stephanieleann1416

okay so ya'll have probably heard this question before! i need some pointers on how to make the guy im involved with go nuts when im going down on him! i need some tips or tricks or something your mans liked! thank ya sooooo much!

i have another view of the adoption situation. my mom put my sister up, not so much by her choice but by that of her parents. she was 21, unmarried and living with her parents. she worked yes, and knew who the father was and what not, but my grandparents were dead set on her not screwing up there name (there old school southern, no marriage no baby type thing). so my mom put her up. she came back into the picture the day before my 12th birthday, almost 9 years ago. i can tell you from first hand experience the hell its reaked on my mom. not that my spaz for brains sister came back, but the fact that when she did come back, she told my mom horrible things. her adoptive parents were by no means saints. they were at the time adopting "special" cases. kids who had been abused or born with issues (my sister was born with seizures, she was left in the birth canal to long). her parents were nuts, however her oldest son is now living with them. adoption is an amazing option, however RESEARCH the parents. make sure they check out. my sisters adoptive parents ended up have to relinquish rights to one of their adoptive children because he was so violent, and he wasn't stable and had tried to kill them and my nephew. my sister has a sophmore education as well, did not get her ged, and works in the front office of her best friends father in laws bussiness. her boyfriend is a drug addict who has a wife and son in iowa and has an alias and a wrap sheet a mile long, oh and not to mention the fact that her, her flea bag boyfriend, and her two younger children live in a hotel. my sister goes through phases were she blames my mom for the way she is, to even blaming me for the way she is. so please...whatever you do. if you do go with adoption, make sure the family checks out. dont force her to make a decision. she has option, the state can help, theres adoption, theres even open adoptions. a friend of mine in highschool did that and is now working on getting her masters in education but is very close with her daughter and her adoptive parents. they just call her auntie. so make sure she understands everything. i dont talk to my grandparents and neither does my sister, because they disowned both of us. they disowned my sister because they lent her money that she never paid them bck, and they disowned me because i didnt spend every undivided moment with them during my graduation (mind you my parents were getting divorced, my home was being sold, i was graduating, working full time, and seeing all my friends move away). so that shows you how unstabble my grandparents are. just be understanding, and firm, at the same time. i really hope that helps give ya perspective on things from a different angle. good luck!

ive been told my eyes, my lips and then my hair. in h.s. i had a kid come up to me and tell me i had perfect DSL...and me being sexually retarded was like what...and he told me and i was like...wow! thanks...i think!

the weirdest sex toy i have ever seen was a vibrator that looked like a banana, i wanted to buy it for my best friend cause shes allergic to bananas and this would give her a reason to play with them!

My parents were always open about sex, my dad uses the "dolphins and humans are alike in the fact that they both have sex for fun", my moms the same way. My moms side of the family is just a load of prudes, but I have nothing to do with them (and its not because of that) I play the masturbation game, but suck at it. I think thats another issue all on its own. And yes, I do tend to run like hell from guys who wanna have sex lol. Ive come to terms with being the fluffy kid, Ive become "newly confident", but when i say something that to me sounds confident I am terrified it comes off as concided (sp?) instead. I had the same issue with the asthma medication, it was predizone (sp?), I hate the stuff because it ended up killing a great aunt of mine. I was stick skinny up till first or second grade, they put me on the stuff and i turned into the fat kid in the stretchy pants that everybody at school made fun of. My family never made fun of me because my parents and my dads side are all big fluffy fun crazy people. Theyve always been awesome, now my moms side of the family (the ones i dont talk to) have called me fat before. My grandmother stopped when I was 16, because she said "wow...you used to be sooo skinny" and my response was "wow! so did you! your butts getting huge!". So hopefully ive cleared some of the missed questions up! Thanks howard!

Okay, this is kind of random, but I figured I can get the most honest answers on here. Everyone is so insightful and friendly, and as I mentioned, honest, and that's what I need. Or at least a new look at the situation. Ok, so heres the deal. I am 20 years old (21 in March), and I have been in one relationship. It lasted two weeks because he called me one night and decided to tell me he had "magical powers" and that he loved me and his "magical powers" told him that I loved him as well. So needless to say my 18 year old butt high tailed it outta there. So, in short I am sexually retarded. Never had sex, oral, messed around, NOTHING. Im kind of getting sick of being the "good girl", but im not gonna go out and just grab some random guy, I wanna keep my self respect. Well I've had situations that could have led to relationships, but something has always gone wrong because im not "aggresive" enough for these guys. One guy flat out told me after he slept with some 16 year old barbie, that it was my fault and i brought it on because i wouldnt sleep with him. So i said buh bye to him, and thanked my lucky stars that i didnt hook up with him. Another current situation is that a good friend of mine (who i had the hotts for in high school) tells me the other day that he wants to be in a relationship with me, two days later he says "lets be f*%k buddies". I don't know if the Oregon/Washington area is clean outta good guys or what? Another issue i have is Im a fluffy/fat chick, and im always worried that the kind of guys i am attracted to wont go for me. so i always go for guys who have good personalities, which ive discovered to be a nice thing. but my question is, am i not aggresive enough, or what? i am terrified of men, and no, i have never been molested or raped, so its not like ive had a bad experience (and i didnt mean to offend anybody, im sorry I just wanna know if im not aggresive enough, im defective because im fluffy or what? help!

The one author I've found that writes killer stuff is Laurell K Hamilton, she has two main series', there's the Anita Blake series. The Anita books are vampires, werewolves, and zombies, and dont really get the kink up until book 5, Bloody Bones. She has another series, the Merry Gentry series, theres only 4 in this series as opposed to the 13 or so in the Anita series. All 4 of the Merry Gentry books are sexed up and ready to go. I also have found Karen Marie Mooning, Christine Feehan, and even some of Bentley Littles work to contain alot of good erotica. The hott blood series is another good one, or Love in View 2 by Poppy Z Brite. I have a little bit of a thing for vampires, or paranormal erotica. The first erotica books I ever read were Anne Rice's Beauty Series, and her Belinda book, and trust me...those can get a girl goin!

I would like to thank, well, everyone on here! I am a virgin and been slightly conflicted on whats "okay", and just from reading around, and seeing what other people posted, I feel soooooo much better! The topics helped, and made me feel like the stuff I thought/enjoyed are NORMAL! Lol! I've second guessed alot of the things I have found to be a turn on because I have alot of friends who are very straight laced. Most of them are the wait till marriage type(I am not bashing people like that, but it's not my cup of tea), and have made bringing up sex in general a bad thing. Thank you all soooo much!