Scout

Mikayla - you go, girl friend! You have such a way with words... I can't wait to try one of those glass dildo's...hmmmm... Scout

First, I agree completely with Mikayla and Howard...they've pretty much said it all. Second, are you saying that your wife's sex drive is much greater than yours? If so, why do you think that is? Is it because you are insecure and not sure of yourself as a lover for her? Or is it really that you just don't enjoy or want sex? If it is the latter, then you need to see your doctor, explain the lack of interest to him and have him/her test you for low levels of testosterone or some other chemical imbalance. But if it's just because you're not sure of yourself. Then check out the video's available and the books as well. And as Howard has said - read some of the old posts on this site...You are not the only man to have ever been in this position, and you won't be the last. The best way to become more confident in your ability is to practice! Hmmmm! I sure like the sounds of that! Remember, practice makes perfect! And talk to her more...find out what she likes, doesn't like - become more of an active partner. And please don't be jealous or worried about her toys. Toys are wonderful! And the best thing for women since they started slicing bread - but as Mikayla put it so beautifully, nothing, NOTHING, will ever take the place of my lover's penis - EVER! And nothing will ever take the place of my lover's arms around me, hearing his rapid breathing, feeling him moving in me - feeling his delight when I reach orgasm...no, trust me, there is no substitute for the real thing. There is, h owever, always room for experimentation, and fun and laughter! That's what toys are about - keeping the engines warm and reved - Enjoy! Scout

My lover and I started slow with this - I guess finding out what was OK to say to each other and what might cross that line...but I'll never forget the time he walked up behind me, put his arms around me and whispered in my ear, "Hey, babe - wanna mess around?" I almost had an orgasm right on the spot! And when I turned and told him, "Oh! Baby! Yes! You make me have wet panties!" Well, he was about to scoop me up right there - and would have except we were in public! Those endearing words went more the way of what Mikayla is talking about - and we both find it an incedible turn on... And please, don't apologize. What is between the two of you is perfectly ok. As Howard points out, you are married, have children - what could possibly be off-limits at this point? Talk to her - let her know how good it makes you feel for her to say anything "dirty" to you...and let her know how good it makes you feel to say the same back to her. My lover and I used to refer to it sometimes as "raw jungle sex!" You know, the kind that when he walks through the door, I'm pulling him down on the kitchen floor! And then there are the quiet times in front of the fire place - with an occasional glass of wine - and the list can go on and on...make it fun for both of you. Enjoy! Scout

Good one, Howard! LOL! I have two dogs that always sleep with me on the bed...but when my lover is here, they go to their own crates...I'm not interested in soothing their worried brows while I'm making love...nope, they can just be happy in their own space. And my dogs are definitely my "babies." But, I'm their pack leader...so the girlfriend must tell her "children" that when you are making love...they're safer outside the bedroom... Good luck!

6"? Well, speaking from the female side, I don't think you've got a thing to worry about... Happy New Year! Scout

Oh! ABSOLUTELY! you took the words right out of my mouth! If your spouse is not meeting your needs, then it's time to seek outside help and communicate to each other and get the problem fixed. I realize that there are plenty of women out there that for some reason will sleep with a married man - not fair to them or anyone else. And the same goes for any woman, sleeping around on her husband...it's dishonest, it's cheating. If you want something else - then get out of the marriage! or end the relationship... Scout

Very good post and good thoughts, too. I'm a plus-size, but very active (live on a ranch where's there is always too much work to be done outdoors). My lover always remarked that he felt sorry for men who would get stabbed by their wive's hip bones! He was probably trying to make me feel less self conscious, and whatever - it worked. I've lost almost 100 lbs in the past year (my choice, not my lover's) - and I know that I sure feel sexier - so that's really is where it's at...it's how you feel and how you present yourself. I know what we're supposed to look like, but if the truth be known, most of the men in this world don't look like they're supposed to either. Love those Dove commercials with real women with curves! I always thought that the men and women with those beautiful hard bodies - wouldn't they be just a bit over the hill in keeping those bodies looking like that - and therefore, less interested in pleasuring their lovers? Anyway, nice to know that there are men who enjoy a real woman's body... Scout

Ok, I'll have to admit that I'm not sure your wife knows how lucky she is! But all that aside, you've been married 30 years...she's probably going though or has gone through "the change" which can certainly affect her libido. Thanks for using lubricant...but that's only a small part of the problem. The major problem is in her head, not her pussy. I'm sure she loves you and I would think she'd want to pleasure you and to have you pleasure her - and understanding that, she needs to see her OB/GYN and explain her lack of interest to him - and get some medication that will restore her desire in her head...then the rest will follow. Good luck! Scout

Good for both of you! No, GREAT! for both of you. The therapist was right on...she needs to focus on what she's got right in front of her - not many men would still be there with her and willing to pay for the therapy sessions...hats off to you...I wish you both the very best and continued awakenings and renewals...and lots of fun! Scout

I agree completely with Howard and Mikayla...this is a sight where people who need moral support or encouragement can get it...if you're looking for something hard core - then go someplace else. The Web Site says it all - Too Timid - so if you're here to "poke" fun or continue to be crude - please find a home someplace else! Scout

Mikayla and HM2 - you are not the only ones! Both of you keep sharing - I enjoy reading your thoughts and comments. And I've learned a lot from this site, and hope that I have contributed as well. I, too, wish that some of the "jerks" would just go jerk off somewhere else! As much as I love sex and making love with my lover, I find some of these "BOOBS" offensive.

Ok, I can certainly understand your problem. Any chance of seeing your husband for a weekend - or whatever? I can't imagine that his employers (unless it's the US Armed Forces) would expect him to be away from his wife/family for an entire year. If not, girl, go back and read your wedding vows. Cheating is cheating and it's unfair to everyone involved. Cheating with this other guy might do several things...give you an unwanted and very hard to explain pregnancy, or disease or worse yet - make it impossible for you to live with yourself. And believe me, your husband will know the second he see's you. If you are married to a good man, why risk your entire future for a moment's fling? Think on the future here! Get yourself a good vibe and do some phone sex with your husband. Let him know how horribly you are missing him...hopefully, you can arrange some meetings during the year...but don't cheat. That never solves anything, and only ends up hurting everyone involved. Unless of course, you are wanting to end the marriage - and if that's the case, end the marriage first. I know this doesn't really solve the problem...but think very hard before you act. Your marriage and your future may lie in the balance. If you love your husband, wait for him. That's what I would do anyway... Good luck...