Members Greathouse Posted May 30, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2008 This my sound a little stupid but I am needing a little advice.This is my third marriage, I am 38 and my husband is 23. On my other two marriages they was like lay there and keep your mouth shut. Well this marriage my husband likes the thought of me dirty talking him. Here is the stupid part I am not sure where to begin or what to say. I was my husbands first so I don't want to do anything to keep him from sharing things with me. I love the fact of trying new and different things. I think it is because I do feel comfortable with my husband. I know he won't laugh at me or make fun. He knows I had enough of that in the other two marriages. He even made me learn to be more aggressive which I wasn't in the other ones, I was told that was something women just didn't do. Boy was they wrong. So any help would be greatly welcomed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Twist Posted May 30, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2008 I'm "learning" to dirty talk at the moment too. What I've found helpful is replying to my partner, even if it's only a tame reply in comparison or an agreement to what he's saying, it gets me used to conversation and the sound of my voice while we have sex.Also I think there are some basics of dirty talking which aren't so daunting to say, such as telling him how good it feels, or tell him one thing you want him to do, or one thing you want to do to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted May 30, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2008 I started with the basics, harder, deeper faster etc. then it grew into more of telling him how i liked what he was doing to what i wanted him to do to me, Sometimes juts calling his name is a good place to start (if you don't already). Anything you say will make him feel good, moans, groans, whimpers, sighs, he'll eat it all up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members angelkisses98 Posted May 30, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2008 well...do you say things like baby you feel so good to him now? if you do then just add a word..say oh baby your C(*&K feels so good. little things like that.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted May 30, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2008 This my sound a little stupid but I am needing a little advice.This is my third marriage, I am 38 and my husband is 23. On my other two marriages they was like lay there and keep your mouth shut. Well this marriage my husband likes the thought of me dirty talking him. Here is the stupid part I am not sure where to begin or what to say. I was my husbands first so I don't want to do anything to keep him from sharing things with me. I love the fact of trying new and different things. I think it is because I do feel comfortable with my husband. I know he won't laugh at me or make fun. He knows I had enough of that in the other two marriages. He even made me learn to be more aggressive which I wasn't in the other ones, I was told that was something women just didn't do. Boy was they wrong. So any help would be greatly welcomed.I have really gotten into this lately. Yes, tell him what you like during and sometimes I will whisper in his ear remember that time you did.... whatever and go from there. Tell him how you love his lips, tongue, where you love them... his hands on your body, How his hard cock feels in your pussy/mouth etc... I also find, telling him when I am going to cum he loves to hear it. Using a little vulgarity can be hot too. He likes when I tell him to fuck me, harder etc. Last night I asked him if he could feel how aroused I was while he was inside me and he enjoyed that . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted May 30, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2008 I also find, telling him when I am going to cum he loves to hear it.I don't know of any man who doesn't love to hear those words coming from his lover.It's a major turn on for me anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Greathouse Posted May 31, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted May 31, 2008 Well it sounds like I am already half way there. Maybe I need to watch more of his porn tapes he likes. I watched several but never really paid attention to the words lol . Thanks for the help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members coco_luver Posted May 31, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 31, 2008 iwould like my wife to do it, just because i want to know whats she wants an how she wants it. my plans in bed r sometimes not hers so its nice to know what she wants. so you both can get the max out of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted May 31, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 31, 2008 I have been messing with this some lately. We had talked and he told me that he would love for me to be more expressive. When I think about it I am like ya no problem, but then when we get down to it I freeze. At times I am fine with telling him how hard, how good he feels and things like that. Then other times he will ask me say what position or things like that and as he puts it I get this goofy look on my face and I clam up. My brain tends to interject instead of letting me enjoy the momeny. We are working on this. At times I do find it easier. It is kind of a sometimes here and sometimes isn't thing. I love being able to share these things with him. I just wish I wouldn't clam up sometimes that is what I have to work on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mystofpric Posted May 31, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 31, 2008 Yeah it happens. Like I can tell you want I want on here, in a text or in person but I'm terrified of phone sex. I think it's not so much the script that he's looking for but your encouragement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted May 31, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 31, 2008 This is one of those hurdles that I've been slow jumping....grew up with that "don't let anyone think you're a whore" schtick rammed down my throat, but thank goodness all that bull is being shed like old snake skin these days. I've found it's been really helpful having those major intense solo sessions...you let yourself just really get into the fantasy and before you know