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Okay, I think I've seen this SOMEWHERE, but can't find it now! How do i get to that spot in the male's anus that is kinda like a female's g-spot? (only way I can figure out how to describe it!) Where is it, and how do you, uh, "activate" it?

I didn't mean anybody had a role, I just didn't know how to phrase the subject for this post! lol. (: And I meant doing something in THAT missionary position, we change positions and everything, but I've only had 2 sexual partners and wanted to know, really, what all I could do when he was in control! THanks, Howard, a lot of what you said got my brain kinda turning ! Thanks for all the ideas, guys. (: I'm open to more, of course.

Yeah, that will be interesting to read!! I myself have never done anal, mainly because my boyfriend knows practically nothing about it and I'm afraid of that, but I told him if he read up on it and would be willing to let ME give HIM anal, I'd do it, but he also says, "no way in hell" So i guess that's the end of that!

When a man is doing the work, (he is pumping and not that woman), are there any things I can do instead of just kinda "lay there" (hehe) to spice things up a little? To make things better, maybe? I just feel guilty when i'm just laying there and he's going to town! Hehe.

Ohhh me too!

Sometimes when we are in missionary, my bf will sit on his knees, grab my thighs and put them over his shoulders and start doing it that way. That makes it go REALLY deep, and i think it hits my cervix and makes it hurt.. Does anybody else do this position? Do you like it, or does it make you hurt too? I think it's really sexy and don't wanna stop doing it, but it hurts!

Well, I LOVE trying new sex positions. What's your favorite and why>

And also, with that bedtime story thing, I LOVE to have bedtime stories made up on the spot, but I wouldn't say it could get me off sexually, unless it was a rated XXX Bedtime story hehe

Ahh, that isn't so weird. I've heard of that a lot, and my boyfriend does it to me occassionally. I like it.. But i basically like whatever gets HIm excited.

i’ve only orgasmed twice in my life, so I’m still kinda trying to figure the whole thing out! So, how do you know when YOU are about to orgasm? What does it feel like, a s best as you can explain it? Would also be kinda neat to se if anybody is different. Also, is there anything tyou do when you’re close to send you over the edge? For me, I THINK I'm about to orgasm when I feel a ton of pressure, and it kinda hurts but not in a bad way, at least that's what I've seen in common these past two times?? I'm such an orgasm newb!

Wow! That was really beautiful! Too bad I think the contest is already over ): That was really really good though.

Ah, you didn't insult me, hehe, I was trying NOT to come off that way! I just meant that there are other ways to communicate even tho you are writing notes or doing it online, verbal isn't the only way, and sometimes people need baby steps!! (:

Well, I just don't think you understand that there are different types of people. No matter how comfortable I am around anybody, It is hard for me to express my desires, not just about sex, but anything really. And I am really shy and conservative. I was with my ex for 4 years, in which we lost virginities to each other, and I was STILL shy about saying what I wanted. For me, this method works. This is communicating to me. And it works for our relationship. So, to tell me (or anybody really) that it's wrong, isn't really right, because like I said everybody is different.. Thank you for all that advice, I'm not trying to be rude or anything, I'm just saying that THIS works for me, and me and my boyfriend have a GREAT relationship and to me that is what really counts. Hehe. (:

I think an emotional involvement with somebody else is worse than a sexual involvement. I'd be more upset if my boyfriend were writing love notes and giving another flowers than if I saw him having meaninglyess sex with another. But that is just personal. I think the line of cheating is different with each relationship. If your hubby is okay with it, then it should be fine, as long as you have truly voiced your opions and believe he has voiced them back. I guess you know your relationship better than anybody on this forum, and thus can answer your question better.. What I'd do, is imagine your husband doing the selfsame thing, and ask yourself how you would feel about it. Would you be hurt? Or feel betrayed? Cheated on? If you can honestly say no to all of those, then I would see no harm in it. Every relationship is different. Good luck with whatever. (: It's a tough situation for sure!

I kind of laughed when I read that teens don’t have the mental capacity to understand porn.. Here’s the way I see it. I’m 20 yeras old, and it wasn’t too long ago that I was myself a teen! My parents always had an open door policy, but they did not talk to me about sex until I was a teen, no school taught me about sex, I learned about it in first grade from other kids. So, it’s going to happen, regardless of your efforts, what you as parents should (in my opinions) do is simply be there for them for their questions and to inform them of the truths, and realty of pregnancy, STD’s, protection, and the like. They do not need your help tabout the basics, they will figure that out on their own!!! You cannot hide your children from society. They will encounter ghomosexualtiy whether you want them to or not. And so, I come down to my bottom line, yes. I believe that kids should be able to see porn, especially like in this circumstanc where you are giving the kid playboys. A 16-year-old boy has so much built up sexual tension, if he has no means to release it, he will divert that tension into some other way like aggression. Also, he is going to find porn hisself, and like you said, probably more hardcore porn which you won’t even know what he is watching! Maybe abusive porn, or things that will get in his head that is acceptable, when it really isn’t something you’d want your child to be viewing. The kid is 16. I think giving him playboys is just fine. In 2 years, he will be legal to do it hisself, and how much more mature really is he going to get in those 2 years?? Sorry if I am offending anybody, but I am just speaking ofrom experience. Iwas that age only 4 short years ago, so it is still very fresh in my mind!!

