I do by myself, never have with a partner. They never turn out great. I use them for Skype friends sometimes but the lighting is always horrible and I ways looked washed out
I didn't even think about it but the Sounds of the DVD (or internet video, thanks internet!) is really what does it for me, I don't think I even need the visual!
I've been using a beginner butt plug for like a year and I STILL don't feel like I am ready back there - still like the plug though - I think patience is a big part of this!
I seem to have good luck when I lightly hold the base (and balls) and relaxed but firm grip work the shaft and right where the head meets the shaft. I also like to lift my skirt or drop the pants, so he has something to look at!
I love it! I used to have a couple of guys I played with over skype - they were gay, but they didn't mind me watching and playing along from the other end!