Mikayla1

I must admit, I have had a lot of "public" sex. I have had it in movie theatres, in the bathroom at a movie theatre, in the forest preserve (Yeah HOWARD), in the bathroom at the courthouse (way risky), on the catwalk over the railroad tracks as a train is going by, in a cemetery (my younger days - I was a bit odd), in parking lots, in mall dressing rooms, in my backyard, in an outdoor hot tub, in bathrooms at parties. .. .do I need go on?

It sounds to me like there is a lot more going on with you and your hubby than just "positioning" problems! I think that it is important to remember that if YOU feel sexy and desireable then you will ACT sexy and desireable. It is not just your fault that sex has faultered - unless you have just plain out continually denied him. Do you love each other? Are you sure he is still interested in you and only you? I know it is a harsh question, but when men seem uninterested sometimes they have someone else on the side. If you are secure in your marriage, then be secure in your sexuality! Try some nipple jewlelry or clit jewlery. Try new lingerie. Make yourself FEEL sexy and you will become more sexy. If you feel that way your husband will definitely notice the new secure you and take notice as well. I think that sometimes, especially after being married a while, we become stagnant with the same ole, same ole, and end up not listening to our inner selves...or eros. Try taking charge with him one night, just feeling sexy, and then taking control in the bedroom...see how far that goes. If he, or you, are still not feeling "it' then maybe a sex counselor, some videos, or a book might not be out of order. Sex is fun....great fun. Orgasms are fun. Why wouldn't people like to have more sex? That is what I try to tell my husband whose sex drive is way behind mine. Let me know if any of this advice is helpful to you!

Sex education......I suppose I received most of my sex education from sneaking in to my dad's porn collection with my friends. Back in the day my dad and his buddies would get together in the basement, drink some beers and watch bad porn. My friends and I always tried to get a sneak peek of what they were doing. One night while our parents were playing poker, I broke into the "sacred cabinet" and got out one of the unmarked vhs videotapes to watch. We popped it in and it was right in the middle of some relatively hard core gang banging! The 4 of us sat there literally open mouthed staring at the big busted woman and the hairy men pumping away at each other. I was 12, my friends were 13, 14 and 14. From there we made it a point to find more tapes. Specifically my best female friend and I. We were so perplexed by the whole thing, how and why things were done. Eventually we tried oral sex on each other...but we didn't really want to "taste" each other so we used ziploc baggies to put over each other's crotches (see, i invented the dental dam in the 1980's!) and we licked each other to orgasm! I still remember that like it was yesterday. Nowadays I would never require a ziploc baggie.... Anyway, that was the beginning of my sexual education, and I suppose part of the reason I am so open to all things. My parents were not closed minded about sex, but it was more of a "just the facts" type thing. I can still remember the name of that first porn too...Hot Horney Honeys. I have never been able to find that one anywhere, and I doubt that I would want to watch it again. I am fond of the digital retouches and the dvd selections available today. So thank you Dad...I learned a lot of tricks from your secret stash. And thank you Niki for giving me my first girl on girl orgasm!

Here are a few ideas of how to make the woman on top position enjoyable for both of you: 1) start facing him, keep his legs bent slightly, rock back and forth and around in circles. 2) then, get up on your feet, knees bent and go up and down - varying the pace having him grab your hips for help 3) if you find that positioning harder, you can turn around, with hubby sitting up slightly, legs straight and together, then you get up and your feet and put your hands on his legs for support. You can get the whole length of him inside you and do whatever pace you and he like. With this last position you can even go back on your knees and give him the full view of his cock going in and out of you, you can go faster or slower to tease him, he can reach in front and grab your breasts, and if he is sittin up enough, he can play with your clit. Another good woman on top is to place you hubby on the couch or a chair and ride him that way. Position yourself above him and then get up on your feet and go from there. It is my experience that men seem to like woman on top, especially when you can really take them all the way in. If you need another position that is good, try having hubby stand on the edgeof the bed and move yourself to the edge of the bed and have him do you from there. It is different that the plain "missionary" he can play with you and he gets good insertion. You can even doggy style that way. One thing is for sure...variety is the spice of life! Enjoy!

I never thought of putting a cucumber up my ass, but I suppose in a pinch.....there are many toys out there that are made for both vaginal and anal stimulation. You may try those, then use an egg vibrator for the clit stimulation. I also agree you should tell the boyfriend about the anal request, I am almost sure he will agree to satisfy your needs, and who knows, he may want to have you put something in his ass too. Have fun!

