There was a time, many many moons ago that I used to drive 400 miles or so round trip just to see my then fiancee. Tough on the wallet, tough on the wheels, but ultimately good to continue the relationship(at least until i found out she was a lying cheating no-good dishonest...person). As far as picking up and moving, its a leap and you have to decide whether its worth risking unemployment, underemployment, or employment in a field different than what you want. The thing is, she's there and can help you with leads. As far as he and her business, well, the market is showing signs of lightening up...can you wait a couple of more years until it is stable? Is she willing to make that leap for you? Only you and she can answer those questions. Realize there is nothing wrong with playing it safe either...it just may take you longer to realize your optimal situation. Randy