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Just a thought for you, maybe the two of you should go and look online to see what is out there, or better yet, find a shop that the two of you can visit together. You might find some interesting ideas there. Sometimes you will see things in the books or from videos (which I know that you have seen) that both of you want to try. At a store, you can be very open as to what interests you and the employees are quite good with suggestions too. I have seen many couples in the stores and they bounce ideas off one another and get plenty of suggestions too. You might see some body paint, or gels, or who knows what that you might find stimulating and fun. And above all ENJOY!!!!!!!

I read the posts and checked out the articles and I am still sitting with a few questions. I have never been with someone that has used them, I have seen them online and in the stores as well. Actually, I had a friend ask me about them too. His g/f was mentioning new things to him, he asked me about some things and, so of course, I directed him to this site. He read a lot of the articles, checked through the site, and we both had the same question about the cock rings. They come in all varieties, colors, materials, etc., but how do you know what size will work? If you purchase them, you cannot return them (especially worriesome if they are not adjustable). And most importantly are they painful? I have seen some in the shops and they look quite small to me, how can you be sure to get one that isn't going to be too small. Do you have to put them on a bottle to stretch them and will they shrink back to their original size again? We saw the time on the use too - and it seems to vary among users and the other links from 15 min - 30 min. If your in the middle of a long session and you don't realize, will your body let you know that you need to stop and take it off??? More honestly, this guy is really trying to make something special for his girl and I just can't find the answers either. Can someone please help out on this? What would be the best suggestions that he could have and how easily can they be attained, are they mostly online, or can you find them in most adult stores? Thanks for the help, from both of us! LOL

I bought myself some ben-wa balls a few months ago and tried them out. One problem, no matter how far I inserted them - when I stood up and started walking around the house doing "normal" household activities - laundry, dishes, etc., they kept falling out. I was working the pc muscles to try to keep them in and still - out they fell. The only good thing that seemed to some from this experience is a flatter tummy from tightening my muscles with this workout. Any suggestions as to why they want to fall out, what I can do to try to keep them inside??

I have tried the anal route with toys and I have found that I love it. So, being as I was doing that - preparation...still...I decided to try the dp with a toy vaginally too. Let me tell you - amazing!!!! I am still hesitant about taking a man's penis anally, but that will happen in due time, and I am waiting for a certain someone for that experience anyway. I want to be very comfortable and have total assurance of trust too. But from my point of view - dp is great and, if I felt comfortable, sure, I would try a 3-way experience with it too (sooo not what I would have thought even a few months ago - I am a one-on-one type of person). But as for using the toy and having a man inside me too - what a great thought that is!!

Well, glad you had a good experience with it. I bought this a few months ago and I was sadly disappointed It just didn't seem to do anything for me, I mean nothing. I ended up resorting to my other toys - especially big blue (blue meta - cannot say one bad thing about that one ). I bought it because the shape intrigued me and I thought wow - this could be something, and water-proof too - my favorite. I guess that I might have to "play" around a bit more and give it another try - maybe it might work now? Maybe its just me - as ever - everyone has their own preferences. Just another thought though - what about use for anal play?

Yes, yes, yes. Look at the shopping part of this site, it gives you so many choices and you can read a lot of the reviews as well. If you are one of those that likes to see things up close, by all means print the page out, I DO. If you haven't visited an adult store and there is one in your area, take the pages with you (btw - the one that I know of that is "near" me is about a 30-40 min drive). I will admit, I was VERY intimidated and embarassed myself when I went in to purchase my first toy, but I went in armed with my pages and simply asked. The people that work there are usually more than willing to help you find what you are interested in. Not all toys that you are interested in on any site will you find in every shop, but they can make suggestions too. I was even asked by employees what site I found the toys on that I was looking to purchase because they became interested the same toy, but they didn't stock it (I tell them right here). I have purchased thru the shopping section of this site, since I couldn't find the toys that I wanted at the store that I saw here. The package is very discrete, my sister even handed my package to me and had NO IDEA what it held inside. And by all means ask away here, if you read the posts you will see that there are many people here that can give you advice, suggestions and more concise information. Mikayla's reviews and suggestions on toys (as well as the many others) even got me to purchase some that I wouldn't have, and boyyyyy was she right on them. Good Luck to you and welcome!

