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So, this topic has been somewhat of an issue in my relationship since the beginning and even with all of the things I have read on this forum, nothing really seems to be helping. The problem is that my bf will sometimes come early. Which you wouldnt think would be a big deal, but after sex when I try to initiate some foreplay or oral sex, or whatever, he says that his penis hurts! Three hours later (no exaggeration), its the same issue. The times that we have had trying sex, it has sucked horribly, because mentally I cant enjoy it when I KNOW he's not into it. So that usually leads to me asking if he wants to just stop and he's very readily said, Yes! What gives? He's a perfectly healthy, 23 yr old male. He should be able to have sex more than once in a period of a few hours, right? Its not a mental thing, because I have been extremely accomodating even while discussing it with him and while we are talking, he agrees that its kind of an issue but I am almost positive it doesnt bother him/he doesnt care. When I have brought it up with him, he says he doesnt know what to do about it, that his penis hurts when he gets hard. I was also thinking of perhaps having him masturbate maybe twice a day or something to see how it goes. But I know he really doesnt masturbate all that often. Augh. I really dont know what to do about everything. There's so many sexual issues in our relationship that I havent shared here that I wonder if we should just see one of those sex therapists or something. Regarding this one though, can anybody venture a few guesses as to what is going on?

Well, I think its admirable that you even care about pleasing the women you are with, considering how old you are. So that is a huge step in the right direction. Howard's shower suggestion, in my opinion seems to be the best. You cant smell or taste anything, really, while you are in the shower. Another suggestion can be to play around with foods while having oral sex, chocolate syrup, whip cream, etc. I am thinking you will end up smelling the whip cream instead, as well as tasting, and maybe that help you out.

For me, it only happens when I masturbate. I havent been able to have them with my boyfriend at all. And to be honest, we havent really discussed me having multiple Os. We have alot of issues, (he grew up in a family where his dad would tell him oral sex is dirty, etc) hence me being on this website. Regardless, on some days, I can have a few orgasms effortlessly, but on other days, no matter how hard i try to have more, I will end up having what FEELS like an orgasm, only there is no sensation or pleasure or after effects. So having multiple orgasms really doesnt seem to be in my control. On some days it will happen and some days it wont, and if I try to push for more, I end up with those weird, non orgasms.

This is such an interesting topic that I'm waiting to see how others will respond to it. As for me, I dont think I would ever pay, because I feel like as a young woman in her 20s there would be no reason to have to, but then again.. never say never! If Clive Owens walked into the room... it might be a different story!

What is a cuban heel? I love navel rings, super sexy! Especially if the women happen to be tan. Other accessories are long delicate necklaces, high heels paired with a short dress, and on men, i think a smile is sexiest! Or a pair of nice jeans that hug their butt just perfectly.

For me its anywhere from 5 seconds to probably around 45 seconds. And is this just one orgasm we're talking about? Or are we counting the second and third or whatever? Because then this question gets even more tricky!

As always, a great review! Thanks Mikayla!

False. The person below me likes really rough doggy style sex.

Ahh, 6 kids conceived on the pill? How is that possible? I thought bc pills were like 99.1% effective. I mean I know if you skip a day or take it at different times of the day it can decrease how effective the birth control pills are... but now I'm getting worried! I am currently on bc AND we use condoms.

So my very first toy arrived today! I'll post a review very soon! It looks a tad bit intimidating but I'm excited to play with it with the bf later tonight. So, I THINK its silicone.... does that mean its okay to just wash it with some anti bacterial soap later on? Has anybody used this toy before? What did you like or dislike about it?

Just an update for all of you! My new Glittering, Rotating G-Spot Vibe will arrive this week! I cant wait to use it, and surprisingly, the boyfriend is even more excited than I am. I followed everyone's suggestions and let him get involved in the whole toy shopping experience, so I think that is what helped him the most. Anyway, I will post and let everyone know how that goes. Now that I've gotten him used to the idea of this, I wonder what other toys he will be down to play with...

Hmm, first BJ was around age 16 or 17. I think 17. I lost my virginity at age 18, with another guy, and have been with him for the past few years. So just one, unfortunately for now. Its a serious relationship, and I kind of wish I had more sexual partners since this relationship seems like its headed toward marriage.

What is the best love-making session you have ever had? Okay, if choosing one is hard, pick top two. What was so great about it? Why is it so memorable to you?

Doggy Style is amazing. On top is great too since I get to control most of the movement.

Oh, I meant that I do have orgasms through sex, or even masturbation, just that afterwards I get really bad cramps. Howard, you think if I have more, they'll go away? I am loving this idea. I think Howard has become my new favorite person.

Do I generally find people that are overweight attractive? no. But that's because alot of them end up wearing extremely tight, skin tight clothing that happens to show every roll and bulge their body has. Dress Appropriately please! If I'm going through a period where I've gained weight, you can sure bet that I'm wearing looser tops in the midsection or pants that are flattering to my figure. On another side note, I know that when you are extremely overweight you are more at risk for diabetes, strokes, heart attacks etc. And I'm not talking about women who have had a few kids and are carrying around the baby weight, or just the added weight we get as our bodies get older and our metabolism slows down. I'm talking about the kids in elementary school or high school or even those in their 20s that are all at risk of having major health issues. With all of that being said, YES! Absolutely can a woman who is a bigger size be attractive. As long as she is healthy A very good friend of mine is the same height as me, around 5'6 but weighs around 200 lbs. She is probably the sexiest woman I know. She has sex appeal practically oozing from her and gets more male attention and gets asked out on more dates than alot of girls who weigh less than her. But my preference still runs towards "the barbie type." Why? Because the thought of somebody who can take the time to tone themselves and stay healthy is attractive to ME. And I dont mean the girls that look like they are anorexic! Please! There is nothing attractive about your hip bones jutting out or your ribcage showing. That is not what being a woman is all about. These images that you see in the whole modeling industry are ridiculous. But I'm glad that there are women out there like Halle Berry that can show just how beautiful a curvaceous body is.

