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Hi and welcome Check the sex education tab at the top of this page for some very good information on anal sex. It should not hurt!

I went on line to my craft store web site, it's the quick release clips I need and webbing. I found what I need online, going to the store tomorrow. I just need to lengthen the straps. I have a very good sewing machine for quilting. With a heaving duty needle, I can sew through pretty much anything (including my finger, which I have done once or twice, by accident of course!) thanks,I'll let you know what works. ps: I went to my craft/fabric store, they do not sell the same type of quick release clips the bed restraint came with, but those come off the straps on one side, they are not sewn down. I bought some 1 inch wide elastic belt strap, they were out of the webbing, but this sews easier and will give just a little, but not much. I sewed about 1inch of the ends together, one from the webbing the bed restaint came with to the one side of the elastic belt strap, reinserted the clip and the straps are now very long (almost too long, but I figured we could cut them down once we "measure" them and it is better to have too long an ending on the strap so as for it to not come loose). They were very easy to sew, I didn't even have to use a heavy duty needle or heavy thread. I pulled on the sewn ends and since the elastic gives alittle, the ends hold.

Hi, I purchased the Bed Buckler restraint system from Liberator. My bed is a king size with very deep sides. (I have to buy extra deep pocket sheets for beds of 18" deep to fit!) I set the system up, but the straps barely reach to just over the top of the mattress. Way to short to use comfortably. I need to add more to the length of the straps. Does anyone know of how to do this? Is there an extension set someone sells? I am thinking of going to my neighborhood craft store and just buy more webbing strap and see if the D rings they sell too will fit the ones in the Liberator set. They look to be normal D ring hooks. Any suggestions would be helpful

Hi, I purchased the Bed Buckler restraint system from Liberator. My bed is a king size with very deep sides. (I have to buy extra deep pocket sheets for beds of 18" deep to fit!) I set the system up, but the straps barely reach to just over the top of the mattress. Way to short to use comfortably. I need to add more to the length of the straps. Does anyone know of how to do this? Is there an extension set someone sells? I am thinking of going to my neighborhood craft store and just buy more webbing strap and see if the D rings they sell too will fit the ones in the Liberator set. They look to be normal D ring hooks. Any suggestions would be helpful Thanks They aren't D rings but quick release clips for, I think, 1 inch webbing.

My husband also works long hours, I have found a way to initiate is to join him while he is watching tv at night. He is a news junkis and has to watch the nightly news. I curl up to him and we will snuggle, kiss during the news. I also start massaging his shoulders while and just sorta move downward. He, like your partner, will start off saying "how tired he is", but somehow by me showing him some attention, we end up in bed for playtime. Mornings on weekends are our times too, if he doesn't have to work that is. I have found he will often be more receptive if he knows he can go back to sleep while I get up and start my weekend chores/errands. AS for a bed, we just bought a king size pillow top, it has great support and is very comfy. Not sure if there is one type for sexual enhancement, but a good night's sleep is what we all need. When you go shopping for the mattress, my advice is to take your time, lay on the beds. I found the sales people encourage this to find what feels' good to your back. I found advice on different types of beds by checking on mattress manufacturer's web sites. I encourage a king size, it allows for lots of movement room with no fear of falling off the bed! Welcome to the post too! I too am in mid-life, but have been married for 26+ years. good luck and have fun!

My husband also works long hours, I have found a way to initiate is to join him while he is watching tv at night. He is a news junkis and has to watch the nightly news. I curl up to him and we will snuggle, kiss during the news. I also start massaging his shoulders while and just sorta move downward. He, like your partner, will start off saying "how tired he is", but somehow by me showing him some attention, we end up in bed for playtime. Mornings on weekends are our times too, if he doesn't have to work that is. I have found he will often be more receptive if he knows he can go back to sleep while I get up and start my weekend chores/errands. AS for a bed, we just bought a king size pillow top, it has great support and is very comfy. Not sure if there is one type for sexual enhancement, but a good night's sleep is what we all need. When you go shopping for the mattress, my advice is to take your time, lay on the beds. I found the sales people encourage this to find what feels' good to your back. I found advice on different types of beds by checking on mattress manufacturer's web sites. I encourage a king size, it allows for lots of movement room with no fear of falling off the bed! Welcome to the post too! I too am in mid-life, but have been married for 26+ years. good luck and have fun!

thanks Howard, Yes, I do know about fast forward and pause. I plan to utilize these "features"!

