Members Lonely and divorced Posted May 3, 2022 Members Report Share Posted May 3, 2022 When to throw in the towel.☀️ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonely and divorced Posted May 3, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted May 3, 2022 Recently I’ve chatted with other members who are in sexless marriages. They want to throw in the towel.It is my belief that marriage and parenting are the two toughest jobs in the world. Yes life gets in the way. That’s where communication comes in. You have to have that or you have nothing in my view. Medical issues can come into play. That’s where patience and kindness come into play. See a doctor or several exhausting all measures to rule that out. Lastly it takes Two. You can try therapy , role playing remembering why you fell in love in the first place, a vacation or perhaps a weekend apart. Then and only then would I say it’s time.. COMMUNICATION is key. However if the person has fallen out of LOVE with you it’s too late. You can’t make someone fall in love with you. I hope my message helps someone. One other thing TOTAL HONESTY between both of you.Sorry plus TRUST. Otherwise in my opinion it can’t be saved. My ex was a manipulative, very self-centered man. I stayed for too long thinking he would change. We did therapy but if they aren’t willing to be honest with a therapist; they won’t be honest with themselves or you. You can’t fix a person nor change them. You can only change how you react.Like I said I stayed too long and it cost me TIME to enjoy life which I can’t get back. Thank you, Lonely and Divorced ☀️ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonely and divorced Posted May 3, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted May 3, 2022 One other thing.Everyone needs a friend to talk to when they are going through a rough patch. However, Never bring a third party into the mix. Trust yourself and a licensed professional. They may have ulterior motives or give you the wrong guidance.☀️ 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Katie Did It Posted May 7, 2022 Members Report Share Posted May 7, 2022 I’m going through this now. I like my husband fine enough but so I love him any more? I’m not sure. I’ve tried so many times to rejuvenate our marriage but it seems very one sided. Not that he doesn’t care, because I think he does, but he is selfish and doesn’t know how to put in the work. I guess time will tell. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonely and divorced Posted May 9, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted May 9, 2022 Sorry you’re going through it Katie Did It. I went through it myself . I feel for you.☀️ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Katie Did It Posted May 12, 2022 Members Report Share Posted May 12, 2022 On 5/9/2022 at 2:23 PM, Lonely and divorced said: Sorry you’re going through it Katie Did It. I went through it myself . I feel for you.☀️ Your advice is very insightful. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonely and divorced Posted May 12, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted May 12, 2022 Thank you Katie Did It. I really hope things work out for you.🙏☀️ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonely and divorced Posted May 12, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted May 12, 2022 Thank you Jennifer.☀️ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tiptaste Posted August 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted August 22, 2022 We struggled with the sex part until 2008 when I was told that it was never, ever going to happen again. Sex was for having kids and we're done with that. After arguments, counseling, etc., she told me in a heated argument that I should just go get it from someone else (actually mentioning our friend who in the "olden" days we were particularly friendly with and who we used to vacation together with her husband. Skinny dipping.....the whole deal). She even said she had already talked to our friend. So the deal was that I wouldn't bring anyone home, any disease home or do anything in public that would embarrass her. It's been like that ever since. NOT what I was looking for but having such a violent reaction to even telling an adult joke or telling her how sexy her dress looked on her was totally and complete opposite from how our relationship began. Not sure how it got like it did, but that's her personality and I'm not sure that all the other great things about her are things I'm willing to give up. But not having intimacy...not being allowed to sleep in the same bed, or in the same room...even on a trip in a hotel....I'm not OK with that. She turns the tv off if an intimate scene comes on. Just not what I thought I'd be dealing with at this point. That being said, I have a number of friends from a variety of walks in life that I can enjoy intimacy with and that's how we got over it. Not exactly throwing in the towel, but conceding some things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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