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Biting is something I have recently discovered. I admit that I bite Mike's ear whenever I get the chance because it really gets him going, but recently he decided to take a bite and I loved it. He likes to do it when I am lying on my stomach. He bites my neck, shouldes, back, thighs and mostly my butt. He bites hard enough to leave bruises but has never drawn blood. I know when he starts biting I am in for a great session! Vix

Babe- We have known each other forever and a day. You are a beautiful woman inside and out. The reason I say that you need to talk to someone and get help learning to be more slef confident is not to be mean to you but because I know what you have been through. Your ex-husband was very controlling and demanding. Not a day went by that he didn't belittle you and make you feel small. I think the reason you end up with some of these men you end up with is because on some subconcious level you do not think you deserve better. You do! i also think at times, that you are trying very hard to find someone exactly the opposite of what you ex was. That's not the solution either. You have so many friends who love you and think you're the best. Not to mention a son who adores you and wants nothing more than for you to be proud of him. Take some time and get to know you and what you want. The right man is out there and when the time is right you'll find each other. Love ya, Vix

Ok so stupid as it sounds I finally worked up the nerve to ask Mike if he knew about squirting. Which he did. So then I told him I would like too. I didn't know if I could really do it but you know what...I DID!!!! Holy cow I can't believe I've been missing out on this. If it hadn't been for TooTimid I wouldn't have ever know about this. So a big fat thank you a kiss to everyone on here for educating me and mostly thanks to Mike for making it happen!! Whoo Hooo! Vix

I guess I must have been pretty sheltered too because when she came and asked me for advice I had no idea what she was talking about. The more she explained it the less I understood. It has taken me a little while to convince her to post her and ask for advice. I am so glad that she did. I do not know yet what she has decided. I am sure Babe will let you all know. I spoke to her today and she said she was really taking everyone's advice to heart> She said she still had alot of doubts. I told her I thought that was her answer right there. Yes race does play a big part in it. She told me that the "Master" was to be told all the time about how he was superior to the weak white male. She said he asked if she was ready to be part of a suck party. She didn't know what that was. He told her the male slave didn't lnow what was really going to happen to him and that part of her job would be to "break" him. She was suppose to humiliate him and degrade him. She is in way over her head and I am worried about her. I am praying daily that she listens to all the advice she got here. You guys have been great and boy has this been a learning experience. Thanks! Vix

Please Babe listen to them! I am so happy that you posted about this. I think this is a very bad idea. You know exactly what I think and feel about this whole situation. This has got to be extremely dangerous on many levels. Please, please, please listen to Howard, Mikayla and the others. They really do have your best interest at heart. You already have so many self confidence issues and tis won't help. So if you don't take my advice then take theirs. Vix

Hi Babe- i'm glad you took my advice and joined. You will be glad that you did. Please listen to the advice you get here. These are great people and they really do want to help. Love ya! Vix

In my opinion only it's not just about the over all length of his penis. It's also about the girth. If forced to say I would chose width over length most of the time. I agree with everyone else to a certain extent. It's not how much he has but what he does with what he has. More important than his size is the size of his desire to please. Vix

I am a store manager for a women's clothing store. We carry sizes 4 to 24. There are just as many beautiful ladies that come in to shop on the plus side as their is on the smaller side. Find a store that carries things you like first. Then find a good salesperson who knows how to fit you properly. If she knows what she is doing she will be able to analyze your figure type and know what styles will work best for you. One of the most common mistakes I see women make is the whole baggy clothes thing. It works the same as if your clothes are too small. You may think you are covering up or hiding flaws but you are only making yourself look bigger than you are. I had some self confidence problems also. The best advice I was given was to start every morning by looking in the mirror and saying one positive thing about myself. It doesn't matter if you say the same thing to yourself every day for a month or if you find something new to say each day. Just start saying something good. My hair looks good today, I have pretty eyes, Blue looks great on me. Whatever you say it must be positive. The other thing you have to say is: I like myself. I am the best me there is. You may not think you're anything special but you are. We all are. We're God's creations and that makes us special. When you boyfriend gives you a compliment, smile, say thank you and mean it! Good Luck! Vix

