Members coleyjames Posted April 23, 2007 Members Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 i know that masturbation is normal for everyone and i do it myself, but the other night i couldnt sleep so i went down our hallway and from there i can see the computer and saw my fiance getting off, looking at porn, i have never walked in on him before, and for some reason it still bothers me and i dont know why, i had wanted to have sex that night and he said that he wasnt in the mood, and was also in a hurry for me to go to bed, so i guess i was surprised to see it, we have watched porn together in the past, i am pregnant and have gained lots of weight so far, and feel very insecure lately about how i look, so maybe i was just jealous, i dont know, i just dont know why i cant get over it, sorry about all this babbling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted April 23, 2007 Members Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 Ok first, you have to remember that for men (and some women) sex and masturbation are COMPLETELY different. The fact that he was viewing porn and masturbating really has little to do with you. Men can cum much quicker solo then they can during sex. Especially since sex takes foreplay and their concern over what you are feeling, etc. Men sometimes just want a no hassle, quick orgasm. That is most likely what your man was after that night. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with you any longer, it is just the type of sex he was after that night.I understand why you are upset - many women have this view. If I was WILLING to have sex, why did he have to go LOOK at OTHER women to get off? Do not be upset. Unless your man does this ALL the time, neglecting you, then it really is not his intention to hurt you. If it does really bother you, then talk to him about it. Unfortunatly, many men have trouble expressing this concept, even though they know they do it.Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted April 23, 2007 Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 My husband has pretty much said, verbatum, what Mikayla said. Sometimes, he'll masturbate in the shower (about the only private place around between our daughter and pet's eyes!! LOL), just for that quick release. Even while I'm awake!!If it continues to be a trend, and he becomes more neglectful, then I would talk to him about it. Otherwise, most men do masturbate, even if they have a willing partner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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