theshyone

I am not single but I learned the hardway that you don't have unprotected sex. I did when I was young and stupid and wound up with an std. This was untreated for a long time and eventually rendered me sterile. I was lucky enough to be able to adopt my son two and half years ago. But the abilty to have children is forever gone and I have spent many sleepless and tear stained nights over the foolishness of my youth. It's not worth no matter what your partner may say or how he complains that a condom ruins the experience. To have sex without a condom could very well ruin your life. The Shy one

Howard this is excellent advise, I think we should call you howard the wise:) I think it is easy to get trapped in bad habits and just enduring the love making until it becomes a chore. But I really like your suggestion. My husband better watch out tomorrow morning. The shy one

Thanks for the tips and advise, I appreciate it. next time we get romantic I'll try it. the shy one

Howard, you are right I am not made of glass and I think I can stand more than one orgasm however, getting it is another matter. I must have asked wrong becuase when I asked I got a flick of the fingers and "there you go" and he turned over and went to sleep. He has not gotten romantic with me since( and that was last wednesday) saying that he is just too tired and needs a break. I think maybe I scared him becuase he is not use to me being the initiator and we went at it pretty good for 2 weeks ( when before we'd probably get romantic 3-4 times a month) so I am backing off. I think I have been changing too fast for him to keep up, although he says he likes the changes. The shy one

Howard, I am not ready for back to back orgasms,I would feel funny asking for more it seems too greedy besides I was feeling pleasantly overwhelmed with one I think several would finish me off. Maybe in the future but not now. the shy one

I will not give details becuase I am not comforatable with that yet. But I will say that it was the best investment that we could have made. Noone should use the cock ring or vibrator that has a heart condition they'd be dead. The pleasure was incredible, I never knew that making love could be so intense and pleasurable. I've had pleasure from it in the past but nothing like this. I felt like I was going to explode , I can't accurately explain it but WHOo WEE. The Shy one

Howard Thank you for the two replies. You gave some excellent advice about talking to your partner about what you like. I guess the problem is that for so long I have been use to the same old thing and that has been good enough. But I will admit that now that we are breaking out of the rut and trying new things making love has been taken on a greater pleasure, it is something that I actually look forward to instead of a duty. You were right about the toys, we got two and they definitely enhance the experience. :) About the semen burning, I figured out that I had just irritated my throat by too much oral sex. I rested for two days and I was fine. Live and learn. The Shy one

I let my throat rest for 2 days and this morning everything was fine. So I must of irritated it. Thanks to all the posters for your suggestions. The shy one

To answer your question: Does your man smoke? No Could that be the issue? No Some women are allergic to sperm - but it would also burn inside your pussy - does he ejaculate inside you? Yes but it does not burn. I wonder if I have just irritated my throat by doing too many blowjobs when I am not use to it. I have given him one every night for the past week and a half. He has teased me about having a new toy. Not a toy just a new skill that I am perfecting. It's funny to me that after all these years of being ho hum about oral sex that I finally am really starting to like it ( this I credit to the articles here on blowjobs and deepthroating, knowledge really is power), I think that I like is so much becuase it gives him such pleasure and that is fun to see. I have decided at this point that I'll let him come outside my mouth for now until I can figure out the burning issue. Thank you for trying to help. The shy one

Thanks, I guess I am just trying to hard. Maybe I should give it a break for abit. The Shy one

Thanks I will try laying off for a while. It is suprising to me how enjoyable it is, now that I know more about it and have corrected some on the mistakes that I was making. Although, I will add as a side note that if you gag and have tears in your eyes and sound like you are going to throw up that is a definite mood killer. I was giving a pretty good bj when he thrust and I was not prepared and he went deeper than I was prepared for. I didn't throw up but I felt like could. Oh the funny mistakes made when we are learning. The shy one

Is semen burning as it goes down your throat normal? I wonder if I am just irritating my throat by deep throating and need to give it a break? Ideas anyone? The shy one

Thank you for the information and it did help. There may be no such thing as a stupid question but I think the trick is not feeling embarassed or stupid to ask it. I am pushing past my normal comfort zone and asking questions that make me blush. When I first posted I was afraid of what kind of response I would get but everyone has been so nice in answering my questions, giving helpful information without laughing and for that I am grateful. The shy one

WHittibo, be patient all marriages goes through cyles. It is fun when you are on the upside and not so fun when you are in the slumps. But the key I have found is communication. Good Luck New Question: Well, let me just say that life is really good and we haven't been this intimate since we were newlyweds. WHOO WEE. My husband said he needs to take sometime off work just to catch up on sleep and work the desire out me. That was nice to hear. I have been experimenting with oral sex and am getting much better in fact my husband almost came in mouth last night and that has never happened before. So here's my question: is semen burning as it goes down your throat normal? I wonder if I am just irritating my throat by the deep throating and need to give it a break? Ideas anyone? The shy one

Thank you for the information. I have ordered one as well as a vibrator and am excited and nervous at the same time to try it out. Well, nothing ventured nothing gained? Right? And I have learned so much so far from this website, in fact my husband teased me about blocking this site for awhile so he could get some rest. We haven't been this actively sexually since we were newlyweds. Just using the information here has spiced up our love life I can hardly wait to see what these toys will do. The shy one

First of all, Relax !! My husband and I have used lubrication for years becuase I have a problem with being wet enough. I asked my Doctor about and was told that some women have trouble with mositure. One thing you can do is get good and wet becuase there is nothing worse than doing it dry. It can hurt. You might try coming inside and you come and then you can play with your wife and excite her afterwards. That can be very rewarding and in the process you might very well get hard again. Good luck. The shy one

Thank you for the information. I know that I shouldn't be embarrased I am not use to talking about things of a sexual nature. I did find on further investigation The Heart Throb Erection Ring it has AA batteries. I think we will try that. The shy one

My husband has asked me to purchase a cock ring that doesn't have watch batteries,something with standard batteries like AA or AAA. Can you recomend one? Other questions: How long do the batteries typically last? How long can you leave a cock ring on, is there a time limit for safety? Thanks,very much red faced and can't believe I am asking this, the shy one.