All these ideas for how to get you "off" are fine and dandy. I know the website extremerestraints.com has really nice (and expensive) fuck machines. I also know that if what you are looking for is orgasm after orgasm anything will do. What I read in your message is that your boyfriend isn't giving you enough sex, like your sex drive is higher than his. I have that same problem with my hubby. I too have had many a night with the trusty vibe or dildo pleasuring myself, but it just isn't the same as the whole nine yards. You are left wondering why you - a presumably sexy, healthy, intelligent woman are left pleasing yourself when all you want is sex! You aren't asking for anything much - just sex! I know it doesn't make sense to me either. It is what brought me to this site as well. I think the answer is a lot more complex than buying a dildo or a fuck machine. If that was all it took to be happy sexually no one would ever leave their houses! People, at least the people I know, and women especially crave the attention of their lovers. They crave knowing that they are sexy, wanted, desired.....I think you need to try to find a way to get your boyfriend going as much as you are. maybe we can try to help each other find the answers. In the meantime, I suppose riding Mr. Maytag is a good alternative, it does work. Or perhaps when you too are sitting on the couch together, pull out your vibrator, start playing with yourself in front of your man and maybe he will get the picture that he isn't delivering. I just might try that one myself1 Good luck!

My view on this is mixed. I don't particularly mind watching my husband masturbate, but it doesn't really "do it" for me either. He loves to watch me, and I love to do it for him. Usually if we are mutually masturbating we are doing it to each other and if I am masturbating and he is masturbating it is just to get each other as ready as possible before sex. We have never masturbated until each has came...I, of course, usually come when masturbating for him, but I have never seen him cum for me. So, I would say for me, watching him is enjoyable, but not a necessity.

When you say "getting caught" are you inferring that your mom or dad walk into your room unannounced? I always did my masturbating at night, after the p's went to bed. I didn't usually sit around naked in the middle of the day waiting for mom to catch me. If you are looking for ideas of what to use, the hairbrush handle is a good one, just make sure you clean it really well. If you are a virgin, which at 13 I hope you are, don't insert it! The finger is still the best one...find your clitoris and open those legs and just rub in circles. Maybe play with your breasts. I also found that a massage head in the shower worked very nice! Use your imagination and I am sure things will just start jumping into your mind...or your pants. Good luck. Remember, masturbation is normal and healthy. Mikayla

Yes I have used, and quite enjoyed my clit clip. it is not a piercing toy, it is a little clip that you place on the clit, preferably when the clit is slightly engourged. Then your lover can pull on it (or the chain) and it will send the most lovely sensations to your whole body. Can also be used in conjunction with a vibrator! I highly recommend the tit to clit clips.

I have a friend whose husband is on Lithium and he sometimes, well most times, can't cum. At first she was excited by her husband's new stamina, then she started getting sore all the time. She finally bought this toy, a little vibrating bead that he puts on his penis and this seems to help him cum a little faster....not much but a little. She also masturbates in front of him to get him really horney first and gives him lots of head. So perhaps you should find your "hot button" and then try a toy like my friends. Just suggestions.

I have had all sizes, from big big to - well lets just say pencil size. The big big was almost too big....it hurt every time he stuck it in, but after we got going, it was good. The small one, well...just couldn't feel it in there, always wanted it to be bigger. Average size seems to be about right. Although I agree with Kate, it is the guy not the dick which is the turn on. If they know how to use what they have, then it is all good!

Although it is true that ALL men do not like bondage...as my hubby is not into everything that I am into. If he cares about you and wants to make you happy he will most likely be willing to at least TRY some of the things you want to explore. Bondage is an iffy thing - some men think that if they are tying up their woman they are "disrepecting her" or "raping" her and that makes them uncomfortable. You have to assure him that it is OK, and as many people have pointed out, have a safe word, so that he knows when you want out. Bondage can be an exciting experience for both you and him. It can open doors that have never been opened before and let both of you become more free in your sexuality. I am too a bondage girl. I am not totally into the roughest things, but I enjoy the nipple/clit clamps, the tit harnesses, being tied to the bed or a chair, whips, and blindfolds. I would like to explore a few more things, but I have to get my hubby to agree first. It is a long road to get him where he is now. He loves me and wants me to be happy, and along the way he has found his more aggressive side. Just be honest and the rest will follow. Hope this helps.

