Members ladylove Posted June 17, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 17, 2009 A Map to Perfect Love?Psychologist John Money coined the term "love map" to describe one's blueprint for the perfect mate. Not so much a map, it's the unconscious outline in your mind of what love should look like. Your love map is the result of early childhood preferences and experiences. Much of it was absorbed before you knew what to make of it — a delicious smell, a beautiful hair color, or a great sense of humor. It's a map of what's significant to you sensually, based on what resonated with you as a child.Understanding your love map can help you to have a better relationship. When you and your partner fit together like two pieces of a puzzle, it's for a variety of reasons — both good and bad. The upside of being with someone who fits our love map is that we get to experience that frenzied, euphoric lust that sparks between two people who have that kind of chemistry. The downside is that we're drawn to someone who resurrects conflicts from our childhoods. It's why we're able to fall madly in love, only to find ourselves in a relationship tangle that seems too impossible to undo.Take stock of your past — and present — relationships. What are the similarities between them? Why were you drawn to each person in the first place? Remembering what led you to someone will help you understand your blueprint for love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted June 17, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 17, 2009 Interesting. Is that all she said about it or is there more detailed info somewhere. I've often wondered what causes us to be attracted to a certain person. This may be part of the answer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted June 17, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted June 17, 2009 Interesting. Is that all she said about it or is there more detailed info somewhere. I've often wondered what causes us to be attracted to a certain person. This may be part of the answer.Inpart, but still very foggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted June 18, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 18, 2009 . . . Remembering what led you to someone will help you understand your blueprint for love.It was a certain . . . Je ne c'est quoi. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted June 18, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 18, 2009 A Map to Perfect Love?Psychologist John Money coined the term "love map" to describe one's blueprint for the perfect mate. Not so much a map, it's the unconscious outline in your mind of what love should look like. Your love map is the result of early childhood preferences and experiences. Much of it was absorbed before you knew what to make of it — a delicious smell, a beautiful hair color, or a great sense of humor. It's a map of what's significant to you sensually, based on what resonated with you as a child.Understanding your love map can help you to have a better relationship. When you and your partner fit together like two pieces of a puzzle, it's for a variety of reasons — both good and bad. The upside of being with someone who fits our love map is that we get to experience that frenzied, euphoric lust that sparks between two people who have that kind of chemistry. The downside is that we're drawn to someone who resurrects conflicts from our childhoods. It's why we're able to fall madly in love, only to find ourselves in a relationship tangle that seems too impossible to undo.Take stock of your past — and present — relationships. What are the similarities between them? Why were you drawn to each person in the first place? Remembering what led you to someone will help you understand your blueprint for love.It is the weirdest thing! They are all sort of similar! Almost all musicians, (or artist) sensitive type, intensely emotional, deep. Make me laugh like I never thought I could... Relatability, a certain connection... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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