Members TabooJ Posted June 21, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 21, 2022 Hi everyone. Married guy here at a bit of a crossroads with some decisions. I feel very out of my element so bare with me. I had a rather uncomfortable discussion with my wife some time back. Before our engagement we had a break up of about 3 months. During that period I did what most young guys do which is turn to another woman for what on my end was just pleasurable sex. At the time my wife found out about it through mutual friends. Due to the social media era she found out who she was and that was that. Years later and happily married she ended up having business contact with her. She didn’t hold it against me but she was clearly irritated nonetheless. Out of that she “came clean” and admitted she was carrying on with someone while we were broken apart. Not a big deal other than she had sworn up until that point she was with no one else. Not a hypocrite and not a big deal. I don’t think the details are necessary but one wine filled evening she volunteered and I asked about him and then. The details were a little shocking but I admit I got off to it. This particular interest of hers actually spawned role playing and very passionate sex amongst other habits like occasionally enjoying porn. The role playing and habit built and built and eventually we talked about me watching her. Again details not important it was watching her with another guy. We balked initially but eventually set it up. Although awkward at first it ended up being a great experience. When we have sex my wife needs to toys to assist and maybe has an orgasm or two. That first time around and the few times after I’ve watched my wife seemingly have one continuous orgasm with the guy and go crazy. My wife is hesitant to admit it but all indicators show she wants it more frequently. She’s admitted shes nervous about it changing to a typical thing and afraid of what I’ll think or if my opinion of her will change over time. Im nervous as well but above all prefer watching her and him because sex with her after is great due to the build up. Id like input of the experiences anyone has had with this, both good and bad. Also if there’s any big issues to think of or get out ahead of other than the obvious. My wife has also discussed wanting to experience others outside of this guy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TabooJ Posted June 27, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted June 27, 2022 On 6/24/2022 at 11:05 AM, Starving said: My wife and I have been married a long time. A few years back our car broke down and We actually broke down in this man’s driveway. The next thing I knew which took awhile to find out was that she was going to his house while I was working 3rd shift and having sex. My wife eventually told me and said she had to have both of us At the same time! I called the guy and agreed to this but he wanted me to watch him have sex with her and he wanted to watch me have sex with her and also wanted to do threesomes. He said he would start on one end and me the other and meet in the middle! This never did happen however and my wife stopped seeing him and told me she didn’t think he was clean and wanted me to be tested for STDS which I did and turned out negative! I was glad! I don’t know if this helps or not! I wonder how it would have been watching them have sex or him watching us! I guess there can be issues with a relationship like this. I know my wife hasn’t mentioned anything else about having another situation like this and I haven’t either! My wife says she has a desire to be watched secretly while having sex! Thank you! So far so good @Starvingbut we will see. I thank you for your input. I enjoy watching and she enjoys the sex and me watching. I don’t really have an interest in joining in as I’d prefer to watch. Just imagine there are pitfalls besides the obvious to look and listen out for or even how far is too far. We both want to keep a semblance of our life while being fulfilled physically at the same time. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ClickClack Posted July 6, 2022 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2022 I found out all kinds of things after a major argument that almost ended our marriage. We decided to fight for our marriage. We opened up about EVERYTHING. Found out, wife likes bondage, now I enjoy it also. I'm into nylons, sexy lingerie and oral sex, long sessions of foreplay. Today our marriage is stronger than ever. Not to mention our sex life is awesome, playful and adventurous. That's my two cents 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tiger48 Posted July 6, 2022 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2022 19 minutes ago, ClickClack said: I found out all kinds of things after a major argument that almost ended our marriage. We decided to fight for our marriage. We opened up about EVERYTHING. Found out, wife likes bondage, now I enjoy it also. I'm into nylons, sexy lingerie and oral sex, long sessions of foreplay. Today our marriage is stronger than ever. Not to mention our sex life is awesome, playful and adventurous. That's my two cents Thanks for sharing that. Happy for you both Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Katie Did It Posted July 6, 2022 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2022 24 minutes ago, ClickClack said: I found out all kinds of things after a major argument that almost ended our marriage. We decided to fight for our marriage. We opened up about EVERYTHING. Found out, wife likes bondage, now I enjoy it also. I'm into nylons, sexy lingerie and oral sex, long sessions of foreplay. Today our marriage is stronger than ever. Not to mention our sex life is awesome, playful and adventurous. That's my two cents Sound advice. We are at a fork in our marriage. Honesty and communication will be what will take us along the same path. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ClickClack Posted July 6, 2022 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2022 8 hours ago, Katie Did It said: Sound advice. We are at a fork in our marriage. Honesty and communication will be what will take us along the same path. It's ironic how something that almost tore us apart, brought us closer together. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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