you all make it sound so easy. I never used to be the type of person to give up, then I started getting serious with BF/the father of my child. When I make a mistake or do something he dislikes in or out of the bed he gets really upset he talks to me like I should have known better (like a child), I should have known that was going to hurt him, I should have known he wouldn't like it. He has said to me more then once "What were you thinking" in a very angry voice. Most all of the time he apologizes but when someone makes me feel like shit because of an accident it's very hard for me to want to continue pleasing that person. I thank you all for all of your comments you guys are awesome. Howard in regards to your questions: "I think you have to learn to take yourself less seriously, and learn to laugh at yourself. When is the last time you told a story at your own expense, or told a joke where you were the butt of the joke? Never? You have something to work on." I grew up learning from my dad not to take life so seriously. I take things seriously when I need to. I am blond and I used to tell the best blond jokes. I still tell jokes but I'm sure I'm not the best anymore. I learned stuff like that thrown at me usually ment the person is trying to get a rise out of me, hurt me or make me mad and if I were to show them I can make fun of myself too and that I am still smart and don't care how there trying to hurt me then there going to walk away frustrated they couldn't hurt me, make me mad or get a rise out of me. The only problem to that is it's hard to aply that to the bedroom being on a personal level with someone. Since being with my BF I haven't been able to take it very well being the butt of the joke around him but when he isn't around I'm fine. He has always been really good at treating me like I am stupied and I think a lot of that has to do with him having a lot more experiance in a lot of things then me. He thinks he knows all so when I have a differance of opinion he acts like I am arguing with him. On a brighter note he says that he doesn't want to loose me that I am the best thing that has ever happened to him. So he said that he will do anything to not loose me. So we had a major talk and he has gotten a lot better at how he treats me. Anyway thank you Howard like always you know what to say. Thank you all.