I’ve heard of people having sex while on their period, and think my boyfriend might be able to stand that.. But how do you do it and eliminate the messy factor? Are there any tips or techniques??? >.> Gross topic, I know!!

You know what, I completely understand where you are coming from. I am 100% comfortable with my So but still am really bashful about telling him what i want. I don't know abou tany emoticons or anything, but I DO have a few ideas for you to get the message out there without having to say it face-to-face. 1) Find a link about anal sex for men (a completely hetero-sexual viewpoint) and post it to her in an AIM and just say something like, "that looks interesting.." and let the conversation go from there. That would probably be good for both of you because you can read up on it and know how to do it right. 2) Write it in a note. If you are shy about mainly just that one thing, write a dirty note with a bunch on things you'd like her to do to you, and just be sure to include that aspect. Leave it somewhere you know she'll find it, but, be out of the room when she does, or give it to her, if you wish. That way you don't have to verbally communicate it to her, and it will also get her in the mood by reading all your hot fantasies. 3) Give her a night that is only for her, all of her sexual desires, fulfill her every way possible.. Then the next time say you have something you want to try, and ask her if she is willing to help you out with it. Use your imagination along those lines, I have used the link things SO many times. I find a sexual position I want to try but am too shy to just blurt it out in conversation, so I'll e-mail it to my SO and he won't say a word about it but next thing I know we are doing it! So, try to feel a little comfortable about it, and use your imagination to be discreet. Good luck (:

I agree that there aren't enough sex toys out there for men. I was looking one for my boyfriend and there is a very lack of interesting things, but like others have said, most vibrators and the such can also be used on the man.. and ALSO, I feel like the toys are better for both sexes. I know nothing is more sexy to my boyfrined when I'm playing with myself (and having him play with me as well) with a lot of toys, especially for men who can't last long enough for the woman to acheive orgasm.

to me, the best part of oral sex is the intimacy, and the turn on that his tongue is doing the work! I bet the orgasm is only intensified becauase you are more turned onto that, so, it'd be hard to recreate it by yourself.. The only thing I could say would be if you were to take a bath and scootch up close to the faucet head, make sure it isn't going HARD, so you hurt your sensitive little clit, but once you have yourself positioned so it is hitting your clit you can kinda gauge the hardness/heat or cold as you desire. That probably is the best masturbation tactic you can use to duplicate the feeling of oral. It's wet, and you are just sitting back letting it happen, kinda like how tickling always feels better when YOU aren' the one tickling.. So try that, and you'll get a better sense of what it feels like. (: But just note that it will always be better and sexier when you see him go down on you in person!

It's hard to finish sexy when she won't go near your cum. so my guess would be you’d have to try to convince her that the whole swallowing process isn’t too bad.. I might’ve missed it in your post, but dd you say if she ever did it before? If she did it before and had a bad experience, you should ask her why. If it’s the taste, reassure her you’ll eat good things before a planned blow job session so tat it won’t taste as bad. if she hasn’t, then you need to tell her it isn’t so bad. I used to not swallow, I was terrified of it. I thought I’d puke, I’d gag, I’d hate the taste... But when it all happens, it happens so fast and is over like that, that I didn’t eve know what happened! and before you can even THINK about the taste on your tongue, if there is any at all, you look up and see that wonderous “O” face and all is forgotton. I think it’s not right for any girl to say they CAN’T swallow and not even try once, since it is not bad at all, especially if you love that person. But those are my two cents. (: good luck!

Oh yeah, I'd want to be teased to no end. I'd like to have him brush his fingertips all down my naked body, kissing up my thighs and ending just to my pussy lips, so that it craves his touch. my nipples with icecubes, everything that I just couldn't stand and being able to do nothing about it! UGH! So nice!

The thing he feels is inside of me.. I am actually kinda hard to reach orgasm! I've only orgasmed via g-spot once. He doesn't feel it when he gives me oral sex. He feels it when he fingers me, past my G-spot, kinda deep.. And he can feel it even when I'm not all that excited! I don't know, it's weird.

Yesss.. I do the laughing thing as well!! I remember the look on my man's face when I first busted out laughing, and he kind came up and wanted to know what he did that was so funny and all i could say was, "HEY, get back down there!!!!!" I've only had a G-Spot orgasm once, and that was JUST three days ago. (Yeah, it was a good day!) and I SOBBED, Like litterally cried, like somebody had died! I couldn't help it, I was so embarassed of it, but I was just crying and couldn't stop for maybe 10 minutes! My boyfriend likes it, though, I think. Makes him realize when I go from MOANING, to LAUGHING or CRYING, what that means! And also, about the dirty talk, I am a really shy reserved person. I won't let him look at me during sex, or anything, until I start gtting close.. Then I start doing that too.. The talking, the moaning, ANYTHING to get him more excited and therefore to please me more, So I'm right there with ya!