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guys in california love tatoo's! my man is covered in them and he's a huge suicide girl fan. we look at convention magazines and we share our plans about tatoo's he thinks the next two i want are sexy and the first two i have he says are cute (a sun and moon on my feet). i'm saving up for this beautiful bleeding heart on my shoulder behind my heart and when my sick cat dies i will get his paw prints going up my side, back and neck.. he said that one will be real sexy. and i know i'll love it cuz it will mean so much to me.

i want to marry you. you make some men look like total assholes. i dunno if my man feels the same way about me, but if he does he sure dosen't say it.

i too have yet to orgasm through penitration alone. but i also just recently discovered the pleasures of the g-spot. it will take some time before you will be able to orgasm through just penitration. try foreplay till your almost there then start penitration or different positions to find which best stimulates your g-spot. and don't ecpect anything from it at first, if i starts to feel like you aren't going to orgasm use your fingers or a toy or have your lover take over. patience is important. AND if you've never had a g-spot orgasm read the article here on it. i had never had one 'till i read it, but i recomend trying it on your own with a toy first, then have your SO try it with a toy or fingers as you guide them so they have an idea as to where you are most sensitive, then go for the penetration. best wishes!

if a man wants it once a week or less and a woman wants it every other day or so, would using these birth controls even things out for her? after all it's not easy to ask one to do more than he desires it makes him feel like he's 'trying' or 'performing'. besides wanting it more makes me feel like a freak and just makes me irritable when we don't. if i didn't want so much we'd both be happy.

when i was upset about my SO masturbating to porn without me (yeah i know im over it) i totally freaked cuz i thought he wanted to masturbate to those hot chicks instead of have sex with me (i always feel like i want more sex than him). i asked if he could ease off on the masturbation for a while till i felt it wasn't effecting how much he wanted me. BIG mistake! i saw a freshly used condom in the bathroom trash (we usually toss ours in the bedroom trash) when we hadn't had sex in a week. i thought 'shit! i made him feel guilty and now he's trying to hide it from me!!!' i asked if that’s what happened and he said yes. i feel so bad! i've told him it's ok, in fact i want him to enjoy that freedom. but he said he feels uncomfortable with it now. i said i was sorry. oh god i feel guilty now. he still wont do it, unless im on vacation. i wish i'd never asked him not to.

oh well, no harm in trying something new. i've never done a hand job before. (cuz i always get too excited and jump to oral)

i would have to be... Molly Magnolia OMG thats so cute! totaly me too!

Where could I find those devices? I’ve done Kegels for a little while now and I want to be sure I’m doing them correctly.

ok ok i need to know if it is possible to use with blowjobs as well. this stuff sounds great for my SO but i know he would want me to introduce it first before he'd use it alone. i love oral so much that the idea of just giving him a hand job is a little disappointing. does it have a flavor? can you swallow it let alone put it in your mouth? if anyone has answers it would be very helpful!

that is a great idea. i was thinking about trying a hoodia weight loss supplement i could say if he is interested we could do it together. if not oh well. no big deal.

almond butter and dark chocolate! clothes shopping cooking (i love planning and making a meal) buying stuff to spoil my cat (i love him!) and for the sexual one... i love to orgasm doggie style. it's harder for me to do, usually takes a clit vibe, and packs some air up there... but it's sooooooo worth it.

i think it might be worth a try. i found the Max Stamina Sexual Stimulant on this site. lord only knows if it works, but i don’t know how to hint at or suggest it. we've tried some things like stress relief and being more playful but i think if he would be willing to try something natural like this supplement, it might enhance his libido a bit. it’s something i would need to be cautious with only because i don't want to suggest anything that would insult him. i mean we've agreed that we have different sex drives and that we want to do something about it, but how would one address a supplement? i know men can be touchy about feeling like they NEED a stimulant. any suggestions?

i've had these before and the breathing should help. also try keeping real hydrated along with the breathing. it worked for me. being stressed out wont help much either.

i have enjoyed porn before this. it was artistic and i suppose what some might label 'feminist porn' it did not shoot sectioned parts of the female body it was the whole person and she was beautiful not 'sluty'. it won some type of porn award. also the men were just as beautiful as the women. they acted natural. natural is a big thing for me because i grew up as an actress and anything that isn't subtle is cheesy or overdone to me. the one thing i hated most about the stuff i found on the computer was that it was all cheep and the men were either ugly and old or overly tan and buff. the women were ugly in their faces but greased up and airbrushed. it's fine for some people but i don't like it. if i could get a hold of some artsy or feminist porn i think it would help me get past this mental block. in my heart i know that he knows all about how fake and poorly made it is and that it was a quick fix. but would it be much to ask if we could look at these things together first before i am comfortable with him looking at it by himself? right now i feel like he wants the cheesy stereotypical stuff for himself. and for some reason it bothers me... like thats what he really fantasizes about. that would be ok if he told me that he had a thing for that. but he is the type of person who not only makes fun of porn but he is a film major and is REALLY picky about the production value and convincing acting and plot in regular film. why not porn too? if this is really something he likes then why does he not want me to imitate it? is it really something he was just settling for because it was convenient? thats what he says. most importantly i don't want him to feel like this makes him bad or even that what he is doing is bad. it's mostly my struggle with how i feel about it. anyways i really think it would be good for me to find some of the porn i like. i want to be able to appreciate it again. anyone know where to start?