it you're spouting stuff that you've never let loose with before...it's amazingly liberating and then from there it's just an easy transition to letting it out with your partner! So much hotter than just thinking it to yourself and I can't imagine a man not liking it....if he doesn't I'd have to worry about him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted May 31, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 31, 2008 This is one of those hurdles that I've been slow jumping....grew up with that "don't let anyone think you're a whore" schtick rammed down my throat, but thank goodness all that bull is being shed like old snake skin these days. I've found it's been really helpful having those major intense solo sessions...you let yourself just really get into the fantasy and before you know it you're spouting stuff that you've never let loose with before...it's amazingly liberating and then from there it's just an easy transition to letting it out with your partner! So much hotter than just thinking it to yourself and I can't imagine a man not liking it....if he doesn't I'd have to worry about him!Totally agree with Chloe...this is something you can practice, like giving a speech or standing before an audience. Practice these words to yourself...just saying pussy out loud can daunt anyone. Pleasuring yourself while you're at it just makes it feel better. Stand in front of a mirror and say all the words you can think of, then practice them. Do this alone until you can say them with a straight face to your partner. It is hard to get over the idea these are "dirty" words...but they are actually just different descriptors. Write down all the words that you can think of and practice them. Trust me...it's like giving a speech. At first you're scared to death, but it ge's easier each time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted June 1, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 1, 2008 I just recently crossed the phone sex hurdle. While he was away on business about a week or so ago. He started with iming me while I was at the dinner out with friends of mine and he got increasingly descriptive. Finally I told him I was leaving if he wanted we could talk then. So I went to an empty parking lot near the diner and we did it there for about 45 minutes or so. It was the first time I did. At first I was very nervous then once it started flowing I was fine and enjoying it quite well.You have to understand my other relationship was very boring. No toys, one position only, lights out and it was over in less than 15 minutes from foreplay to end. It was really sad....so I was very scared and nervous when I started relations with my SO as I had only been with that one man.Needless to say I am loving it now. My eyes are very wide open and loving life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Greathouse Posted June 1, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted June 1, 2008 This is one of those hurdles that I've been slow jumping....grew up with that "don't let anyone think you're a whore" schtick rammed down my throat, but thank goodness all that bull is being shed like old snake skin these days. I've found it's been really helpful having those major intense solo sessions...you let yourself just really get into the fantasy and before you know it you're spouting stuff that you've never let loose with before...it's amazingly liberating and then from there it's just an easy transition to letting it out with your partner! So much hotter than just thinking it to yourself and I can't imagine a man not liking it....if he doesn't I'd have to worry about him!I can also relate to that I heard it from my parents grand-parents and the other two exes. I thought about it alot then for some reason one day it came to me, that if they wanted to call me a whore then fine. I would be the best whore or slut my husband could have lol. That believe it or not helped alot. That was about the same time we started playing with toys. So now I try my best to find new ways to drive him crazy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted June 13, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 13, 2008 Tell him what you are feeling physically and ooh how great it is: "I love how you cock feels when it gets deep into me."Or tell him what will happen if he does you right: "If you keep on thrusting that way I'm going to come all over your thick, hard, cock."Or ask him something like: "Can you feel me getting wetter & softer with each stroke? Can you, Can you really? Know why? Coz I really dig your cock & what you are doing."OK it sounds like a porn script. But think about it. Why does porn turn you on? Because of its lustiness.Fantasies are good too. If you say to him "When I come I am going to climb on your face and gush all over you." Its going to drive him nuts. Or "Baby when you come please shoot on my tits" you will start his sperm launching right there.It doesn't have to be true, it has to be bawdy. Even if he knows you don't really want cum of your face, just the imagery in his mind for a minute will add a little bit of nasty that we men like from time to time.OK have you been spying on us? Just kidding, reading that turned me on a little... um, yeah I must admit! FYI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sbayhylle Posted June 14, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 14, 2008 I have to say that I never knew how hot talking dirty would get me or my husband until he deployed and all we CAN do is talk. Thank God for Yahoo instant messaging and Skype!!! I used to be unable to use words like pussy and cock and would often say vajayjay and dick. OMG! I started using the words pussy and cock in the right context and it drives him wild!!! I tell him what I wish he was doing to me AND what I want him to do when he gets home. I think now I'm more comfortable with it and will use it often when he gets home. If you and your husband have access to computers, why don't you try IM'ing dirty talk with each other first to get you used to the idea. It will drive your hubby wild. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Amylynn920 Posted June 14, 2008 Members Report Share Posted June 14, 2008 You guys can come and hang around outside our bedroom door, because I talk a dirty blue streak I think I amaze myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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