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Like Mikala, I had a somewhat wild past, esp when I was recently divorced, so I may fantasize about someone from back then. Or, maybe a cute guy I work with. But I would NEVER tell hubby this cuz he is so insecure, says I am a flirt, and is jealous. Plus, it would probably hurt him, so I don't tell him what I fantasize. And I don't ask what he fantasizes about, cuz he just give the cheezy answer (the one time I did ask) "you". Yeah, ok. I am not stupid and know that men also fantasize about other women, but apparently he doesn't get that I know that.

A postive outlook is important as self esteem, IMO. Now, there is a guy I know, that goes for "fat chicks" cuz he thinks that they're easier to please, and better in bed cuz they put more effort into it all. Not sure if that's true, and not MY opinion at all, but just giving an example of some people's way of thinking.

:lol: I was going to post this today!! I had my tongue pierced, but took it out when I was 4 mos pregnant and I regret taking it out, but oh well!! I still have my naval pierced, and I have 3 holes in each ear too. Personally, I don't like facial (on the face) piercings, like the lip or eyebrow or the space between the bottom lip and chin. IMO they detract from a person's beauty. I have only seen a couple of women with really pretty nose piercings too. But that's just me. I am all for self-expression, so long as you're not hurting anyone else, so what one chooses to do with their bodies is their business.

Here is a pic of my first tattoo. I had the outline done first, which took a little over 2 hours. I was very thin, and it is in sensitive area, oh, and I may mention I am a wuss!! So I kept having him stop. But he did 4 lines to make it thick, and it hurt like hell!! Anyway, I love it, it's my fav one. Hope you like it!! The one on my thigh hurt, but not as bad. More fat there I guess.

When I was a teenager, I was seeing some other guy the whole time I was seriously dating another for 2 yrs. Though no sex happened with either one ( I was a virgin). In my adult years, only 2 of the men I have seriously dated have NOT cheated on me! One being my current husband. The other a guy that worshipped the ground I walked on, but I fell out of love and respect for. Other than that, color me stupid!! I am against cheating. But, at the same time, one never knows where life will take you either. Yes, you are responsible for your actions, and the reprocussions of thos actions, but sometimes there are circumstances that help a cheatin' heart along. KWIM? But, no, I have not sexually, full blown cheated either.

Thanks for those who responded. Here's my story: I was single, having safe fun met a guy who was 8 yrs my jr, and we fucked like bunnies too!! Well, one night the condom slipped off, which we were so into it, we didn't know, got cleaned up, and well, after a month of that, went our seperate ways (though sometimes I wish we hadn't ended it). I never have been able to find him to ask him if he knew he had it. I'm thinking he didn't. IF it was even him, but I am thinking so (herpes has been found to "hide out" in a body for up to 8 yrs before presenting symptoms in some people!!). Anyway, about 6 mos later, I get severely stressed over finances, 3 days later it hurt to pee, sit, walk, stand everything. I had a feeling I knew what it was since my sister has it too. Go to the doctor and my worst fears are confirmed. Yes, I have herpes. Loverly. Wonderful. Yay me. Well, I told my BF (now my hubby) and he was GREAT!! I told him if he wanted to leave, he was more than welcome too, I wouldn't blame him a bit if he did. He said that there were worse things to have, and that we'd work thru it. Less than a year later, we were married, and 6 mos after that we had our daughter. My OB/GYN was GREAT at making sure I was well treated during my pregnancy, and I had my daughter via c-section, no complications. I won't say it's been a walk in the park, I get depressed at times that this happened to me (may be some of the self-esteem issues). But, as mentioned, my older sister has it, and has always been open about it with me, and she has been a wealth of info for me. She has ALWAYS told potential partners about it, and in the 16 yrs that she has had it, only one man has turned her down after hearing. So I know that there are those out there that either don't care, or are willing to risk it. Only a handful of friends and 2 family members know that I have it. One being my mother. Surprisingly, she had dated a guy for 3 yrs with it, and I never knew!! I was amazed she was so open-minded about it (you have to know my mother to understand this statement). And now y'all too. I can't believe I am telling you this. But I feel as though, in the short time I've been here, that most of you are open minded, and honest, and non judgmental enough to understand and accept it. Yes, I've been tested for everything else under the sun, and am clean otherwise, in case you were wondering. My husband doesn't show any signs of having it. I am very careful when I feel a sore coming on, and don't let him near me. He has a weak immune system, so I'm pretty sure he would know if he had it! Anyway, it's something I am still working thru when I think of it. But ya know, I don't always think of it. I'm not about to let it ruin my life. I was depressed for about a month after finding out, and that's all the depression I am willing to allow it!