[quote name='whittibo' UGH.. that was ME last night too. I was none too happy about it though. I try to tell myself it's great that I pleased him, but when he just rolls over and goes to sleep, oh, wait, he rolled over and took sleeping PILLS. (he's been having a hard time sleeping for the last few weeks) Anyway, he did wake up about midnight and cuddle and told me sorry for falling sleep. But I just hope that isn't a common occurrence for myself OR you. If it becomes common talk to him about it. Women may not like to admit it but we need to make love as much as men although, it is only now that I am starting to admit that and feel like I can talk to my husband about my needs. You might try waking him up early in the morning. When my son (who is now 2 1/2) was a baby my husband and I never went to bed at the same time. But I was sure to be there in the morning when I could, even if it was just for a cuddle. For awhile I was feeling like everytime we got naked together it would be for sex,and I felt alot of pressure becuase his sex drive is alot higher than my. Things started changing after a friend suggested that I cuddle naked with my husband. Cuddling only and that took the pressure off. After awhile we would start with the naked cuddle and then it would lead to something else sometimes and sometimes is wouldn't. But it felt good to have him enfolded in my arms our bodies pressed together and he said the same thing. It was like we melted into each other. You might try that. For my husband and I, it was important to have physcial contact and couple time. I noticed that things became tense and strained between us when I let things come in the way of our couple time. Which in this busy life is very easy to do and it takes a concious effort that can be very fun and rewarding to keep time for your spouse. Good luck, The shy one

I also wanted to mention that I read the article on phone sex and in it mentioned talking dirty. I don't comfortable about talking dirty at all especially on the phone. However, I have started talkng more about my desire to my husband when we are alone and that has worked very well. We also have talked about past love making sessions and I have been sure to tell him how great I thought it was and it's amazing how that has lead to other things, until we are too busy to talk. the shy one

Thank you for the welcome Calvin and I do plan on coming back. Thank you for the advise Howard. I tried a small pillow last night under my neck and it worked much better. In fact we had a 45 min session with me using my hands and mouth together. I exhausted my poor hubby. It was the first time that he told me that he was too tired. It's hard to explain how that makes me feel but it was good. I have told him plenty of times that I was too tired but I last night I felt like I had power. I have always felt like I was lacking in the sex department becuase he has more drive than I do but last night I was the instigator and I felt like pleasing my husband even though it wasn't recipocated. In fact I had a hard time going to sleep. Normally I just think about what I going to fix for dinner the next day and I calm down quickly but last night it took me about two hours. I also understood a little the need for toys. Because if I had one then I wouldn't have been left hanging. Although I don't know if I am brave enough to pleasure myself, I always figured that's what you have a husband for. I do want to make it clear that very seldom am I left hanging usually it's the other way around although those times are few. It is amazing how having the right information is revolutionizing our love life. We have been intimate more times in the last week and a half then we have in the last month. In fact my husband told me this morning that he was tired and needed a break tonight, those are words I have never heard him say. I am not sure if I will give him a break. It's funny it's like I have suddenly become aware that I can be very sexual, I still feel pretty shy about alot of things but it's like I suddenly am not afraid to try. I am feeling different it's hard to explain but I like it. the shy one

Thank you for the advise. It is good to know that 10 min is long, I was trying for a half hour. Well, I am obviously not use to doing this. When I was young sex was a dirty word and something polite young women didn't ask about. When I got married the advise my grandmother gave me was "just lie there and do your wifely duty it will be over with in about a half hour." That worked for about the first month of marriage and then my husband started showing me that sex is more enjoyable with two particapating. I was pretty shy about the whole thing. Eventually I started to loosen up becuase I have a patient husband. There is still much I don't know but it is embarising to talk and even read about it. But I am getting over it slowly.

This is a much needed website. I wish I knew about it 5 years ago. My husband told me about and I have been reading the articles. I read the ones on blowjobs,deep throating,anal sex and sexual positioning. I won't say explicit details but we went from our usual 30 minute session to over 2 hours of making love. It was phenominal. I do have one question- when performing oral sex any tips when your neck gets kinked. I tried doing it on my knees and then laying on my stomach but after about 10 minutes my neck felt kinked.

Any advice on how I can get her to open up a little more? I know this is something we both need to work on, me as well, but I feel like maybe I am trying a bit harder than she is to open up. I am making an effort to say what I want and like, but I am not sure that she is making the same effort. Calvin Calvin, One thing I can suggest is that you make a game out of it. What worked for my husband and I is that he would tell a story while touching me. This was good because it made me relax. I was very nervous at first but My husband was patient and eventually making love became very fun. Also your wife might not know what she likes, so I would say gently experiment but don't force it. that only can make matters worse. Good luck. the shy one