Oh my God!!! I can not believe someone else besides me has seen that porn "Behind the Green Door! HPK you and I are destined to be friends! I watched that porn a few years back...a few friends of ours were over for a night of drinks and movies and my friends man and I went to the video store to scope out the porn section. I immediately go to new releases to find something with Chasey Lane (love her tits) or some other hot actress and he brings me BTGD...I am like, "uh no...don't think so!" He says it is a classic, he was deflowered watching it and we HAVE to get it. So we watched it. I cracked up almost the whole time. All those bushy women and the silent fucking! It was erotic in theme, the black man in those tights taking that woman...but in aethetic quality...no way! Anyway, I had to share that I too am a part of the BTGD fan club...or, at least I have seen it.

Hi Kate! Oh yeah.....singing a little or humming for sure...the vibrations are what does it and they never see it coming. You can even just sing "yeah baby" and that will do it! I actually found it out by accident. I had this boyfriend, he would take a long, long, loooonnnngggg time to cum when I would give him head. I didn't mind the first hour, then I got kind of tired. So I was humming the jeopardy tune just to be funny and in a few seconds...whala! I found out that it would work faster every time! Give it a try the next time you have a "love subject" lol!

deepthroating is definitely an art. Eye contact, at least intermittently is a MUST. You have to go slow at first, getting their cock nice and wet. Use your hands too...that is really important. Then, as you look up at them, relax your throat and take it all in...in and out slow then faster looking up and him as much as you can. Then play with his balls or if he goes for this, a finger in the ass. LEt him grab your hair if he likes that. Sing a little or hum while it is the deepest in...then take him till he cums. Works everytime!

I don't know how many answers you will get on this site that will say a "virgin" and a tattoo. I know that of all my friends who have tattoos, none of them were virgins when they got them. I don't know why, maybe it is the age requirment (at least in the state I live)

I definitely like my pussy eaten out...I can hold on as long as my hubby is willing to do it. I must say with all the problems we have, that is one thing he is actually willing to do. I am multi-orgasmic (thank you, I take a bow) and I will cum and cum over and over. I am a bit demanding though, I will give directions if he wanders too long doing one thing or the other, I need variation. But yes, I think most women would enjoy a lot more of this activity as opposed to less or none.

My husband had the same problem - should I say issue - a few years ago. He was always on the internet after I went to bed. Sometimes he would come up for sex after, sometimes he would have sex with me before. pretty soon I started spying on him to see what was going on and noticed he was cybersexing! I wasn't angry, I just asked him what I wasn't giving him that they were. He said he could experiment with ideas, get feedback, etc. So, I decided I would do that same. I too started cybersexxing and it was fun...for a while. Most of the guys (SORRY GUYS) were like not into typing...they looked for me to do all the typing and they just sat back beating off; so I finally went into the lesbian room and found a few good friends in there....people who had husbands doing the same thing. My advice...if you really hate taht he does it, ask him to stop. If you haven't tried it, try it. Maybe do it together. Try to make it fun and sexy for both of you

I found all of this information interesting, informative and not at all surprising. Of course I know that not all men are sex starved animals who just want to have kinky sex...I know that as much as I know not all women need to be totally seduced and have candles and wine and the whole romance thing. I like a full range of sexual scenarios. I like sex in general. The problem is more that my hubby doesn't want to have sex in general as often as I do in any way. His sex drive is low no matter what we seem to do. I have tried to do most of what he want and now I am at the point I want to do what I like because I get sex so little. I am a little more "advanced" if you want to look at it that way...but I am not one of those dominant whips and chains kind of women all the time. I like to experiment...I like to see what will give me pleasure. I like to see what will give him pleasure as well. I think that our problem is finding what will do it for both of us...get him in the mood as well. How do I get it out of him because when we have these talks, and we have had these talks, all I get is "I don't know for sure what I want" so what do I do with that? I even wonder sometimes if he is gay. I mean I am a nice looking woman...not perfect, but nice. so what's up with that? Any more advice?

My husband and I have been married 10 years...I have a very high sex drive, I like everything from bondage to movies to exhibitionism. My husband is more of the "in the bedroom" kind of guy. getting him to do anything on the wild side is hard. I need to get him to open up and feel more relaxed and in my space. i always though men liked porn and aggressive women, but he just has a hard time going there. Do I give up and have less sex and less fun sex or is there a way to get what I want? HELP!