babeinwoods

When I was married my husband used to get really excited if I would play a mommy type role with him. Now I don't mean diapers or anything like that. He liked to pretend he was about 14 or 15 and I was his Mommy. I always thought it was alittle odd but it sure did get him off. Babe

Hey y'all! I know I haven't posted for a while. I've been trying to get caught up on all of the articles and some of the back post, not to mention getting things geared up for the holidays. After that my "busy" season will start. You gotta love the start of the New Year and everyone's New Year Resolutions to get fit. Now here's my predicament. I've been dating a really nice man here in town. I live in a pretty small town in the middle of nowhere so everybody knows everybody. He's a great guy and we've been having a lot of fun together. This past Saturday night we decided it was time to take our relationship to the next level. Now y'all I took the advice I read here and started a discussion with him over dinner about my expectations, likes, dislikes and such. Again we had so much in common it was almost scary. After dinner we went back to his house and started to move things along. Things seemed to be going well, although I noticed that everytime I tried to go, south of the border, so to speak he would move my hands away. Finally I gave up and just went with the flow. After he gave me a great orgasm with both his fingers and tongue we moved to the bedroom. Now I gotta say I got the shock of my life when he undressed. I guess there's really no way I can say it nicely but he had the smallest penis I have ever seen. Now I know that size does not matter and it's all in how it's used but it was bad. I keep myself in good shape physically and I do my kegels everyday but I swear I couldn't feel him inside me at all he was so small. I thought it could have been positioning or something of the sort so I gave it the old college try. After four attempts all I got was a comment about being sex starved and how much I must like his penis. He has been calling me everyday and wanting to see me again. I really do like this man but I don't want to go thru the frustration of sex with him again. The orgasms he gave me with his hands and mouth were great but the truth of the matter is the actual act left me less than satisfied. I really don't want to hurt his feelings and I am not sure how or if we can fix this situation. I've been scouring the articles here trying to figure something out but I will be seeing him tomorrow night. I do NOT want to hurt his feelings but I don't know how to tell him what is wrong. I know he's starting to wonder because we usually see each other everday and I have been avoiding him since Saturday night. Is there a way around this. I mean does anyone have any advice on positions or anything that might make it better for me. Anything advice on how to salvage this relationship would be great! Like I said he's a great guy in everyway but I know that if we don't overcome this issue it will only get worse. Thanks for listening! Babe

I am learning as I go so to speak Howard. I have always admired my friend for he self confidence and in the last year I have really seen that grow in her. Not to say she is cocky but she is so confident of herself and what she has to say now. She is one of the bravest people I know. Her life has changed so dramaically in the last 6 months and whenever talk to her about it she always says life is about choices and I own my choices. I have decdied to try and emulate her attitude. I've noticed when we go to lunch or out to a party people always look at us. I know that most of them talk to me because of the way I look but time and time again they come back and talk to her because she can hold an intelligent conversation with them and she is totally at ease with herself. Since she has moved I've ran into 2 of her old boyfriends. Both of them complained about losing her. They didn't realise what they were losing until it was gone. It has helped me to realise I want the same thing. No not exs pining for me but people missing me for my wit and conversation and for me the person inside. I think I am on the right road. Vix says I just have to let the inner me shine through. She has always said I am as beautiful on the inside as I am on the outside but I was too beat down to show it. Now I am choosing to let the real me shine thru. By the way I like the sixties. Groovy just happens to be one of my favorite words. Babe

Actually I agree with you somewhat Howard. When I was with my exh-husband each orgasm I had was more intense than the one befroe. I should have been clearer. I find that when I am masterbating, the more I do it in a day the longer it takes me and the less intense it seems to be. Now if I only do it once or twice the orgasms are great but if I go beyond that I notice a difference. I think it's probably mental, because I don't have the same problem when I am with a man. Babe

I am also allergic to latex. One of my favorite toys is latex so I used a lambskin condom and covered it completely. I am still able to use it that way. Babe

Thanks for the great advice Hoawrd. I did find one of those questionnaires and filled it out. It was very insight full and more informative than I would have expected. I have never had any doubts about my looks but about the me on the inside. After answering these questions I think you are right, I am not so bad after all. My friend Vix, has been trying to hook me up with this man for awhile now. We have met a couple of times and he is very charming, articulate and handsome. The one reason I hesitated to go out with him is because he is blind. Now before anyone freaks out on me, I have nothing against blind people. It's just that I always thought my best attributes were my physical ones and I couldn't see how he could be attracted to me if he couldn't see me. So after taking your advice Howard I called Vix lat night (sorry about bugging you at the Renaissance Fair), and now I have a date on Friday night with him. Funny thing is the first thing I did this morning is get the paper and read every news story so I can be up on current affairs and be able to hold a conversation with him. My next project is write a list of things about myself I want to share and a list of things about him I would like to know. Thanks again for all the wisdom, Babe