I have 2 tattoos. I have a Firebird (yes, from the Pontiac car, 1973 decal to be exact). It's pretty big, on the small of my back. That was my first. My second is a white tiger, about a foot long or so, on my upper right thigh. I find them sexy, if they are on a woman, if they are delicate, and tasteful. I don't think facial, or arm tattoos (unless they are really small) are good on a woman's body. I don't like the ones on the neck either. Or the homemade ones. On men, upper arm ones are nice, if done professionally, and tastefully. I LOVE tribal armbands!! There is a point where there are too many tattoos on a person, IMO at least.

I'm hoping that Howard meant that for her to get educated means that she should learn about her own body, no just go out and get laid. I am thinking he did, from what I have read from him. That said. I think Kate is serious about it, her coming and actually posting here for the first time, can be a bit scary itself!! So WTG Kate!! Using a shower massager can help, or fingers, or if you don't want to use a dildo to preserve your hymen, then using a clitorial stimulator is AWESOME!! The Hustler Rock It Vibe that I mentioned in the Reviews section really does a nice job, and no penetration needed. This site's catalog sends it's stuff in descreet manilla envelopes or plain brown boxes, with Atlantic Innovations as the return address, so if you're worried about parents or roommates finding out, unless they too order from here, then you're still retaining some privacy.

If you feel bad, and guilty, then yes, in your heart, you have cheated. Especially if it's something you feel you have to hide. As for the BUMP, back down to earth, you won't fully be down to earth until, yes, you guess it, you chat with your wife. There has to be timing for it. Maybe a romantic dinner, and start the conversation off like "I love yo so much baby, and want to please you in every way. How can I do that for you in the bedroom? I love making love to you, and wish it could happen more.". Make the conversation about what you want to do for her at first. That should open up her telling you what she wants, and her asking, hopefully, what she can do for you. If you make it sound blaming "You really need to..." or "why can't you?" sounds blaming and negative, and would cause her to feel inadequate. Good luck to you!!!

I have a couple pair of boots that I always feel sexy in!! I dressed as Catwoman one year ( I was waitressing, and they were thigh highs, but no heels), and I thought the male customers were going to fight over me!! It was great!

I saw someone posted that they like women in boots, so it got me thinking: What normal, everyday accessory gets you hot? Whether you are a man or a woman that appreciates a nice lookin' woman! I've known some men that like pearls on ladies. Drove a friend of my BF nuts when I wore a string of them with a tank top and jeans on! Other men liked my tongue ring I had (took that out though). I like women that have pretty, well dressed eyes. I also like seeing women in boots too, and nice fitting jeans. Plus, I like (and have) naval rings on flat tanned tummies!

Have you ever partnered up with someone knowing that they had an STD? Have you gotten an STD? ( Don't answer that if you're not comfortable with it) If so, was it treatable?

