bkanasky

my wifey gives an amazing bj....but can't swallow either. I cum A LOT...and such a large amount of cum is difficult for her to get down. if there was less volume, she could probably pull it off.

A few q's: What is the best way for women to "get back into" sex after child birth? How can women stay "tight or toned" down there, especially after a second child? Just do kegals?

-- Understood. Her friend told her "I hold it all in my mouth and keep sucking until the very end...then gulp it all down at once" Seems like there is a couple ways to do it, and that any woman that at first struggles should probably try a few different ways.

i thought it was a good/interesting q when i originally posted it-- but was surprised that NO women responded!!! Something about a man giving swallowing advice that seems-- odd -- I guess (but no offense to Howard, as he always has very useful and practical input).

-- excellent point. MANY married men don't even get BJ's at all, or very infrequently. Now THAT is a problem my friend. The spit/swallow issue is overrated. If you are getting oral sex regularly...BE HAPPY!!!! -- you are in great shape!!!! Yes, swallowing feels amazing and means something special....but I've known some non-swallowers to be pretty damn creative with the finish that can make for some very hot moments. if you swallow...there is only one way to swallow. if you don't....there are 100 ways to make the finish super hot. just my 2 cents.

the wifey has an upset stomach 24/7--- so therefore her desire for sex is zero. ladies--- any tricks to help control the pregnancy nausea? She tried a few medications, but the side effects were terrible. She recently tried ginger tea, which seems to be doing ok.

thanks-- question 2: is a woman's ability to orgasm affected by pregnancy?

Wifey just got pregnant (hoo-ray!). However, I have heard that pregnancy impacts sex drive...either in good or bad ways. I have been told that if it is a boy, the woman's sex drive goes way down.... but if it is a girl, it goes way up. true? false?

So my wife is still trying to "learn" how to swallow, which is going....slowly. She is a life-long spitter, but would like to learn. She is still having difficultly with taste, volume, and gag reflex. However, we are having fun with it and she does her best and tries really hard. She has actually learned to deep throat, which is quite nice. But...swallowing remains a huge challenge for her. She posed a great question to her friends, so she could learn faster...and she got several DIFFERENT answers....the question being "WHEN do you actually swallow?....once in the middle (of his orgasm), then again at the end? (i.e. gulp half of it midway...then the rest at end)....or hold all of it in your mouth, then swallow all at once at the end?......or just deepthroat and just let it all go down your throat?...." so...ladies.... tell me which way YOU do it, and why it works for you?

So my wife is still trying to "learn" how to swallow, which is going....slowly. She is a life-long spitter, but would like to learn. She is still having difficultly with taste, volume, and gag reflex. However, we are having fun with it and she does her best and tries really hard. She has actually learned to deep throat, which is quite nice. But...swallowing remains a huge challenge for her. She posed a great question to her friends, so she could learn faster...and she got several DIFFERENT answers....the question being "WHEN do you actually swallow?....once in the middle (of his orgasm), then again at the end? (i.e. gulp half of it midway...then the rest at end)....or hold all of it in your mouth, then swallow all at once at the end?......or just deepthroat and just let it all go down your throat?...." so...ladies.... tell me which way YOU do it, and why it works for you?

Communication is the key to keeping things hot, both inside and outside of the bed room. My wife and I talk about sex a lot, but not in the bedroom. We discuss what we like, what we don't like, what each of us can do better...etc. We also try new things here and there, which is always fun.

do you have to take the ring off before cumming, or not? i just got one and don't want to screw this up!

i love giving my wife facials...i think it is very hot and erotic. she is....so-so about it.... but still does it. i love it.

ditto on the Altoids...they work, baby.

an optimistic update..i think. she tried to swallow last night for the first time---and was able to get one "gulp" down, but then gagged and had to spit the rest out (unfortunately for her, my cum volume is always very high). is this progress? i'd say she swallowed 20%..which is better than 0%, right? she said that if the gag reflex didn't kick in, that she thinks she could have swallowed more. therefore, can i assume her working on desensitizing her gag reflex is now key? also, our positioning is always the same....me laying down, her on top of me on her knees-- not sure if that is best or not. as always, i really appreciate your comments (as does she). thanks.

this is always a very sensitive topic for men...particularly when the "EX" was bigger. many men, even those who are average size, still have much anxiety over this issue. i guess as a man, it just comes with the territory. i have spoken with dozens of women on this issue, and the vast majority of them stated that being a great lover is most important, not the size...as the size alone is useless. however, they also stated that they would prefer a larger penis IF and only if the person is a great lover--as the "full" feeling is nice for them. in the end, it appears that size isn't really a key issue--especially not for success in a relationship.

i agree...

i think this is a great board...and i think this post has been very helpful for me and my wife. i think that some things that may seem simple or obvious to some, are very complicated and confusing to others. i think we all just have different levels of knowledge and experience--

i don't like fake ANYTHING. i strongly prefer natural.

howard, if things were only that easy. we are really starting from scratch, and while i am not optimistic on our chances with her "learning" how to swallow, i am very pleased that she is trying so hard. we will try tonight...i'll keep you guys posted. she bought altoids, and i have been drinking fruit juice all day. wish us luck. baby steps....

great questions... what is easier (for the woman) as far as positioning?

thank you--- this is exactly the type of information i need and will pass along to her.

My wife sat with me and read all of these posts, and appreciated everything she read. She said she is dedicated to learning and trying, however, she doesn't know exactly where to start. is there a step by step swallowing tutorial available??? any guidance would be really appreciated.

thanks, howard. she wants to keep trying...but i think the repeat failures get us both down emotionally. almost like we are EXPECTING to fail at it again... i guess the real question is... when do you "throw in the towel" and stop trying and just accept that it won't happen? i really appreciate her efforts, but don't like repeated failures-- it makes us both feel bad. if there was an instructional video...i'd get it for her.

BOTH is actually the best... but, i do far prefer sexy.