Not to distract from the train of thought that has been going on in this post, as I believe that it is still important (communication and honesty are priorities), but back to the starting point of the anal route I go. I had given anal sex an all too brief thought years ago. I was actually put off when I suggested it to my bf at the time - he jumped out of bed and got a jar of vaseline all too quickly for me. Not even a discussion about how to do it - he just jumped out of bed and was way to ready to go for it. He scared me right out of that thought for years. It wasn't until recently when I was discussing it with another man and the experiences that he has had that I decided to check it out again. This time however, I decided to try things by myself to see if I could handle the experience. I found that I did enjoy it and I have explored it more solo - I want to be prepared for when I chose to share this. The most important thing that I can say from my point of view is COMMUNICATION helps to bridge the worries, hesitation and fears that go with it. It was open communication without the sexual situation that helped me. The whole topic was outside of any physical contact. The trial and error (should I say no error), was all on me finding out how it felt, what I like and what I can handle, since I already know that the person that I discussed it with has had more sexual experiences than I have. Yes, I have always loved sex and it was always the more "conventional" kind. Talk has opened me up to more of what I want and would be willing to try. So by all means, COMMUNICATION is the best way to get any sexual exploration initiated. Unfortunately my friends are all pretty tight-lipped about sex and as for family well... forget it. So here I am to learn and share also. By my own "old" standards I have found that I am more "kinky" than my life leads one to believe. From being here, however, I have found that I am not alone in my desires, interests and experiences. Kudos to all that have opened up here and thank you too. And for anyone that reads, keep reading and hopefully you will open up sometime too. Take care with all that you do and by all means enjoy!

LOL - I was thinking about the Ben-Wa balls just the other day. I still am a bit unclear as to how they actually are used and work. There isn't much to explain them here. Do you use both at once, individually, simultaneously with another toy? And most important, is there the possibility of them getting "lost" up there when you use them? Thank you for your replies Mikalya. Sexxxikittie

I have been looking and I already have quite a few toys, but are there any toys out there that are not "tiny" and are powerful enough to go the distance yet stay quiet? I actually found that by putting a piece of folded cloth first-aid tape around the battery silenced my pocket rocket (the battery rattled around some and made it quite audible). I have done some "rigging" on some of my other toys with adding minor "padding" on batteries, and such, but I am looking for a more quiet toy. As for the showertime play - at least that covers just about any sounds that I or my toys make - lol. Unfortunately, I have some family members living with me and when I break out my toys I want to be as quiet as possible when I want to play (not to mention it kind of hinders the ability to share my bed with someone right now too). I either have to play when everyone is asleep (which means very late at night/early am) or when I am sure that no one will be home, which actually makes it very difficult right now as one residing here is a teenage boy - grrrrrrrrrr. Closed doors around here don't stay closed for very long and my privacy has become a VERY BIG issue right now. It is like they have "radar" that goes off when I am trying to "relax." I am going to be "stuck" in this family situation most likely until Summer of '07, and I am having to change things for myself a lot lately, so I really NEED to find something to get me through this "stress" too. I have found that some of my toys I can't use right now because I have gotten more vocal when I use them, but I really miss them right now . Not to mention the difficulty of having the real company with me when I want to. I know that I can keep myself restrained from vocalizing, but I want to get a toy that packs a punch that is more silent. Does anyone have any suggestions?

This isn't so much a preference, just yet - I'm still looking for new toys myself. I do like my vibrating pleasure beads and my spectra gels beaded anal vibrator (albeit a little too soft for me). Yes, I'm am really enjoying the anal avenue. I found that I really enjoy the double penetration experience. I wouldn't have thought that it would be this incredible, but omg it is! I have found that I am actually wanting to have anal penetration more than vaginal right now - maybe because it is still a "new" experience, but I guess my sexual nature is really starting to explode right now - he he he he he. Am I crazy for this? I would like to find a vibrating anal toy that has a suction cup for use in the shower, and also one that is also more smooth. Does anyone out there have any suggestions for me?

Telecom - I love animals. I have cats and I have to say that yes mine sleep with me too. I understand how the pets in the bed can be, especially if you are not there just too sleep. I was having sex with my bf and we had a cat hop on the bed (thankfully only at the foot of the bed) while we were going at it. Both of us paused for a bit, laughed and then we kept going. From that point on the door was closed when we were in bed or having sex. I love my pets but the last thing that I want is fur in my face (or anyplace else for that matter) when I am having sex. I DO NOT think that asking to keep the door closed for you to enjoy your time together, whether it is for sex or just company in bed, is too much to ask. If she has a doggie bed or special toys for them, I would suggest putting them in another room. Give the dogs a special treat so that they might learn that they get something special too when they leave you two alone in the room. Maybe the two of you should go shopping for the stuff together (added bonus points for you for caring so much about your time together and her "babies") . I would suggest that you try to start it when you two just want to go in the room for a short period of time. If it works, then you may be able to have the night alone for whatever you chose to do and get a good night's sleep too. Yes, pets are like family to many people (like children at times), but they are still pets. And for that matter, even children need to be taught boundaries, even if it means dealing with the whining for a while. You are adults and are entitled to your time alone together too. Talk about it, and all I can say is try. The whole Pavlov dog conditioning thing might take a little while, but it might stop the whining at the door and let you two sleep in peace or at least spend some time together without the extra company. If not at least you can say that you tried. Best of luck to you!