Lush put it very well. In my words, there is no age when you SHOULD have sex! It's not like a mandatory thing to do. It's a question of how mature you are, and are you ready for possible consequences? Pregnancy, STD's, those just don't happen to "somebody else". Trust me. These are REAL consequences to sexual actions. Plus, girls do have a tendancy to develop a softer spot for their "first". Make sure that the man you are willing to give yourself to, is someone deserving of such feelings. Don't do it with a guy of legal age (18) if you're a minor. Like Howard stated, you will brand him as a sex offender for life if you are not of age. That's real too. I was 16 when I lost my virginity. It was with the guy I wanted it to be with, and I do and don't regret that decision. I regret how it wasn't as special as I had hoped, we used protection too, but this was my childhood sweetheart. And, at the time, I thought he really loved me, and he did, in his own 17 yr old self way I suppose. We broke up cuz he was seeing another girl too, and I told him he had a month to make up his mind which of us he wanted to be with, and he couldn't, so I said see ya!! I never regretted that decision either. We got back together years later, and he became my first husband. THAT decision I DO regret!!! I told you all of this cuz of the emotions that a woman's "first" can bring out in you. Shaving is a personal choice. All the men I have been with (9 total) have LOVED the shaven me. Though, they really didn't care either way, to tell the truth. Be sure to think out your first time. Don't do it in the back of the car, or in a hurried way. Make sure you can trust him too!!! That's a biggie right there!! So if you decide at the last minute that you are not ready, he will be honorable enough to stop, and not force you to do something you don't want to do, just so he won't have blue balls!!! Have him help you make a memorable sexual opening for you. You'll be glad you did!!

Geez Howard, if I smoked, I'd need a cigarette right now!!

Now, if you have a long term Internet relationship with someone who takes you away from your partner every night, you leave him or her to go to your computer to cybersex with them, you fail to have sex with them, you are consumed with your fantasy Internet lover over real life lover THEN I do consider it cheating. I think the line is very blurred, but I can distinguish it. I have to agree with that quote from Mikala. Now, for my humble opinion, being as it is. My ex and I split due to financial problems, and his cybering. Not neccasarily the whole act of cybering, but the fact that he accused me ALL of the time of cheating online, that flirting online was cheating, and I was cybering, IHO. I wasn't doing any of that at all. That, and he was downloading nude pics of LOCAL women and sending nude pics of himself to them as well (lemme just say in all honesty, and not bitterness, that it's no WONDER he wanted me to get a high-resolution scanner for the little guy!!). If he had been honest with me, "hey hon, I'm cybering, wanna join?" I don't think I'd have had a problem with it, but him being a hypocrite bothered me. Plus, I found logs of him cybering with LOCAL women on FireTalk as well. He denied all around that he was married. I think that was a biggie too. And the whole LOCAL easily accessable women in the vicinity. Also, it was the whole thing of him thinking I was stupid when it came to him covering it all up. I was, at the time, an instructor at a computer training center, and had the knowlege of finding stuff on computers that he thought he had "cleverly" gotten rid of. Now, if my current hubby wanted to cyber, all he'd have to do is tell me, and I'd be fine with that. So long as they weren't local, and he didn't start ignoring me for the computer.

Well, when I was newly divorced, that is EXACTLY what I wanted NSA!! Now, casual unprotected sex is a bad thing. Or just unprotected sex period I guess I should state instead. But, at least with that type of ad, there are no false hopes, no leading on, and no real expectations. Not a bad thing if that's what you want, IMO at least.

Read some of the product reviews in this forum, they are very helpful for ideas. And let your man see some of the reviews as well as show him the product. There is usually a link to the product in the review, so you can see what Mikala (usually it's her posting the reviews ). He will definitely like the reviews at least. Also, maybe ask him what he's always wanted to do sexually. If your up for it, try it out!! Baby steps, or jump right in!! Remember, sex is about the both of you getting pleasure out of it~adult fun!! So make sure that whatever you try, you are willing to do as well.

Glad to see an update!! WTG on the decent break up. Hopefully, this man will learn from his mistake, and treat the next lady LIKE A lady!

Glad that worked for you. It looks like some warped disco ball!!

