Marc

Are you man enough for it?? Maybe you can start by licking the chocolate stick.

Luv your mushroom cap. Very nice.

About 9 inches & nice an thick. ;)

A couple members have asked me to share a picture of my partner, Mat's member. Here is one big reason he is sexy!

Actually no. It is far too thick and chemical laden. Can irritate tissues and damage condoms. I always use a natural lube and there are so many ones available. Be cautious of using desensitizing creams. They sound like a good idea, but should be used sparingly, if at all. They can give both of you a false sense of comfort.

Hello Che che, greetings from Marc

My partner and I went through this very thing over the last few years. It turned out to be an undiagnosed health issue, which we are thankful was found due to the ED. Like you, Mat would find success with certain treatments or aids but not very consistent at all. The more he desired the more he stressed and the worse it was. As a successful man, He had no reason to judge himself by his sexual prowess but he did and it affected him. We did different things and bought several things from this site. The hollow strap on has been a winner for us. If I were you I would exhaust every option before doing surgery. It was gracious of you to offer your wife another lover; Mat did the same thing. We have a long term stable relationship which is based on more than intercourse, so I declined. But several years before he had ED, we had 3way with another guy. We all agreed to it and we all enjoyed it, but it did make an undeniable mark on our relationship. I won't elaborate now, but does change the dynamics.

Guys can affect their taste a lot based on what they put in their mouth. He is right pineapple improves the taste a lot. Also there is a concoction of raw egg, nutmeg, and cinnamon that works, too. (Sounds like an Holiday Eggnog delight.) Things like alcohol, tobacco, and red meat can make it taste worse. Also I learned that extended foreplay and edging can make it taste off. I had a whole day of flirting and rising sexual tension with my partner and was looking forward to great oral fun. He showered and freshened all up. But his precum and cum, didn't taste good. It's happened a couple of times, so it was a fluke.

Too timid has a 7 speed prostate massager. Very awesome because you can regulate the intensity

You should enjoy yourself when you can. No one deserves what you have had. Nothing wrong with intimacy or having sex when the situation is right.

Impressive!

Awesome story. Great that you all flip-flopped.

My partner and I went through an extremely rough time a few years ago. We had been together for almost 20 years and he suddenly went cold in bed. He was still wonderful in day to day activities but the romance was almost non existent. We failed to talk about it, which was a huge mistake. When I initiated foreplay, he was passive and didn't reciprocate very much. It finally reached a head, when we went on a weekend trip and discovered his inability to maintain an erection. Although he doesn't measure his success by his prowess, he was frustrated and embarrassed. The harder he tried the worse the results. We tried a couple of different things and sometimes it worked, but the next time it didn't. It probably wasn't clinical depression but it was close. We finally went to a Doctor and discovered some health issues- serious pulmonary issues. The best news was that we discovered it and can control it, but we now know he has limitations and that is fine.

As Long as it feels good. I have had a butt plug in me for 20 or so minutes, while my partner and I had foreplay. If it feels uncomfortable just stop.

She definitely needed a better partner. No lube. Even despite my experience, I need a lot of lube. Preparation is so important.

A bar is an option, but you may want to try a fitness center or bath house. Although I'm in a relationship I will admit there are some impressive gay men at my fitness club.

I initially met my partner at college, while doing my work/study job. I was a greeter at the campus visitor center and Matome showed up asking for help. He was a visiting professor who was at a loss because his host was stuck elsewhere in an airport. I provided some concierge services, complete with hotel reservation and dinner reservations at a nearby restaurant. I only expected a "thank you," but he was so overwhelmed with gratitude that he invited me to join for dinner. We had a good dinner and conversation and that was it. I figured that was the end of it, but this professor who was 9 years my elder popped by the visitor center on a couple occasions to ask for suggestions and eventually asked me to lunch. It wasn't until the next semester when I was taking a class in his department and we were crossing paths nearly daily that he asked me on a real date. We were essentially good friends before we started dating and hit it off from there. It's been more than 25 years and 'Mat' is still my best friend and lover.

Britta, Welcome from one newcomer to another. Enjoy.

Hollie, don't be embarrassed. You are amongst friends. :) Living as a sexual being is wonderful

My partner and I do watch porn together on occasion. It may aid the initial foreplay but usually gets turned off or becomes background noise while we continue making love. I know a couple where porn is a prerequisite to having sex, but that doesn't seem right. Why do you need it every time to get aroused? I have never felt intimidated by the porn or pressured to do something that we saw. Some of the positions would be a strain for an Olympic gymnast. Generally, while he watches, I'll massage his bulge through his pants or shorts, rubbing the head slowly. Eventually as I feel it straining against the fabric, I'll pull down his pants and reveal his semi-hard penis. With him still able to watch, I'll kneel between his spread legs to licks his thighs, stomach, balls, and penis. My oral attention would usually raise his penis to full attention and we would go from there.

A question to answer is whether you are willing to share him. The more time he spends satisfying his friend the less he has for you. A ménage a trios may be a fantasy especially with 2 guys but you could end up the odd on out.

I'm Marc and I was a bit reluctant, perhaps even too timid, to join because I didn't see any gay or bi guys responding on this forum. After some thought, I decided to join because my point of view and experience is missing here. My partner and I have been together for over 25 monogamous years and we now live in western New York. Our sex life took a real setback after he had some health problems, but thanks to sex toys we have regained some intimacy. Willing to answer questions that anyone has.