I am so glad that so many people agree on this. Until meeting Mike I never really thought of it as being something funny. But now I admit one of the things I enjoy most is laughing with Mike about it. However I would never tell him that, afterall he likes to tickle me after we are done and snuggling up to each other. Hmm, now that I think about it when he starts tickling me it always leads to us tussling about and then of course to round too. Nope, i'll never complain about the tickling again! LOL Vix

As I previously stated I am currently involved in an interracial relationship. When I look at Mike I don't see the color of his skin. I see the man I love. The issue of children has already been discussed. Mike has 3 wonderful kids and I will be thrilled to be their "mother." We have decided to leave the possibility of our own child in God's hands. You see we are both strong believers in God and his wisdom. We both believe that ANY child is a miracle and should be treated as such. Should God see fit to bless us then we will both be thrilled to have a little one to love and nurture. Yes, our child will be mixed but most importantly it will be loved and raised by two loving parents. I am sorry that you had challenges growing up. All of us have had our challenges. I have had my fair share to overcome. However unlike alot of people I realized a long time ago that life is about choices. I could choose to let issues in my past dictate and control my future. I refuse to let bad things that have happened make me a bitter angry person. I do not know you Charmain. You, of course, are entitled to your opinions and you have the right to state them. However it is not necessary to attack people you do not know. Just remember that you reap what you sow. If you face people with an angry and resentful attitude, that is what they will give back to you. I am not rich, nor will I ever likely be. I enjoy what I do for a living and therefore the money isn't my first priority. Mike makes a decent living so together we should be able to build a comfortable future for ourselves and our family. Comfortable does not mean rich. I dated another man who could have given me anything I wanted and yes we shared the same race. He wasn't the right man for me. He didn't complete me. I didn't feel like I had found my other half with him. Building a future with Mike will have it's challenges but they are challenges that I relish facing because I know that we will be able to meet and overcome any and all of them together. The funniest part of all of this is that after having a very long discussion with my Dad, who is a good ol' boy from the south, he told me that the thing he wanted more than anything in the world is for me to find someone I love and who will make me happy for the rest of my life. Mikayla, Howard, Tyger and oh so many others have such wonderful and knowledgable advice to give. All of it coming from experience and from wanting to help those who want it. I am older than Mikayla in biological years but I can still recognize the wisdom in the things she says and take good advice when I get it. Mikayla doesn't need me to defend her. She can do a better job of it than anyone else can. I value her contributions and put alot of stock in the things she says. Maybe in time your contributions will be as valuable but so far they just sound like a bitter, young person venting. Vix

Thanks Ash! What can I say. I am a reading freak and Sherrilyn Kenyon is one of my favorites. I'm at Borders the day a new book comes out. She makes her hunters very sexy. I love to read and will read almost anything but these books are among my all time favorites. What would you expect though. The only writer I rank above her is Ann Rice. Vix

Welcome Ash! Mikayla is correct. sherrilyn Kenyon writes a dark hunter series of books. Archeron is the center figure in those books. I believe in the books he is a good from Atlantis who was named after the river Archeron. Vix

I have to say I agree dancing with someone special can be very exciting. I love in an apartment so I try to always have some sort of background noise going on because I tend to be very vocal. If I happen to have the stereo on instead of the TV, Mike always pulls me close and slow dances with me naked before we make love. He knows it really gets me primed for what's too come. Vix

Ok, I admit I had to actually go a peruse my bedroom to see what it would be. To me none of it is silly but of course that is to me. However the one ting that seems to always get comments is my elvis collection. I have plates, pictures, figurines, gold records and such covering the walls. A friend recently commented that Mike must have alot of self-confidence to preform in the King all of the time. LOL Vix

My hubby to be loves it if i use my silver bullet on his balls while I have him in my mouth. Throw in an altoid and he goes absolutely crazy. Vix

