iso8

I bought this vibe after reading great reviews about it well its arrived and not onlydo i have no idea how to put it on, the straps seem complicated! i also dont think vibes are good enough to give me the stated 'mind blowing orgasm' the whole thing just doesnt seem worth the effort has anyone else got one? am i just being stupid here one strap is tiny and the others are long i just cant work it out! iso8

Glad its not just me who has experienced it! I really dont know how it felt better it just did! and Howard thanks for your comment, dont get me wrong I enjoy orgasms I just dont have any during sex... I participate fine infact we try a lot of different positions and I love foreplay but that hasnt brought me to orgasm either... the one time i have orgasmed during sex i was on top with a vibrator... my guy does nothing wrong i did wonder if i was desensitised or something but Mikayla assures me there is no such thing! which was a relief so we've kept trying but nothing works, i think i sort of expect not to orgasm because i havent before and to be honest i feel a bit guilty that he tries so hard and even when i dont doubt myself nothing happens..

Ok so here's the deal I enjoy sex but I dont orgasm from sex and it doesnt feel amazing all the time, the other week my partner and i were staying at a new apartment and so we had to sleep on an air bed, lielow, blow up bed , whatever you like to call it! whilst sitting on it I was dubious sex on it would be a good idea, I had visions of the thing deflating and it was unstable really!! but we went ahead with it and it was the best sex either of us have had in a while!! it felt great infact we had sex there a few times before leaving! anyway problem being we no longer are staying in the flat no longer have the air bed and are both wondering how we could re create it, has anyone else tried it? if not i reccomend it! Unfortunately back home we dont have anywhere we could put one! i dont know if there's anything that could give the same feeling any ideas? Iso

Totally agree pussy is fine because what else would you call it ...vagina isnt sexy and cunt is a horrible word, mainly because its used as abusive slang by people in so called every day situations but ive never heard pussy in a degrading manner other than the sort of 'you coward' way which doesnt bother me half as much because its not as strong. Suggest to her what she would find sexy? I have to say personally 'crotch' wouldnt do it for me..

Thanks guys, I called the national health service help line, she said she would check with a gp and call back the next day I used a few light tampons and today no bleeding at all, a little discomfort but as far as i can tell nothing else is wrong so i think im ok, but will keep watch on it! whatever it was im just thankful im not bleeding anymore and really hope thats my bad luck over with, or i'll be worrying me SO every week, i think he worries more than me! thanks for being there for me once again xx

i took the pill last week though, could it still be affecting me now? ( we are using protection ) I just thought it might have been the angle we had sex (not particularly unusual or acrobatic just a bit uncomfortable) I thought the side affects of the pill only lasted 3 days..... (morning / general sickness)

Ok I was dubious to write this because I know after just having to find myself the morning after pill in a condom tear incident I may just look like Im trying to get attention, but sadly this did actually happen! last night my boyfriend and i decided to stir it up a bit and have sex in the car, it wasnt that fun actually so we came incide and sat down to watch family guy with a cup of tea each! Half way through I leant over and noticed blood on his jeans, worried i rushed to the bathroom and put a tampon in, i was bleeding, not a lot but a noticable amount, there was also blood in my underware, i figured the angle in the car may have been wrong and caused it I changed my underware told him (he started worrying!) and went to bed, This morning though I have blood in my underware again and now im a touch worried, The angle was weird in the car and at a couple of points was uncomfortable so i wonder if it could have been that. But now Im worried, I checked the internet it just says check for stds, neither of us have any we're checked out + we've only slept with each other. Any ideas or help? Im a bit dismayed at the moment going from last weekends condom split to this. Thanks Iso

When I first read this question, I thought was a fraternity prank. I have tried to give you a straight answer, but I am still not sure you are not simply seeing how silly these questions can get, and still get some attention. The fact that you give so little information about yourself makes me equally suspicious about the question. haha oh no it wasnt meant to sound like a joke i just wondered if there was something that was easy to use, and I only didnt give you more information about me because i didnt think i needed to, i simply wondered as i find it difficult to orgasm during sex, various positions tried.. i am keeping it up on a practice makes perfect basis but just wondered if there was anything fun i could use during sex that i wouldnt have to concentrate on too much! sorry the question sounded rubbish i dont really know whats out there toy wise and i guess this one isnt there ... iso8

Hey everyone, i want to buy a clit vibe i can use whilst having sex, i dont like having to hold and move one during its too distracting, does anyone have one thats simple to use, we have tried vibrating cock rings but they arent strong enough for me. any ideas? thanks

Thanks for all the advice guys, i cant take the pill and i do worry because of the one form of contraceptive. I know i should really use more than one and i would if i could, anyway my guy whilst watching me go quiet and search the web for any sign of next day delivery emergency pills decided that he wasnt going to allow me to worry for that long and drove me to various pharmecies (very far away!) until we found an open one! expensive but worth it! I know i was unlikely to be pregnant because i was just off my period and he didnt cum but better safe than sorry... one good thing did come of it though I feel that little bit closer to my guy and im pleased to know he cared that much about me worrying that he made such an effort to find a place to go, as well as escorting me in and checking i wasnt feeling too ill from the side effects of taking the pill! I will look into other contraceptive methods and again thanks so much for the support, it really did stop me worrying so much really appreciated iso