Well, I honestly can't remember how I came across this site. More than likely, I was tooling around in the internet and ran across this one, somtime late last summer, and never forgot it. I did check it out for a while and actually posted under another name asking for advice on toys (didn't get any response - but that didn't stop me). I still read on and got more advice and info from reading. I decided to login again with a new name because I couldn't remember my password since I hadn't used the other name in so long (it was one that I only used here). I think that I deceided to post again since I still had questions that all the posts that I had read didn't hit exactally what I was looking to have answered. This site seems to have the most honest and real communication regarding sex and intimacy that I have seen. For me, talking about sex with my family is actually kind of a taboo thing - and I guess that even in my 30's I am still looked at as the "baby" in the family (even my older sister doesn't know this much about me). Here, with all the varying ages, experiences and perspectives, we can all be as open as we care to be; and isn't that what everyone needs - open communication without the embarassment or restraints that our regular lives bring? Maybe more info than you wanted, but I have found this site to be a comfortable place to be more honest about who I am and know that there are other people out there with similar likes, dislikes and questions.

Ok Mikayla, you sold me on this one. I am not one to go for the little cutesies on my toys and the hearts were a bit of a turn off to me but I ordered it and all I can say is WOW. My package came and I was a little intimidated by it - it was bigger than it looked, length and girth, but, well, what the hell... I tried it and omg I came before I got it in all the way - it was incredible. The hearts really do a lot too. Talk about multiples and then some. I actually wanted to go more but I got tired before my appetite was sated. My SO saw it online and he was a bit put off (maybe intimated) and asked if he would be able to compare after this. Definately not a worry to me. (Hope you are reading this too btw - lol) I like the "human touch" much better. And as for an addition to play with your SO, it could definate be a plus too. You are soooo right Mikyla, this is definately a must have.

I ventured into anal land and what did I find - I like it! Yes, I did my search of toys and I finally decide to try anal. The first toy I tried (a silicone flex probe) was too small - guess I'm not such a "tight ass" lol. My package from TooTimid arrived last week and the Vibrating Pleasure Beads are a really nice addition. I wouldn't have even ventured a year ago, or even a few months ago, but getting over the eeewwweee factor - I love it. Yes, I made sure to use lots of lube - started in the bath tub since the probe could attach to the tub floor or wall. And thankfully, no slipping, made sure to be very careful as the lube does make everything slick. I have even already tried larger and it is incredible too. I have been thinking of using a regular vibrator since I have a few that I really like - I haven't found a double penetrator that really piques my interest just yet. Any suggestions? Also on that note, since I am a little uneasy with the thought of cleaning of my regular vibrators (since I probably already overdo the cleaning) - are there any suggestions regarding using a condom on the vibrator for anal use - extra lubed kinds, etc.?

I can't believe that I couldn't remember the names of all the toys that I had so I went back to the store that I started at to find out what they were all called (yes, notebook in hand - will remember all the names from now on - lol). My first toy was the Waterproof Crystalessense Vibrating Penis. It was good at first, but I guess that I wore it out. It hasn't been used in a while - think that the motor might not be up to speed as the others I have. I did add to that a pocket rocket and that helped a lot. Hmmmmm as for my fav now..... well I did just get my package from tootimid last week and in it was the Blue Meta Heart on, vibrating pleasure beads, micro-mite mini masager (and a few more) and mmmmm they are sooo very nice. Yes Mikayla, your review sold me on the Blue Meta - I was a little put off by the hearts on it but thought - gotta give it a try - and omg I came before I got it all the way in - hit the spot instantly and kept me going..... Right now, I guess that I have to say my fav is Devinn Lane's Waterproof Pleasure Pal with the assistance of clit stim by a pocket rocket. The vibrator fits in nicely - all the way in in fact - and I can tilt it to hit the g-spot and wooooosh. I know that I love the Blue Meta too - but I think I like the whole play to get there - not so instantaneously - lol