the shower, most likely standing at the sink shaving. Well? What are you waiting for. My lover was standing at the sink doing just that, clad in his boxer (Oh! I do love boxers so!) and I simply put my arms around him and began kissing his shoulders, his back and as I moved down, it was so easy to gently start to pull his boxer down...of course, he knows me and he knows what I want - hmmmmmm, and he's never refused me yet! And he loves for me to initiate - yes, men, and you can admit it - they love it when they know they've got a hot blooded woman lusting after their body! Sometimes I get a bit of shaving cream on me - as we do a lot of playing - but I always get my orgasms - and belive me, nothing starts the day off better than that! I'll be thinking of ways to help him when he gets home, so that he has a chance to unwind, rest, and maybe catch a short nap - usually, I don't have to ask - he's the one wanting to continue where we left off in the a.m. And oh, by the way - we're both over 60 - and believe me, it just keeps getting better. Enjoy! Scout

Seems like this got a bit off topic at one point...and I apologize - I usually only have time to get on site on a weekend - what with working, commuting, farm chores and all - doesn't leave much time for browsing the site... Spitting or swallowing...My second husband gave great head, no he gave incredible head - and he was my first experience at receiving that - it amazed me that he was so willing to do that - without question - and that made me want to learn to pleasure him more - and swallowing was one of those little things that made him so incredibly happy...couldn't resist doing it all the time after that... Seems simple to me - if it pleasures your man, then why wouldn't you do it? Scout

I would enjoy that - especially when the SO is far away...it helps to visualize him there with me. Scout

Well, I'll add my 2 cents worth here - as a woman, I certainly do admire another woman with a great figure, including great boobs...my girls were once great...they're still DD's but without the aid of a bra, I'm afraid their looking straight South these days...but at 60+, I think that's where they should be. Would I like a surgical lift? You bet! Can I afford that? Nope! So, am I miserable with what God gave me? NOPE! My lover loved my girls, and especially loved how I loved it when he played with them. They still have all the same feelings they had when I was in my 20's - and just perhpas, I appreciate them more today than I did back then... Scout

Well, CL - don't know what I'm more envious of - tickets to see Smokey - or the 2 a.m. quickie! You're having a wonderful evening, anyway you look at it! Have fun! Scout

The only thing I can add is that the first time this happened to me, it was such a surprise, to both of us. I called it the "grandaddy of all orgasms"...and I thought I was peeing, because I felt this gush of fluid almost like a waterfall - or at least the sensation of a water fall...I know I was trembling all over - and the rush and intensity of feelings was just incredible. My lover was in such a position that he could not only feel what was happening, but see it too - and well, he lost it right on the spot...we lay there and talked about it for quite some time... Now I've read more about it and realize, like Howard has pointed out, what it's all about. I even asked my doctor, too - and she was very informative and even congratulated me...saying, and I totally agree with her, it just doesn't get much better than that! Besides, trying to achieve it is fun, too! But don't get lost along the way and forget to enjoy the process! Scout

I've never had an orgasm while giving my guy head, but it surely does excite me...so much so, that I won't allow him to go down on me while I'm doing him...just too much to concentrate on and I'm afraid if he started on me, well, just not a good idea while I've got his pride and glory in my mouth! I get so very turned on, hot and very wet...and if he cums - I love to swallow, every last drop. He loved that I did that for him. I never gave his back to him in the way you all are talking about, but when he'd cum inside me, he'd go down on me right after - so he'd get a mouthful of himself that way - and then he'd kiss me - so I'd get some of him and some of me, too! A nice way to exchange fluids I thought. I've never been interested in watching two guys or two girls...just not my thing. To each their own, I always say. I might like to watch one guy with one gal in a flick - that I can identify with - but much prefer the real thing. And I'd not want to watch anyone else "in person" - that's a bit too much for me. Call me old fashioned, straight or whatever - just give me a good, rock solid man - one who enjoys making and keeping me happy and satisfied - that's all I need! And please don't think of me as boring - cause I was never bored with my SO, and on most days, we had sex at least twice a day! Not bad for a couple of 55+ oldies but goodies! Scout

