Jossie1013

I want someone who fits. Many of my friends are getting married lately (well yeah, because I'm 27 and everyone does. well everyone else anyway!) and some of them are having to change their entire lives. Their families and friends don't like the new SO, the SO's family doesn't like them, etc. I want to be able to bring my SO home to my fam and friends and feel like nothing is really different. I want him to laugh with my bff, and chat with my mom. I want us to fit each others lives as well as possible. I'm not naive, I'm aware that changes are absolutely necessary (who made that rule anyway?) but my fam and friends are just as important to me as any relationship I've had and I don't feel like I should have to change one for the other. Physically speaking, I love love love TALL guys. I'm about 5'6, and I love tall guy hugs. My dad passed away this summer, but he was 6'4, and I'm really missing his hugs. I want a guy who can. . . .envelope me and make me feel protected and cared for. Sappy huh? Jossie

Here's my take. The Governor of Texas is a politician and therefore it seems unlikely to me that he took this step (right or wrong) without immense amounts of research (by his team of course.) It does seem a little fast to me - and I would like to see a little more time and research given before it's mandated. However, it does seem to me that this is a good thing. No it doesn't wipe out cancer - but people who have or had cervical cancer due to HPV probably wish they'd had access to it. I am a female - a daughter, who has 4 sisters, 7 neices and 1 great neice. And if I had a child my child would have this. First of all, because I can't live in fear that all of the government mandated vaccines cause autism or some other disability. At some point there has to be some faith. (at least for me.) And finally because ANYTHING that might possibly keep my child safe from cancer is a big fat plus to me. However, I see the wisdom of waiting a year or so as well whiskeywoman. I am, as ever, fascinated by the love/hate relationship we Americans have with our voted representatives. And the quintessential American idea of "YOU CANT TELL ME WHAT TO DO!" when the fact of the matter is, they can tell us, within set bounds, what to do, and we put them in the position of doing so in the first place. It is our responsibility as adults and parents to leap the distance from "cancer stopping drug" to "prevents one possible cause of cervical cancer". There is no such thing as a magic bullet (medically speaking of course, we know there are magic bullets in the TT world!) and the children(and their parents) need to be made to understand that. First and foremost it is the job of parents to prepare their children for the world, including explaining about HPV, cervical cancer, and STDs. Of course the second line of defense would be teachers, coaches, and counselors, and finally the government. I think if knowledge and protection of our children is the goal - then the manditoriness of the mandatory vaccine becomes much less important. Jossie

Ah Howard. You are so wise. I did decide to wear them all day long, and it didn't take all that long until I felt . . .something. Literally. I stopped where I was and cocked my head to the side and tried to figure out what it was, because it didn't really feel like a vibration, but it was gone, so I went about my day and then. . . again! It was just a little jerk, and little jump internally but I felt it. And I went on feeling it, unexpectedly, all day long. I would be walking down the hall and from one step to the next get that little tingle, and then it would be gone. And let me tell you, being out in public, and then you feel that slight vibration and you think about what you've got going on under your clothes - I was revved. I began to worry about wet spots when I sat down before very long! I didn't orgasm, but I got extremely worked up! Jossie (And then I though, Oh God If I get hit by a bus, my mother is going to DIE!)

Well I bought these - hoping for the pleasure of course, but also looking toward doing kegels as well. I've not had children yet, and I count myself lucky that I heard about Kegels before hand! I don't enjoy the thought of incontinence! Anyway, back to the softy balls. I lubed a little and worked them in and. . . .felt nothing. Not exactly true, I could feel the fullness and it did make me more aware of my pc muscles, which as Howard says will probably make them worthwhile in the long term, I didn't feel a single vibration, or even a motion internally. I even (for the sake of experimentation of course!) jumped up and down and . . . nothing. So I came here to the board to see if I'm just weird, or if other people felt the same. Its a relief to know I'm not alone. I will continue to use the balls for my kegels and hopefully Howards right and some day I'll get a surprise! Jossie

Well I have to agree honestly that most likely it's about control. I'm a control freak kind of girl. But i don't know how to go about getting around that. How do I fix it? Get drunk? (Never done that either. . . ) I have to say that I've heard that alcohol inhibits this sort of thing, so that's unlikely. Does anyone have any ideas? Just telling myself that its a control issue isn't really turning the trick. Thanks Jossie

Maybe I need a tutor. . . . .Its just not happening. I read the articles, I was totally relaxed. . . .but I just couldn't get over the hump (no pun intended.) Why am I frustrating myself this way again? Jossie

Okay I need help. I'm 27, single and am saving my virginity for marriage. I truly believe that its the best thing for me, but I"m 27 and getting frustrated. So I play. By myself. The only problem is the fact that I can't have an orgasm. When I use only my fingers, it's more stimulating to just rub my clit, any penetration is uncomfy, for obvious reasons. It feels great, it builds and builds and then. . it kind of peters out, leaving me vaguely unsatisfied. Its as if I've reached the end of the road, but nothing happens. There's a little bit of a shudder and that's it. At this point my clit is too sensitive to touch anymore and I've sort of got this let down feeling, having gained no satisfaction and my body suddenly uninterested in continuing. When I use my vibrator, it eventually goes farther. I read Mikayla's article about a G-spot orgasm, and that's what it's kind of like, when I use the vibrator on my clit for a long time. It ebbs and flows but usually I can get to that point and then it explodes, but I'm not sure it's an orgasm, (gosh that's naive sounding!) and if it is there's usually quite a bit of fluid and it does have a bit of a urine odor. Not overwhelmingly so, but it doesn't smell like cloves, and the G-spot isn't being stimulated at all. If this is an orgasm, why does it smell like urine? Because I can tell you that doesn't sound like the most romantic thing ever. I've just bought two new vibrators, both made for internal as well as external stimulation in the hope that I can experiment a little and get some answers, but any advise from ya'll I'd appreciate. Thanks Jossie