Those are the DVD's I ordered He does allow me to give him bj and he does give me great oral sex satisfaction. I am not sure just why he doesn't want to watch others, to me it's a way of learning more how to please him. Oh, well, baby steps, he has accepted vibrators, flavored lubes and is now talking about expanding our toy box! So, we are making progress.

Thanks, I didn't mention in my update on our trip, but while at the adult toy store, he was wandering the DVD selection. I have ordered the "better sex" DVD set as a way of introducing this(he told me he wouldn't mind if they were more educational). Plus I found out our adult toy store rents their DVD's for a decent cost. So you can try before buying. Although TT has better prices for DVD's, this is a way for us to see if we like it or not. I'll keep checking in on the reviews, thanks for your suggestion.

I'd also like to know what makes these different from antibacterial wipes. I carry those kind of wipes for cleaning of hands when out and about running errands. The ones I carry are for sensitive skin and are a lot like baby wipes (which I have used them for on occasion).

thanks, did I mention we have reservations at the same resort for Nov? I should also mention we have been married for 26years, we have had our up's and downs-AND I don't mean sexually! We have been through a lot together, the past 5 years were downers. We just couldn't seem to get out "act" together. Something happened in May and our relationship is better than it ever has been. In the bedroom and out!

my husband is interested in adding these to our toys. Can you find and post a link to the ones you like?

Update: On our way out of town, I told my husband I wanted to stop at the adult toy store to get some bubble bath and soap that was NOT girlie scented like the ones I have at home. He agreed and when we pulled into the parking lot, he asked if I wanted him to come in. I told him only if he felt comfortable, but that I'd appreciate it if he did come help choose the soap. In he came, I had told him it was a large place, but I could see he was surprised how large and all the items they have. We choose our soap and when I was looking at some candles, I turned around and found him looking at the vibrators. I left him alone to "explore" and wandered near by but not too close. He came to me and said shall we get one? The look on my face gave me away (after all, after 26+ years, he can read most of my expressions) and he said "you have some!" I said yes, he asked if I brought them with me on the trip and again I nodded. He laughed and hugged me and said I want to see them tonight! We wandered the store somemore, stopping to comment on some items. On our way to our destination, we talked about some of the items we saw, including vibrators and how I came to find these toys. That night was wonderful, although he had problems learning how to use the controls (he has problems with the tv remote), he was willing to learn them. He commented at least they dont have as many buttons as the tv remote. In all, we had a great 4 days away, talking, loving and talking more. On one talk, he asked if I'd ever consent to being tied up, that he'd love to have me totally under his control. This surprised me and we talked about this more. Plans are in the making for just such a time. thanks for your advice, ps: my teen age son told me after we got home on our way to his dr appt that anytime we want the house to ourselves to tell him and he will make sure we have it! I gave him a look like "WHAT are you talking about"? his reply, it was obvious to him, his sister and brother that we need time alone.

Just had to add that while with my son at his Physical Therapy yestirday, I saw what looked like the ramp and wedge. They were even covered like my ramp from Liberator. Upon closer inspection, they were Liberators! His PT came over when he saw me looking at them, I'm guessing from the look on my face he knew what I was thinking.... WHY here! He said these shapes are softer covered then the vinyl ones and the wedge is easier on the kids they see. Plus the covers come off and they can wash them easier then the chemical's they have to use on the vinyl ones! So saying to family and friends they are PT equipment, could be the truth!

WOW, you sound like me, only 31 years ago! I too had low self esteem and have anziety about new places since I was a child. It escallated till I started having full blown panic attacks when I was in my late 20's. By then I was married, forturnately to a wonderful man who hung in there with me. But the guys I was dating in my early 20's, took advantage of me and were very controllling. Sort of like you feeling you had to "earn' his attention. Don't put off not considering medication, it helped me and I still have some mild med's I use when I feel stress of life getting to me. There is a lot dr's can prescribe that won't interfere with you being able to study. Plus consider seeing a counselor (it took me 3 different ones over 3 years to find the one who truely helped), I did, he happened to specialize in anziety disorders. He helped not only understand the whys and wherefores of my feelings, but helped me see I am an awesome person, loved by God, my husband and family. Take care of YOU, YOU deserve it!