Chocolate and flowers? YOU BET! That'll work every time! - but my favorite - Oysters! I love those slimy little suckers... and adore eating them in the most sensual way possible. Lobster works well, too - remember the scene in Flash Dance when Jennifer Beals is eating the pieces of lobster? I think that could be a turn on to any man! My SO and I did one of those Valentine's Weekend specials at a hotel in Baltimore once...for starters, they had the most incredibly delicious array of finger foods (mostly good Maryland seafood) that we were to feed each other, licking up any of the drippings of course - that alone was very erotic... There are so many things that can heighten the senses - from soft aromas to low flickering candlelight, or the light of a fire in a fireplace... Scout

Ok, on the build up? Well, I'll admit - when starting up, my SO said I purr, little soft moans, just the feel of him next to me, his hands on me, and I start purring. Once we would start to get into it, I'm a moaner...but when I feel the build up beginning, I'll spread my legs wider, raise my hips up more (if I can), and then I'll start with the Ooooooh's, Oh-Oh-Oh's and "Don't stop, don't stop, don't stop"...My fists will be clenched or if I'm hanging on to him, which I usually am, he'll feel my grip really intensify. He would tell me that he'd get so much more turned on when I'd start saying "Don't stop" cause he'd want to give me even more, and he told me he'd feel my pc muscles begin to spasm and tighten...just the feel of my going into and having an orgasm was the greatest of turn on's for him. Seems like, too - and I think Howard mentioned something about this in a different post - the more in tune with each other we were, not only did the sex just get better and better - but even the quickies were better and more fun...we'd be laughing at the onset and still laughing, albeit a bit breathless, at the end. Scout

Orgasms - yes, Mikayla, it is wonderful that we can have them, period! And have them in so many varied ways...I, too, laugh - and I've had those real fits of laughter, from right down in my belly - and yes, I've usually had more orgasms, the harder and longer I laughed...didn't do it every time...and the first time that happened, it kind of surprised me which just made me laugh more! I'm a screamer - not a blood curdling scream, you understand, and I guess, I say a lot of "Oh's!" And when I can feel it coming on, I know I'm crying "Don't stop! Don't stop!" Or I've been know to cry out, "Yes! Yes! YES!" And dirty talk too...and whimpering, too...the first time I had a G-spot, squirting O - I know I was shaking all over, gurgling, crying out, hips pumping - almost like running a marathon...and when that happens, I'm really flying high...even the "little ones" just feel so very good... Sometimes, I, too, try to keep my breathing relaxed, trying to hold myself back...and invariably, he'd sense that and then just do whatever it is that he always did - and I'd be bucking and pulling up the sheets...and during intercourse, I've been known to place my heel on his butt and push! He really liked that... But I guess it's safe to say that I'm just not the silent type. There's no doubt that he's doing something right. I know he always liked that, too. Scout

Crazy - I'm with you. I think she needs to give a whole not more information. If my memory serves me correctly, isn't she not having intercourse? I know she's opposed to sex toys and thinks they (and probably the people who use them) should be banned, destroyed, buried at sea or whatever. So, if she's only doing oral sex - funny, I think one of our President's said that oral sex wasn't really sex...hmmmmmmm, and look where that got him! OK, joking aside - having your lover's body available to you is so incredibly erotic...ever thought of shaving your lover, or of washing your lover's hair? Have him sit in a straight backed chair...place nice, warm towels on his face, get out the 'ol shaving cream and his razor...sit on his lap, and start shaving his face, slowly and gently. When you done with that, again have him sitting in a chair with his back to the sink...gently pour the warm water over his hair, leaning over him so that your breasts are in constant contact with his face, as you gently message the shampoo through his scalp, running your fingers from his temples to the back of his head...and then, gently rinising the soap out. The key here is, keep all the movements slow and long...And if you both can get up and walk after all that - well, you're far better than I...when I did this to my lover...he never said a word...just sat there while I washed his hair, and stroked and messaged his scalp...and when I was done, he pulled me to him and held me and hugged me for what seemed like forever. No one had ever done that for him...and most likely most men are in the same boat. And Howard - well! you are quite some man...and you are so right - when you love someone...I mean really love someone - where they come first all the time...sex is never boring or dull. I could be putting the dishes in the dishwasher, and all the "ol man would have to say is something silly like, "you wanna mess around?" and my knees would turn to rubber. Just sitting and looking at him, watching him, the way he walked, his expressions, you get to where you know each and every thing about your lover and you end up just loving them more. And one day you realize that your orgasms are more frequent, stronger, better...and you're not doing anything differently...it just keeps getting better. There's not a single inch of him/her that you don't know and love - there are so many varied erotic spots, and addressing different ones each time you make love keeps everything you are doing fresh and exciting...comfortable and wonderful all at the same time. No, you don't need sex toys to have great sex...but they certainly help to spice things up - as Howard has reminded us so many times...sex is adult play time...and whatever you use or do to make it more fun...keep the laughter going...can't be wrong...and just makes it keep on getting better! Relax, have fun, laugh...and love...and you will enjoy! Scout