I had something similar to that, except it was curved for the G-spot, and I loved it!! I was heart broken when it died!! I wish more men would put reviews up here too, it's nice to get a man's view on sex toys, whether they be for a woman, or man!! I want to get my man a few too, and would love to hear more male's opinions!! Who's game?

Thanks Mikala!! This is my next purchase I think!!!

Yes, that is strange, but maybe he likes a little bit of pain with sex?

I know that this post is kinda old, but I am trying to catch up a bit, and hopefully help! I've helped a few friends "come out of their sexual shell" by showing them stores, toys, and videos to try! Plus, I've been telling LOTS of people about this site as well!! Mikala, is yet again SOOOOOOOOOOOO right!! Sex is about having fun, and if you're in a manogomous relationship, showing how much you love and care for that person. It's also about 2 people, not just one pleasing the other and that's it. It's for BOTH of you!! Remember to try new things, keep an open mind, and if there's something that you tried that you didn't like, voice it, cuz if you don't tell him that you don't like it, and he does, he may want to do it more and more, and you'll wind up not wanting to have sex at all!! There are LOTS of different types of porn out there. I love porn! They don't all have to have, guy on girl, blow job, girl on girl, blow job, doggie style, guy on girl, ending credits. There are different levels of it. If you want a bit of privacy to order these types of videos, there is another catalog/site, which I'm sure you've heard of/seen: www.carolwrightgifts.com They have some adult videos as well as some mild toys. The videos are unrated, so they are probably a lot like romance novels come to life, but I am not sure. I hope you're able to discover a bunch more sexual fun in your marriage!!!

I met my current husband at a bar, of all places!! I always swore that you couldn't find a lasting relationship at a bar!! Now, I met one guy at a rollerskating rink that I frequented, and he was lots of fun. Another guy I dated, I saw at the auto parts store (he worked there) and told him if he was single, to call me, and handed him my business card. He walked me out to my car with my car parts, and called me that night. I met 3 dates at work.

OK, I've read the posts, and WOW!! All I can say, is that I've dealt with my fair share of jealous BFs, and 2 husbands. The first husband I found was jealous cuz he was cheating himself. My current (2nd) husband, will sometimes say "who are you getting all dolled up for?" when I am getting ready for work. I've always tried to look my best when going to work, whether it be the waitressing job at a little diner, or at a Fine Jewelry counter. So I tell him I do this for work. He knows this. Sometimes his comments irritate the heck outta me , but I am too stubborn to let it bother me. I know he's been cheated on, and can understand it to a degree, but I've never given him a reason to be this way. Nor am I afraid that he will go all violent on me. Now, he's threatened that if I ever cheated, that I'd better run. But I've also come back to him that if he ever cheated, I would cut off his penis as well, so it's serious about the cheating, but not the actions. Make sense? As far as Kitty goes, I'm not sure what to tell you here. If it keeps getting worse, maybe not only reconsider your relationship, but wonder if he is cheating on you. Cheaters get guilty consciouses, and then think "well, if I'M doing this, why can't SHE be cheating too?", and turns the guilt around on YOU. I'm not saying he is or isn't, but it's been my experience that this is what is normally happening. Now, with regards to Howard, who normally makes lots of sense. I respect his past experiences, understand them, and sympathize. BUT, not all cheaters are going to get violent. It depends on the person, and their anger threshold. If the guy is getting demanding, controlling (i.e. telling you what you can and can't wear, who you will and will not hang with), then this IS a major cause for concern. If he gets violent about what he thinks of your actions or what you're wearing (like hitting walls, throwing things, ripping up your clothing) that is also a MAJOR cause for concern. These are clues I've picked up on at least. Your explained behavior of just walking by, watching some guys bowl, IMO, is NOT flirting. Unless, like mentioned, there was certian body language done by you. You can't help comments made to you or about you from the opposite sex, and he should feel flattered that someone else finds you attractive, so long as they were not crude or disrespectful about it to you.