Members Kbaby Posted December 27, 2006 Members Report Share Posted December 27, 2006 o.k. this is my dilema: I have a guy I am very interested in and he seems to be equally interested in me, but my question is this, is being overy available a downside? I don't like playing games and I tell this guy exactly how I feel about him. I adore him, I am so sexually attracted to him and anytime he contacts me I respond.....I think about him all the time and I'm not sure if being so available to him is the wrong way to go. He seems to be o.k. with it, but I don't want to seem desperate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted December 27, 2006 Members Report Share Posted December 27, 2006 I am a firm believer in being authentic. I think people play too many games when a relationship is starting. They either pretend NOT to be interested to draw the person in; or they come off too needy and take things too fast so that the person will KNOW that they are interested.My best advice, pick a happy medium. If you are interested and attracted to this guy, let him know. However, do not go picking out baby names and wedding announcements! Just be true to your feelings and the rest will follow. I have always believed that real men - men who are secure - are not turned off by secure, assertive women.Good luck!Mikayla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members hrnychick Posted January 11, 2007 Members Report Share Posted January 11, 2007 Have to agree with the above posts. You have the right to let him know and the right to know. If its meant to be it will be. There is too much wasted time with people playing "games" in relationships.....I mean we aren't back in high school here. As adults we should know what we want and feel free to say so. Like Mikayla said, find that happy medium and go from there. The rest will fall into place. I don't believe in rushing into things, but I do know when you know, and you feel it, then its right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kbaby Posted January 13, 2007 Author Members Report Share Posted January 13, 2007 thank you all so much for your responses...I really appreciate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted January 14, 2007 Report Share Posted January 14, 2007 How did I miss this one? Well, I hope you were able to tell him how you feel at least?I totally agree with the NO GAME PLAYING thing. I think games have a tendancy to backfire, and people don't see each other for who they truly are.As far as being too available, yes, you can appear that way, especially if he's calling, and you answer it when it doesn't even ring once, hang on every word, and totally fall over yourself when he's around. Some guys like that, but most don't. Being available and appearing desperate are 2 different things.I would, however, be honest with him....to a point. Just tell him that you're very attracted to him, without going into details (those can be saved for later, if you 2 should happen to give it a go). See where it goes from there.Best wishes and good luck!! I hope it works out for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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