Well my SO is now thinking we should drive for an hour or two to get it, he's worried about me worrying, if not ive thought there is a 24 hour tesco near by me at home so tomorrow i could go after 7.30 i think they have a pharmecy if not i never thought of my lunch break its an hour and a 1/4 and i work in a town they might have a boots near by, i cant come in late or make up the work but i might be able to do that so thank you i didnt think of it! I'll let you know if we find somewhere today Thanks iso

Hello. This morning my partner and i had sex and the worst thing has happend, the condom has split. I dont use the pill because I have bad side effects and so im worrying. we were only 15-20 mins into sex when we realised the split and had checked it a few mins earlier and it was fine. However obviously not being on the pill my first reaction was to go to the toilet and then to look for the morning after pill. well we're having the weekend together in the middle of no where because i work 8.30am till 7pm - here's the problem all the pharmecies here are local and closed because its sunday and im working as is he tomorrow with no slot to get the pill, so im looking for a uk online seller but i cant find a thing that will arrive within the 3 day limit so if anyone could help id really appreciate it! thanks Iso

Thats so helpful thank you!!!! you just reminded me i have a mans shirt that he loves! also we're not far from the beach so maybe i should get a new bikini and go down there? i thought maybe i should get some toys out?

Hey everyone, I havent seen my guy in 2 weeks and i see him this friday I want to have a brilliant fun weekend with him because after this weekend i dont see him for another 2 weeks. So I could really do with suggestions! I was thinking maybe chocolate sauce and things, wouldnt mind having a few position suggestions too, i read mikaylas top one's but i just wondered if there was anything that worked particularly well for us girls?? I quite often get fed up of trying to do something inventive and go back to missionary, If anyone has done anything like this before id love to hear what you did for ideas? Thanks again Iso XXX

Oh good point with the lube!!! it could very well be that!! but if u do get artificial lube as always make sure it comply's with your condom and personally i dont like the heated stuff for sex, fun in foreplay but i find it stings during sex, could just be me but if u havent bought it before pick something simple

Id just like to say a big thank you to everyone on this message board for being so friendly kind and genuine, no one is mean or judgemental about anyone's issues and i think its just great!! especially mikayla for being such an open friendly person to talk to, Im chuffed Ive found somewhere I can rely on for fantastic help no questions asked, so THANK YOU Iso

Ok I think you need him to get this checked out mainly for piece of mind, but if its painful for him he could have an infection, ive heard of guys with blocked tubes down there which makes an erection painful because of all the blood rushing to the area, apparently a pressurised or stingy burning sensation. I would have thought he could have managed it more than once in a few hours, couse telling him to talk to a doctor may be difficult but if u tell him it could improve your sex life so he enjoys it too you might sway him my bet would be on some kind of infection similar to female mastitis in the breasts. It sounds like he wants to try even though its painful for him to make you happy, so perhaps the doctors might not be too much of a challenge! good luck Iso

I bought one of these based on your reccomendations, didnt think it would be that great because the last vibe i bought was rubbish but its brilliant!!! strong vibes on both settings I havent orgasmed with it yet because apparently im not allowed to use it yet my boyfriend wants to play with it too lol but im pretty sure it will work thanks guys!

Mikayla I know you said to me to try some enhancing cream/gel but i also wondered if there was anything you could take to boost your over all sex drive, since mine is at a low at the moment with the way things were going I figured id buy a new toy and all sorts to get me more in the mood, i was thinking the silver bullet you had on your top list, i need something with a strong vibe ( i tried ann summers pearl diver and it was rubbish!) my partner is pretty excited by the idea of a new toy... i know some pills and things exist for sex drive for women but all the one's ive read about so far seem to have side effects etc? (sorry if this is a gone over topic) Thanks again Iso x

I read your positions article and will give them a go I spoke to him and he said we'd have to spend the weekend experimenting with them so I guess thats the way forward, thanks for all your help it really has helped me, i feel like i can keep trying now!

To be honest I always feel a bit desensitized it almost seems like its not worth my while for him to even try

Thanks for all the advice its great to find somewhere friendly to ask these things! I do enjoy sex and being close to my boyfriend and he doesnt pressure me or make me cumming an issue, but I do feel guilty myself that I dont orgasm and I know you shouldnt think about it because it makes you worry more and makes orgasm more difficult but i find myself thinking about not thinking about it! I think as well i get frustrated because I want to enjoy it as much as he does, I know a lot of women dont orgasm during sex but not to orgasm during sex or foreplay leaves me with nothing! I do wonder sometimes if its something to do with my libido Im not sure how high it should be but I was just looking for explanations, maybe I should try the cream? can you reccomend any good sexual positions Mikayla? at the moment we're mainly missionary and it doesnt do anything for me. Thanks again Iso

hi everyone, well self explanitory in a way but i think my clit is pretty much desensitised, the first toy i bought was a clit one and i never compared it to others but i realise now it was a pretty strong vibration, i now wish id never bought it as i can no longer be stimulated by anything else! including my boyfriend which i find as annoying as he does, ive stopped using it infact stopped using anything full stop to try and regain some sensitivity, can anyone reccomend anything to speed things along, ive seen a few pills but i dont trust some of the reviews, any ideas for help?