I'm sorry - but what turnip truck did she fall from? If I understand her correctly - she thinks that all women should NEVER use sex toys - that they're hideous, hurtful and just plain wrong. That Porn is awful and wrong and that all sites, shops, etc. that sell sex toys, movies, books, etc. should be closed. Excuse me? What the H--- is she doing on this site? And as an unmarried Christian woman, should she really be involved in any kind of sexual encounter? As a Christian, isn't she supposed to be saving herself for marriage? So, that means absolutely NO premarital sex... I take offense, obviously - Mikayla and Howard - you're both so very right. And please, don't judge me...clean the glass in your own house first. And do us all a favor - since you are not interested in expanding your knowledge of sex and how to pleasure yourself and your lover, take a hike, go to the grocery store - something, but hit the road sister...we don't need you here. Mikayla and Howard are both gracious and kind, as you can see - I'm a bit short on those virtues. I'm "a bit over 55" now and have discovered that sex is, to quote Shirley Maclaine's wonderful line in "Term's of Endearment" - "Sex is so fanfuckingtastic!" And when my lover is not around, or even if he is here, you better believe I love my little blue Dolphin - he's one of my best friends. He helps my lover catch his breath as Howard explained - and keeps me right on purring at the same time. What could possibly be wrong with that? I really do enjoy my toys - so does my lover - in fact, I wouldn't have a lover who didn't! Oh, well - this is I'm sure falling on deaf ears (one could only hope), but at least I feel better! Scout

Seduction - that's the key word here - that and the element of surprise! Once, I wanted to get my lover in a better mood - he'd been a grump for several days - so, I went to his place of work, left a rose under the windshield wipe of his truck...went back home, started fixing his favorite supper - took care of everything around the house that needed tending to...and then left a rose on the outside door...rose petals and signs with red arrows pointing the way upstairs...rose petals on the stairs...candles lit all over the place and ME in the middle of the bed holding a rose in my teeth... Believe me, by the time he started up the stairs, I could hear him laughing...when he entered the bedroom, he wanted to know if I was trying to tell him something - yeah, big boy...'ya think? Anyway, it worked - and we laughed, made love, I fed him supper in the bed - made more love - eventually ended up downstairs in front of the fire place - and made love again! Anything can become boring, if we let it - so, surprise him, send him flowers to his office - not many men get flowers sent to them. He may bitch, moan and groan a bit - but deep down, he'll be tickled! Send him love notes to his work...pretty soon he'll be enjoying trying to figure out what you'll come up with next! Good luck!

I agree with Mikayla...first of all, Perky, his age has nothing to do with it - unless that's in his head! My lover is 60...and takes boatloads of meds due to heart problems and multiple heart attacks and by-pass surgeries. And yes, he's had erectile malfunctions - twice I think, in over 4 years...the rest of the time, shall we say he was right on the spot - good, solid and hard as anyone would ever hope for! Weight shouldn't be an issue - unless he's gained enough to be 400lbs or more... But, like I said, I'm agreeing with Mikayla here - sounds like a stress issue to me...and also sounds like the two of you aren't doing enough talking. When we're dating, sex is the ONLY thing on our minds...and then after marriage, "life" happens, "kids" happen, "stress" happens...and sex takes a back seat. Will he agree to making a date with you at the local motel? Get out of the house, away from stresses - Heck! Take the day off work - ...if you have kids - get a babysitter- and maybe drive to the next town - and take a motel there... If he refuses to do that, then you've got some really serious issues to discuss - and with a therapist...and he needs to know clearly that you love him, but that this situation is unacceptable, and that you want to talk to someone who can help you... Good luck... Scout PS - 12 Gauge - unless you are intending to YELL at everyone, would you mind posting in lower case???