teedosgirl

Gabby, I so totally understand the stress you went through while your husband was away and I've been where you are. About 3 and a half years ago my daughters dad was killed in iraq. So when you say that the whole family goes to war you are soooo right. Then my husband now went to iraq, oh my was that scary. Well while I awaited his return, I had all these ideas and expectations from him. But wow was I wrong. Yeah we had sex but it just wasn't the same. Hell, he wasn't the same when he got back. No he never fired at anyone either but he knew what was going on and apparantly that was enough. I was sooo frustrated cause I wanted so much more and just like you the more i tried the more he rejected. I spent so many nights crying myself to sleep. I will say it did get better, but after a lot of patience on my part. The both of us had to learn how to readjust to each others life styles, wants and needs. Basically we had to leave sex out of it for awhile so that we could get back to just being US. You obvioulsy love your husband or you wouldn't put yourself through the torment, god knows it takes a lot of courage. Some may not like my advice but I would suggest putting sex out of it for awhile. Just get to know each other again. Let him and you adjust to life together again. You've both been without eachother for so long that you probably learned how to adapt and then to just jump right back in well its hard for both. Just take your time. It will get better cause it obviously cant get any worse.

I am not the tiniest thing by far. I agree with the fact that bigger women are as sexy as they want to be. Its all in how you carry yourself. Your own self esteem affects how others look at you definately. I noticed that I feel sexier after I take a little time out for myself whether it be getting my hair done, tanning, excercising, or even getting a little time alone with the hubby. The more active I am the better I feel not just about sex but about everything. I just think that its more about the beauty within.

Once upon a time i was a very quiet person in bed. It wasn't cause I wasn't enjoying it but because I was embarrassed to react to dramatically. I didn't want to scare the guy off. Of course now there is no holding back. If the sex is worth screaming for...well I scream. Of course there are times when being quiet is a necessity and thats ok too. But no holding back for me anymore.

I too hated porn. The mere thought of it made me sick to my stomach. I always looked at it like....well why do you have to look at all those other girls...what i'm not good enough. Oh i absolutely forbid it. But then.. i grew up and once I started to explore mine and my husbands sexuality, realized that it wasn't so bad. As a matter of fact I love to watch porn with my hubby. Gets him hard quick. Gives us new ideas, new positions, and you better believe we try every last one of them. (makes you realize how very flexible your body can be ) My hubby, however is still too embarrassed to rent them so I just love this website. I just get them from here. We dont watch them too often but when we do it definately intensifies our intimacy and the foreplay is sooo much longer, which is my absolute favorite part.

As a matter of fact I have had those and you are right when you rupture them damn they hurt. When I was pregnant with my first child, in my third trimester, I got a ton of these little bumps. OMG i freaked. And I was so young I never knew anything like this ever existed. Come to find out thats what it was. But what really sucked about the whole thing was that he didn't check them until I gave birth. This doctor came into my room to tell me that he had checked that bump from my vaginal area and they were only cysts. The bad part was that I had a room full of people. I so bad just wanted to crawl under the bed cause they all gave me this horrible look. Oh it was aweful......

I must say... my hormones are absolutely raging this time of month. More than usual. However, I try very hard to not have sex at this time. Therefore my husband gets lots of blowjobs, normally turning into more than that. I do think that it helps with the cramps and for me it makes my bleeding slow down and my OTR time is much much shorter.

Well sad to say, I have cheated, been cheated on, and been the girl that someone cheated with. But first I dont want anyone to judge me there were a lot of underlying factors not that it makes it right but it happens. As far as being cheated on.... Awhile back my husband had this huge infatuation with my best friend. My husband and i went out to the bar one night and the friend showed up. Well by this time i was quite trashed and off dancing while he and her were sitting at the table. Turns out they were rubbing each other under the table. Well i was clueless so after bar closing we ended up going back to her house. Apparantly they were waiting for me to pass out so that they could do their thing. Well luckily I'm not stupid enough to pass out because by then i had started to suspect something. As far as being the one who was cheated with. Me and my husband were split up so I was free and going out. Well this other guy that I had known for years had split up from his wife and they were living in separate states. So we had our weekend and he ended up going back to his wife (no big deal). To this day 5 years later, she is still up my ass about it. I wish I had known then what I know now, I would have never have done that.... And as far as cheating, I regret that more than anything. When my husband and I were split up I got with this guy, in a relationship, and well I ended up pregnant. When I was about 6 months pregnant we got back together and he's ended up raising her as his own. Her dad was killed in Iraq. Its been hell for all of us. Nobody liked my daughter for a very long time. Well nobody in his family anyways. So cheating almost ruined my life. I definately learned my lesson and I will never do it again.

Yeah, I know that PID can be caused by other factors, however we aren't sure where it came from the doc never really said. But it is very much so considered an std, which sucks.... I have been to other docs since then and they ask if I've ever had an std, and I say I dont know but i had PID once and they're like well yeah then you have. So I dont know. I also have and always have had problems with my female organs and would very much like to think that it was caused by that but the fact remains that I just dont know. However, thanks for the sites I have a friend having trouble with PID right now so I will pass these sites on to her. I'm sure she could use them..

Before my husband and I met I was very very sexually active. I always did that same thing I would always have sex with them because..well that is what i thought they wanted and then they wouldn't leave me. However when I met him we were actually the best of friends for awhile and then even when we did start going out I never wanted to have sex with him and couldn't bring myself to even when he tried to. (of course he was a virgin at the time) I at first thought that maybe i wasn't attracted to him in that way and that we should just be friends. So I tried that and I went back to the same ole thing. Turned out that I was miserable that way and I missed being with him so much. So we tried going out again and well 12 years later we are on our 6th year of marriage. I hope you find time to slow down and really meet someone for who he is and not for the sexual aspect. If its the right one then the sex will come when its right and it will feel right too....

As a matter of fact a long long time ago I ended up with an std. I had no idea that he had it though... had i known I would have never been with him. I got PID (pelvic inflammatory infection) and it was painful and I was very sick.. The crappy part about that was that I didn't even know I had it until I started vomiting what looked like bile. I read an article that said that you could have effects of it the rest of your life. I was treated with an antibiotic (2 rounds) and to this day no more problems with it thank god....

I just want to say thank you all for your input. We are trying to talk about our sexual preferences and dislikes a lot lately.. As a matter of fact I think that we more often talk about it rather than do it... LOL... However it has gotten better the past couple of times.. I have been introducing him to movies and well the other day a sex store for his first time. It was great. I could tell he was uncomfortable but he did good. He even helped me pick out our newest toy and some massage oil (which I have never been able to get him to agree to).. I think we are getting somewhere and I have every intention to be persistent about it... I dont want our intimate sessions to die out forcing either of us to go somewhere else (not that I would ever do that) but it scares me that he might. YOu know I do have one more ? though... One reply said that there are ways to keep his erection after he goes can you direct me to the right article or cream (whatever works)????????

I am kind of new to this forum.. I've never posted but i've read a lot. I got a lot of ideas though(thanks all). So anyways I need some ideas on how to get my husband to open up to me a little. We've been married for 6 years and to tell you the truth our sex life has gotten a little boring.. You know the same old missionary or me on top nothing new. So we had this really long talk about it and both decided we need to try new things so lately I've been doing my research, looking into movies, and trying to suggest new ideas. He seems interested but when it comes down to it , he just seems so embarrassed. HELP!!!