Are you talking about the orgasms you have with you so or ones you have when you are pleasuring yourself alone? Or both? I know for me, the more times I pleasure myself during the day the long it takes for me to have an orgasm. If I have already reached that point several times then they seem to lose some of their intensity too. Of course if I am with a fella then this does not seem to apply. Just a thought. Babe

Hey Girlfriend! How come I didn't know about this? We've spent way toooooooooo much time talking about my problems. We need to do lunch and I need to hear more about this. You know I am living vicariously through you right now. Babe

I greatly appreciate everyone's advice and input. Now that I have "kicked him to the curb" I am going to spend some time learning about me. I am going to try and figure out what I am really looking for and needing from the man in my life. Babe (still living in the woods but a lot more knowledgable now!)

As insane as it may sound I really did consider it. I have heard the saying hindsight is 20/20. Now that I have ened the relationship I know what a bad thing it was really. I need to take Vix's advice and learn to love myself before I get involved with anyone else. Babe

Thank you so much for the care and concern. I just need to learn to be patient and wait for the right man to come along. Babe

Thank you for the hug and the encouragement. Everyone here has been very helpful. I guess I should have listened to vix, my friend, from the beginning but sometimew when someone is in a relationship that is working and you're not it is hard to listen to what they say. Babe

I like to read Romance novels also. They are harmless fun. I like Laurell Hamilton's books. Alot of them are set in St. Louis which is not to far from where I live so it's neat to recognise some of the places she is talking about. Vix loaned me some of her Shrrilyn Kenyon books, which I know for a fact she loves, but there were too many characters in them for me to be able to keep them all straight. Babe

I have what amounts to a stupid question. What makes a person attactive? Is it more than just their physical being? I am 37 years old and age has never bothered me. Once again I am finding myself alone. I have been told many times that I am attractive. I know they mean physically. I am 5'5'' inches tall and have a fairly athletic body. When I was younger I was a dancer and did gymnastics. Even now I still do some dance and I teach yoga. I am proud to say I can still put my leg behind my head. My body is almost as good today as it was before I had my son 16 years ago. I have long blond hair and blue eyes. Yet the only men I ever seem to attract are losers. I want to fin a good man to share my life with but instead I find the one who wants me to have sex with other men and not him. My friend Vix says it's my attitude and my low self esteem. So when you look at someone of the opposite sex can you really tell if they have low self esteem? I find it hard to believe that you can. I know different people like different things. Some men like redheads and some like blonds. Some like butts and some like boobs. That I can understand, but low self esteem? Part of me wonders if she is right because she is not what you would typically consider attractive. Vix has a pretty face but she is a plus size woman. I know that alot of men are not attracted to a plus size person. When we go out it seems like where ever we go people respond to her and not me. I know she is smart and very up on current affairs. No matter what the subject she can carry on an intelligent conversation and isn't scared to say what she thinks. She says I need to talk to someone and work on building my self confidence. She has been nice enough to give me pointers. However I guess I am wondering if it would really be worth all effort. Do men really like a woman who is confident in herself and more than willing to tell them to kiss off if they offend her? Now that I am back to starting over I would like to keep making the same mistake over and over. I have been divorced once and don't want to have that experience again. Thank you all for allowing me to ramble. I look forward to hearing what you all think on this subject. Babe

Hello to everyone- Thank you all for the information, comments and concerns you expressed here. I have made the decision to remove Clint from my life. After talking to him and the master both I realised that either one or both of them were lying to me about this whole situation. Clint seems to think that all this relationship would involve was him and I being servants to this man and me being sexually involved with him. After reading what everyone here had to say I did google it and learned alot more. I think it is a struggle for me to understand how if Clint loved me he would want me in this kind of a relationship. After alot of soul searching and a very long, involved discussion with my friend (newvixen), I knew the only thing I could do is end it. I have broken off all contact with him. I blocked his phone number, his email and his messenger id. I feel bad because I know I am hurting him by doing this but I need to put my safety and security first. Vix says I should have kicked his ass to the curb the minute he brought the subject up. I wish I could be more outspoken like she is but that's just not me. Again I appreciate all the help, Babe