Orgasm Problem

[roche0823]

I'm 18 and I get no pleasure from sex.. me and my husband have been married for a year. I don't even get turned on.. I love him and having sex with him but i have only had one orgasm and that was with a vibrater... Its sort of like im not sensative anymore we have talked about it and tried many things.. he feels like its his fault and i'm scared that i can't have them and something is wrong with me.. please help give me clues on what to try.. We were both virgins and unexperianced when we got married too...

[Chris4u]

You kind of answered your question, partially.

I can think of several reasons why you have a problem, of course they may all be wrong or some may hold true.

I wanted to say lack of experience right off the bat, but you've been married for a year, so you may get it often enough.

Your attitidue towards sex may be holding you back. It seems that perhaps you find sex to be a burden you perform for your husband and not yourself, for you have established in the back of your mind that he cannot make you climax. With this lingering in your mind, you hold yourself back from allowing your body to feel such pleasures and thus have a poor sex life.

This is all purely speculation, I'm not saying you are definetly a victim of these, but it's possible.

Perhaps you need foreplay, infact if you don't already, then I strongly recommend it.

Some suggestions:

1. postitive attitude (this will make you feel better and your husband will sense it and may feel better about himself)

2. foreplay

3. watch a porno with each other, see what feelings take over you

4. experiment with many positions, not just the basics

5. oral before and afterward (if needed or so desired)

Some girls need more or different techniques to climax. You'll get there sooner or later, just be patient and once you do experience it I think you'll have a much easier path towards it in future bedroom encounters.