A Mans Second Orgasm

[HappilyMarried2]

Ok peeps! You people have GREAT IDEAS.. I just can't log off I am so curious as to your help!

How do I get him hard after the first orgasm? I always want more, but he says he can't get it up again. I have gotten him hard again a couple of times, but he wont have sex. I talked to him about it the other night and he said he doesn't want to "fail" me if it goes limp. We tried to have sex one time in the morning, and it went limp while he was inside, he felt horrible! Then I felt bad for him. He said he didn't feel manly when he couldn't keep it up! I thought about putting a porn in the second time to get him aroused but if we are uncomfortable with that (the kids having sleep overs not knowing if they are all staying in their rooms, or if we are away from home and can't put one in), what to do then? Man, I am almost 32 and you would think I knew not ONE thing about sex. I feel so stupid, and certainly not much of a woman that I don't know what works well for my man. Any help out here?

[Mikayla1]

Howard is right....perhaps a little nap might do him good, or, if you can't wait and you want to go again, take a sexy shower together. If you are in the shower cleaning up he will be revitalized and he can soap you up and you can do him, then you cango and give his penis a little attention...soon what do you know..he is ready again!

Or, if you aren't in the shower mood, you can try using a vibrator on yourself in front of him while he rests and let him watch...this will hopefully get him going again as he sees how ready you are, and if not you will still get yours!

Try that!

Mikayla

[HappilyMarried2]

If he went soft in you, its probably because he is physically tired. Was he on top both times? It takes a lot of strength to hold yourself above a woman on her back, and then move your hips back and forth to push your cock into her vagina and pull it out again. With that physical exertion, and the release of tension in the body when one climaxes, it should not surprise anyone that he is tired. Maybe when he was 18 he go for hours, but not in his thirties. Give him a break. For the second course, why not you be on top. It give him a chance to rest,  It gives you full control, and the only muscle he has to work is the one holding his erection.  YOu have all the fun of being in control, and he gets to watch and play with you while you do the work. If he still gets soft, let him take a nap, for say, a half an hour. That will be enough for him to restore his vitality, and be ready for round two. Don't put pressure on either of you to perform. This is suppose to adult play. Don't make it work. If he still can't get it up, he should be checked out by a urologist and a heart specialist to see if there is anything organic that may be causing him to fail. If not, you can try using the cock rings to keep him hard during the second course. 

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Ok Howare, that all sounded good if that is what I meant. I guess I said it wrong. He can get it up for the second time, but he will not attempt to TRY again. He went limp ONE TIME, and many factors were in that. I caught him right as he was leaving for work (the pressure of being late) he had just taken his medication (pain killers for his back problems) and the kids were due to get up. So I understood those pressures, and even though he felt bad, I felt bad for HIM, but not that we didn't do it, I understood.

NOW, I will get him physically aroused, but mentally he is not there. It is almost like "I got mine, I gave you yours, isn't that enough?". Sometimes it just isn't. I have tried putting in a movie about an hour after we did, and as mikayla said, I tried playing with myself, and although that turns him on, it only turns him on to the point that he knows I need more, so he just pleases me by oral. How do I get him ready for actual penetration, MENTALLY? I must have been unclear about the physical, because I don't have that problem of getting him physically ready, JUST MENTAL. And even though he is ALWAYS so good to please me orally (he will do that all night if I need it) It hurts that I am not sexual enough to get the whole thing again, like he has no desire to please me that way. I can get myself off 50 times a day, I don't need him for that, but I do need him male companionship for my other needs, how do I get him excited again?

HM2

[HappilyMarried2]

Have you told him what you just wrote? Not in bed, but when you are alone, where the kids won't interrupt, and the two of you can talk about your sex life, and the rest of your relationship. You do talk to each other about sex, don't you? Ask him what his problem is having sex?  Is he afraid of not staying hard? A lot of men live with an intense paranoia of going limp when they are making love. It puts such stress on them that it makes the event happen! But its all in his head.  Is he in good physical shape? If he has put on 50 lbs that he doesn't need, it will affect his stamina in the sack. Same for the meds. Check with his doctor, or any pharmacist to get the low down on side effects of the drugs he is taking. Low back pain? Give him a massage as part of your foreplay. Does he not let you give him a Blow job after his first climax? If not, what is the difference in coming in your mouth or your vagina for the second or third orgasm? If he is giving you head, you certainly are giving him a blow job as part of foreplay or sex, or both, no? Take his cock in your hands, and don't let go. Get him hard and then play with him, his balls, his ass, whatever makes him lose control and have another orgasm. And, of course, always consider letting him take a short nap between bouts. You should be on top the second time, for sure, if he has chronic low back pain. There is only so much strain the back and back muscles can take, and then they sort of control how active you can be for the next 12 hours. Or, gain insertion and then roll on your sides, so that both of you can rest, and the movement involved is minimal. By the time you have had a couple orgasms, from foreplay and the initial intercourse, your nerve endings should be sensitive enough to not require the hard driving thrusting he may have done to get you to your first climax, No? Rocking your hips while on your side allow you to kiss, to play with your hands( tickle him to get him to stop taking it so seriously) , talk to each other about what your sex organs are feeling, etc. And, you can always roll on top, or pull him on top of you when you feel your climax nearing. 

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Thank you Howard, the only think I guess I haven't put 100% into of what you said, is the talking part. I am afraid if I talk about it too much, he will become more paranoid. I guess he is a "differen't" type of man. He is more capable of cumming when he is control. He likes me on top for the first orgasm because that is how I cum the quickest, and he likes to cum together, however, he typically likes to be in control. That is my problem with him. If his head (the one resting on his neck) HAHA... would stop worrying so much, we might be ok. He GETS HARD.. NO PROBS! It is getting him to ATTEMPT sexual intercourse AFTER HE IS HARD that is a prob, he wont even attempt so that we CAN find a way that works. Hell I would be totally ok with 14 times him going limp, if we just found that ONE way that it worked. I don't always want a second time ya know, but it would be nice to have at least ONE option, for the times I did.... Well, again, thanks for the input, we might just have some talking tonight... thanks