MrsLabialuv here.... my husband and I tried this. He was nervous about asking me or convincing me to do this as well. He actually ordered a prostate massager and surprised me with it. Im telling you from a womans perspective and you can take it with a grain of salt but i promise that lighting candles and spoiling her before hand, emotionally and sexually before busting that puppy out will do the trick! Make it about her, and make it a sensual experience for her and then ask her to try something new on you... Good luck!