I think the general theme here is communication and I have to say I completely agree. However I want to share a similar experience my best friend is going thru. I introduced my best male friend and my best female friend a few years ago. I knew they would hit it off immediately and sure enough they did. They got engaged and my best girlfriend decide it was share time. I was surprised to find out she was still a virgin. I shared with her what knowledge i could and referred her to this website. Right before the wedding my best guy friend came to talk to me because he had concerns and thought since she and i had been best friends since we were 5 i might be able to help. He found that when they were together and things started getting intense everytime he tried to touch her clit she pulled away. Even though he knew she wanted to remain a virgin until they married he could understand why she shut him down everytime things reach that point. Feeling really bad because I hooked these two up and knew they really loved each other I told him I would talk to her. So a few day later after an intnse shopping day we stopped for lunch and I brought the subject up. After 30+ years as best friends she totally shut me out and closed off from me. On the way home she pulled the car over and burst into tears. After lots of crying she finally told me that as a child she had been abused by a family friend. Although penetration never occurred, he liked to fondle her and stimulate her clit. Not knowing what else to do I went home with her and we called an incest survivors hotline and they were able to get her in touch with someone who could help her. I am happy to say that they are married now and will soon be welcoming baby number 2. I'm not trying to say that this is what your girlfriend is going thru, but just be open and understanding with her when you talk to her. I think this is an awesome site to learn from and there are some great people on here who share an give the best advice. Maybe you can get her to join you on here to hep her increase her knowledge. You know what they say...knowledge is power. Good Luck! Vix

1) Vin Diesel (Big surprise huh?) 2) Paul Stanley (KISS lead singer) 3) Sebastian Bach (Skid Row) 4) Hugh Jackman 5) Thomas Jane (Deep Blue Sea, Punisher) That's it for right now. Of course it changes often, with the exception on Vin and Paul that is. Vix

I am currently involved with someone from a different race. Although neither of us sees the other in that way, it is something that we encounter often. I have currently moved away from my friends and family for just that reason. My father is one of those good ole' boys from the south. That being said, he was very displeased with me when i introduced him to Mike. For as long as I remember he has always preached race with race. I honestly, never gave it much thought until I met Mike. Even now I don't see the difference in our skin. I see the wonderful man he is. I see the man who loves me unconditionally and fulfills all of my wants, needs and desires. If I had been asked I probably would have described my ideal man as some one who looks like Vin Diesel. Mike is nothing like that. He is my height, thin and a full head of hair. LOL. I wouldn't trade him for anyone not even Vin. I live in a small midwestern town and suprisingly find the people here to be more accepting of us than when I lived in the city. When we are out together we occassionally still get stares and comments but we have discussed it and decided that if people truly love us and want us to be happy then they will accept us becuase we love each other and make each other happy. Although alot of people may not own up to it, because they are trying to be politically correct, there are still alot of people who do not feel that people from different cultures, races or backgrounds should mix. I say true love is a rare and beautiful thing and whenever you are lucky enough to find it you should grab it with both hands. But that's just my opinion. Vix

In the last relationship I had, my boyfriend always wanted to finish inside of me. No matter how good I was going at it or how much I was enjoying it when he was about to come he would always pull me off, flip me over and finish inside me. Unfortunately it wasn't always what I wanted. I took the advice I've seen given here so often and took him some place where we could talk. After a long discussion I realized that he wasn't going to change and I wasn't willing to give up something I was sure I would enjoy because he was being rigid or domineering and it was just a marker for things to come. After some soul searching I decided to move on. The new man I'm involved with is very open and willing to try most anything. The first time we found ourselves in this position, to be perfectly honest I didn't ask him what he wanted. I just went for it. I could tell when he was about to climax so I drew him in deeper, which he really appreciated, and when he came I didn't hesitate I swallowed it all down. Did he like it? Well, I'm guessing by the way he grabbed my hand and held on he did. At the time I didn't know if I would like it. I just knew from everything I read on here that it is something that most men really enjoy. I have no regrets and will definitely swallow again. To be perfectly honest even if I hadn't enjoyed the taste or feel, knowing that it was something that made the experience for him more enjoyable, I would do it. In my opinion only, part of what makes sex so great is being able to please as well as be pleased. I think alot of times we are too easily influenced by things we hear from friends, family and others. We develop hangups based on what we were raised to believe or from things we're told by others. I know I have been guilty of it. Finding this board has been very informative and empowering. In the end it's each individuals CHOICE to swallow or not. If a person wants to they can come up with a hundred reasons why not to but in the end it's because they choose not too. Well, that's my 2 cents! LOL Vix

Thanks everyone who answered. I felt like I was in the right but you know how it is when you're close to a situation, it's hard to see all points of view. I know I've said it before but again, I'm so glad that I found this forum and all the great people here. You all are the best!!