So I have been wanting to introduce a sex toy for quite awhile into my relationship now and have been reading all the posts and especially Mikayla's toy reviews. Earlier today, I finally brought the idea up to my boyfriend. He was a little hesitant at first, saying things like he's afraid that I will love the toy more than him! And then went on to say that it would make him feel like "less of a man." Regardless, by the end of the conversation, he agreed to try it out, but I could tell that he wasnt fully comfortable with it. This will be a first experience with a toy for both of us, and I wanted any suggestions as to what sort of toy I could get that wouldnt be too scary or emasculating for him... and maybe a little bit more advice on what to say to him to get him a little more comfortable with the idea. (I was thinking about a dual vibe, are there any on this site that anyone has tried that they have really liked?)

Euphoria, it is soooo werid you mention that. I went to see Paul Van Dyke about a month ago here in San Diego's 4th and B and I got to go on stage. The speakers were amazing and while I didnt get off, I did get very close! For some reason or another, this seems to happen to me quite often. I was sitting in the car last week and me and my boyfriend were driving on this street that had alot of potholes and dips and bumps and well, that was nice I think the weirdest time was while I was suntanning by the pool. I had been thinking about sex and when I sat up, I swung my legs over to the side of the chaise and somehow it just happened. How many of you can get off just thinking about sex? As in, no manual stimulation. It happens to me, but its rare and completely out of my control.... how many of you women have experienced this? I'd be interested in knowing.

Sex OTR is messy, but I would be down to do it more often if my boyfriend was more receptive. He doesnt seem to like it unless its we are in missionary position... which can get boring, being in the same position the entire time! Orgasms are more intense, and I know that many have said that it helps relieve their cramps, but I must be the only girl whose cramps get WORSE afterwards! And not just a little, they get ALOT worse. Anybody have an explanation for why?

When I was young, and I mean verrry young, I discovered the joys of my pillow. That, and I also would grind up aganist the mattress. For some reason, the mattress would always make me cum in 30 seconds or less Just curious though, how old were most of you when you began masturbating? Did a friend or sibling teach you? Or were you just exploring your body and realized hey... that kinda feels good! I'm not sure how "normal" this is, but I can remember masturbating at a very young age, probably around the 3rd or 4th grade. I pretty much would grind up aganist my mattress up until my teens where I realized I could use my fingers to get the same result! To this day though, I have faster and more intense orgasms grinding up aganist the bed. (Well, in terms of masturbation anyways!)

Bondage, there are only a few positions that I have found that I can deep throat in. My favorite is where he is laying down on his back on the bed, (or even sitting, if he wants to watch you do it) and I am kneeling on the floor in front of him. This just lets me slide his cock all the way in. The other position was the one that Whiskey mentioned earlier. Your fiancee is a lucky man! I just wanted to thank you for those great tips, now I kinda wish some of the guys would post some tips on how to go down on the ladies

The absolute WORST experience I have ever had with oral sex came after we had just come back from having Indian food at a really nice restaurant. I pride myself on my oral skills, but the taste litreally brought tears to my eyes I ended up quickly swallowing to get rid of the taste, then washed my mouth out with water a few times and garled with Scope and I ended up being okay. But augh, it was a horrible taste.

So I always hear about female ejaculation, but whenever I do hear about it, its usually linked to stimulating the G-spot. Can women experience this without having a G-spot orgasm?

So my bf is the first sexual partner I’ve had, (we started dating when I was 18, I’m now 20) and in the beginning I was completely shy about oral sex. I was not too inhibited by anything else, just him performing it on ME. He did ask a handful of times and I always said no, even though I really wanted it, I just didn’t think he would like it. Fast forward to now, where I’ve gotten over my hang-ups, thanks to you guys! And I know now that there are lots of men out there who like performing oral sex on women and who actually enjoy it. So here is the problem… I finally brought it up about two weeks ago, and one afternoon we just incorporated it into the foreplay. Afterwards, I asked him if he liked it, and he said yes. To my confusion, it has not happened since then… even though I told him how much I enjoyed and LOVED it (what was I THINKING all that time??? I should have found you guys a long time ago!) I know that in the beginning of our relationship, with sex and oral sex, I would always ask him, do you like it when I speed up or down, or how does it feel when I do this, or when I touch here, etc. Just so that if I couldn’t tell by his body reactions, I would know… so this is weird to me… he never once asked how I liked it, or asked if he could do anything better. I offered up some advice afterwards, and I said, “it would be better if you slowed down a little in the beginning,” and he said, “you’re so hard to satisfy!” So now I feel like he doesn’t even CARE about pleasing me. Or maybe he hates performing oral sex on me? What’s this all about? What’s going on? I’ve asked him if he liked it and he said yes.. I’ve asked twice since the first time and nothing has happened… I’d appreciate any comments or advice from you all.