i needed to hear this. thanks to everyone for your input. i really hope this all works itself out.

i recomend looking at the g-spot article like howard said. i just took a look at it and realized that i actualy squirted once and didn't even know! i was just wierded out and thought i had peed a little but... it felt good. im so glad i know what that was now! now i have to see if i can do that again!

that joke just made my entire day! i really needed to laugh. thanks howard!

i dont really think everything is dirty but id rather just come up with it on my own than imitate an expert. i think im just so hurt because he lied about it. he doesn't want me to have anything to do with it. he uses it for masturbation only. i told him i was uncomfortable with it as a secret thing while we are living together (at first i was willing to experiment together) and he said "oh thats not a big deal it's not really something im all that into. i promise i wont do it anymore." but then he tryed to hide it from me by doing it on the laptop. i came home and asked if he did anything while i was gone (i asked just so it wouldn't be secret and just open and honest about it) he said no. but then i found it later on with the date and time that exact time i asked. to me this means it really does mean something to him and that he wants to keep it to himself. which to me means there is a part of him that dosen't want me in his sexlife. i know people need space from each other but secrets and lies hurt. why can't he just be open about it? i would have been fine if he just sugested we try stuff together with it. but now i don't think i could.

i want so badly to be open minded and accepting. so much it makes me cry. but i just don't like porn. i feel like there is something wrong with me. like i should be able to handle it or at least the idea of my SO looking at it. but it makes me feel like a scared little child. it upsets me. im as liberal as you can get about every other thing but all i can think of when i look at it is how i SHOULD look like those girls and do those gross things but i don't want to be anything like that. I feel like I should want something that makes me feel sick. I try so hard to understand the need for men to look at it but i just see it as misogynistic. The idea that these people on screen are real people acting out sex bothers me. It’s like an intrusion into our sex life. What is the difference between video cybersex and porn? One is at times considered cheating the other is not just ok but the norm. I don’t think it’s wrong really expesialy for single folks or couples who both like it. I just cant help but feel this way. Why cant I just be normal?!? Why can’t I just be ok with this? I feel like im preventing my boyfriend from doing something he needs to do just cuz I feel this way. I don’t want to be that type of person. He says it’s not important but who am I to ask him to stop? It hurts me so much to think of him getting off to that type of sex. That fake manufactured type. I want to make him happy like that. Do I need to be fake and plastic and tan and skinny and shaved to make him really happy. Maybe that’s why he doesn’t want sex as much as I do. I don’t know! I just want to know how I can stop feeling this way. I just don’t want this to hurt anymore.

the feminist side of me totally agrees with what people have said about looking child like. it makes sense. men like young fertile looking women. fertile = large breast and or butt/hips, and young = no hair, no cellulite, no wrinkles/sagging. i'm 19 and i have all three of those in someplace or another. im not against shaving i do it myself, but it's interesting to think about. and rather hard to keep up with sometimes. every once in a while i get sick of maintenance and just want to let it all go for a bit. but that’s what vacation is for right? (yay next week for me!)

ok i read the info on anal and it says nothing about hemroids. the only thing i've learned is that it can cause hemroids. but what if you already have them? is it risky? i already loose a lot of blood every time i have a bowl movement i don't need to loose any more. should i just ask a doctor or something?

i don't think my b/f is crazy. the last two things suggested, low testosterone and not feeling the need, is more like it. he seems hesitant to 'push' himself to 'perform' more. i say more sex, he says ok, but nothing happens. the only thing i was concerned about psychologically was that he is interested in other sexual things like porn or movies involving dirty or violent sex, yet not so much into the real thing. the only thing i know that might scar him sexually is that he was molested as a child. but i doubt that could still affect him when he's already dealt with it. all in all i think we will figure something out. i'm pretty patient. well, thank you all for all your advice! i'll try to bring the subject up again to him (without nagging). maybe we can work something out.

i try initiating sex it usually doesn’t work. mostly i end up waiting for him. i work, and when i come home from a long stressful day i like to get close to my guy. but when he has a long day at school and even after finishing his homework he seems like he has a lot on his mind or is wiped out. mornings are so busy that im too afraid we would make one of us late for work/school. how can we have sex during the week??? i like sex at night, but i learned early on that that isn't a good time. new stuff is nice and can cause little spurts of lots of sex but it only lasts a day or two. and lastly i don't get it but he gets annoyed mostly when i flirt with him throughout the day. he began to patronize me about it. like "oh you, your always in the mood" or if i say 'your so sexy' he says something like "i know you wont let me forget *giggle*" like im just so cute with my little sex drive. ugh! so I just stopped cuz I felt bad about it.

im afraid it might have something to do with fear of hurting me emotionally. we have a somewhat father/child relationship (i hate that). i have a lot of emotional issues and he thinks he can fix them all. im glad that he cares and wants to listen but sometimes i think that he looks at me and sees what i'm going through and not just me. like he doesn't enjoy me as a sexual being, but more like a dear family member. don't get me wrong there have been a few grand times where he has initiated it and seemed really into it, but that tends to be few and far between. i know he loves me very very much and we are really close emotionally. but i feel like we aren't as close physically. besides my problems don't follow me to the bedroom. im not always thinking about them.

i keep it natural on the top but bald around the labia. it's weird but it's nice for him during oral sex.