I am going to make several recommendations, and you can check out the reviews and see what you think. http://www.tootimid.com/japanese-strawberry-shake-dual-action-vibe.html I will tell you that this is--no question-my favorite toy! I would recommend it to any woman, beginner to experienced player. http://www.tootimid.com/lucid-dream-14.html This toy gets rave reviews by most women, although I really don't like it. I would recommend any bullet to use alone or as a couple. It provides extra clit stimulation, and can feel really good on your shaft and balls as well. please remember any metal allergies/intolerances can be super painful for weeks afterwards if you are sensitive to metals. I get that LL doesn't like the SmartBalls. Let me explain how these work, so you can develop your own opinion. They are a form of BenWa balls, so the entire purpose of using them is to exercise the vaginal muscles, and keep them tight. The SmartBalls are a little different than most, because they have #1-a small ball inside the larger ball, and #2-there is a retrieval cord, so she doesn't have to go...searching...for the balls. They move around randomly, and occasionally hit the g-spot. They are a...different...addition to a girl's toybox... I have two daughters, and have given toys (accessories, etc)to both of them. My oldest didn't like the SmartBalls for the stimulation, however for her sex life she thought they were fantastic. Her boyfriend noticed when she'd use them more often and he would compliment her on that. Granted it wasn't a sexual thing so much for her, but she said it was fun to use on long car rides. It might be a toy that the two of you get to enjoy. How's that for a start?