So She Wants To Be Spanked?

[JJ_Amie]

Alright, my wife has been reading books like "50 shades of gray" and other books about men spanking women. I didn't think anything of it. I mean just because she reads fiction about, didn't mean she was into it. All is well, I mean she even tried some new stuff and I thought it is cool. But then in some of our flirtations, she has hinted on a couple of occasions the need of a spanking. I brushed it off the first couple of times. She is provoking it too.

Now please understand, I come from an Ole South upbringing. Ladies are suppose to be treated as princesses. I still hold the open the door for her. I escort her as if we were still date. I still say yes ma'am and no ma'am to her. After 14 years of marriages and countless arguments, I have never called her a "bitch" or any ugly name. I have ran off people who have been disrespectful to her. I have never even dared raise a hand to her, she is precious to me. In my family and where I am from, you just don't hit women (if for no other reason than, its a good way to end up dead.)

I know that this wouldn't be the same as actually hitting her, I just need some guidance here. I guess you would say I have lived a sheltered existence as far as this goes. I don't think she wants to be humiliated or abused. I will be honest, I don't know what she is wanting. Any guidance would be appreciated.

[Joshua]

I totally get that. I too still hold the door and car door etc. In the experience I have with my wife of 10 years is that she just wants me to be a bit more forceful, rough, dominating. The things we do for our wives... I would suggest starting softly. I en as a pat casually, not in bed, to get yourself used to it but also let her know you are being sensitive to her desires. Work your way toward what you both feel is comfortable. My wife loves my big hands and it's a turn on for her to use them. Just keep open communication about it.

[bbarney]

I am the same way with my girlfriend, I would never do anything to hurt her intentionally (i say intentionally because there have been plenty of accidents where an elbow or leg goes awry) and I treat her as women should be treated, with respect and dignity. I love her dearly. However, that being said, in the bedroom when we both have communicated our desires and fantasies I know I can be a bit rougher. We both thoroughly enjoy spanking (giving and receiving on both ends) but when I spank her, I don't do it to hurt her, I do it for the erotic sense of it. Communication is obviously key, and if she has a certain comfort limit and yours is more relaxed or more restrictive than hers you will need to make sure there is a very open line of communication. As long as you can communicate, there shouldn't be any issues. Trust me, if she wants a spanking and you end up giving it to her, it is nothing like slapping her across the face, there is an actual pleasure to it. Role play in the bedroom is a lot of fun!