My current bf is originally from Egypt. He has been here working on his master's degree. Unfortunately he recently had a family tragedy and nwo has to return to Egypt. It seems as though this will be a permanent stay for him. We just had a huge fight because of a request he made which I think is completely unfair of him to make. Neither of us want him to leave but it's something he must do for the sake of his family. We realize that this kind of long distance relationship will never work. So I was blown away when he asked me that in the future when I become involved with someone else to not engage in anal sex with them. He said it was something special we shared and I should not be with anyone else in that way. That is if I cared about him. I think it's totally unfair of him to ask that of me. I'm one to always keep my promises so he knows if I make that promise to him I will keep it. I don't think he has any right to ask this of me. Am I wrong?

Thank you Mikayla. Although I would never want to go thru this situation again, it was a learning experience and definitely helped me to appreciate the good things in my life. It also helped make me the person I am toady. Someone who is much stronger and aware and would not fall into it again. Not every man ends up like this. One of my assistants at work found herself in a similar situation. She addressed the issue with her hubby. She told him what behaviour she would accept and what she wouldn't. When he relapsed she gave him a choice. Counseling or divorce. In September she will celebrate her 12 year Anniversary. He got counseling and eventually they went to counseling together. I think most often it does progress over time but sometimes it's hard to recognize the signs. I do volunteer work at the center that helped me when I needed it and alot of times all I do is share my experiences and listen to women that have had similar experiences. Most often I find that it's easier for them to talk to me than it is some of the others because I share my own personal experiences with them. Like them I felt stupid for being involved with someone like that but I also tend to find that like me the behaviour progressed over time and they did not recoginze it for what it was. Also like me more often than not, there was some emotional abuse and the women felt like it was their fault. After hearing some of their experiences I can only imagine the things Howard must hear and I can understand his reaction. For anyone in this situation all I can advise is to deal with it quickly and get help. There are so many great organizations out there that willingly and freely provide assistance to women in this type of situation.

They say you can't learn from other people's mistakes and though I believe that to be true I do want to say that whatever decision you make, proceed with caution. Please!! My first serious boyfriend was 6 years older than me. I thought he was the greatest thing God ever put on the planet. In the beginning I didn't catch al of the clues or signs that something wasn't right. When he would get upset because some other man said something to me I would just think it was because he cared so much about me. Being on the inside it was difficult to see the changes that were taking place. Over a period of time I stopped going out with most of my friends because he would get jealous or upset if I didn't ask permission first. There were times when we'd talk and he wouldn't want to do anything so I'd go to a movie with a girlfriend and then he'd freak out on me. Finally it was easier to just not go. It didn't happen over night. It escalated over a period of time. First was the jealousy and then came the anger. I was young and "stupid", I thought that if i could just prove to him I loved only him everything would be ok. After a year and a half of dating exclusively, one evening I went out with my best friend, who was also his cousin. We went to get an ice cream cone. while at the ice cream shop we ran into her brother. My friend and I have been best friends since we were 5 years old. Her family is like my family. When we all went back to her house, boyfirend was there. He had been drinking and when he saw us he hit the roof. That was the first time he hit me. I wish I could say I was smart enough to walk away and it was the last time, but I wasn't. I stuck around and went through alot more episodes of his jealousy and rage. I stayed with him for 15 years. I probably would have stayed even longer but one night he found me while I was at the bowling alley, bowling with my church league. He lost his temper in the bowling alley. By the time the police arrived I was unconcious because he was choking me. I spent 2 days in the hospital and with the help of some counselors there and family I walked away and never looked back. Not all men are like this. The man I'm with now is wonderful and would never lay a hand on me. However I do caution any woman who is dealing with a jealous man to be careful and to be sure you have a good support system. There are alot of great organizations out there to help women. Not ever jealous man ends up being abusive but the issue has to be dealt with and resolved right away. In my opinion only.

Thank you Howard. My understanding is that I was only unconcious for a few seconds at the most. I will definitely try the deep breathing should I find myself in this situation again.