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Oh my goodness, that movie is hot. In my opinion it's way better than porn. I just love the expressions on the female sub's face, because so often I feel like I know exactly what she's feeling! I identify with this movie so much... Actually, I first heard about it from my lover, and I went out to rent it just because he'd asked if I'd ever seen it, and during a costume party about a month later, I surprised him by dressing up in heels and a secretary sort out outfit - and then told him I'd watched that movie he recommended a while ago. He knew exactly what I was talking about - delicious.

I accidentally dripped some hot wax on myself when I was just lighting some candles in my room... but since I had recently been talking with my lover about sex wax, and playing with things of various temperatures, I must admit, I was highly turned on. But I guess I have a VERY high threshold for heat, and I love the sensation of pretty much anything warm. I have yet to try it with actual sex wax, with anyone else, though, and I would really love to make that fantasy a reality.

I'd like some opinions here, because I'm getting a bit worried... So, in the past week or two, whenever I've had an orgasm, there's been a weird sort of almost-painful twinge in my lower stomach. At first I didn't think much of it, but it's been consistent. I've never had that feeling before and I'm not really enjoying it, because it kind of kills the orgasm halfway through. Also, I wonder if it could just be that those muscles are tired. I'm not sure at all. Thoughts, please?

Now, in real life, this makes no difference to me--I have been attracted to people of so many nationalities I don't really think I even have a "type" I go for. But oh my god, when there's a guy on TV or in a movie with an Irish accent, I practically have to leave the room. SO sexy!! Then again, I even thought Spike from Buffy was sexy just because of his accent... So I guess Irish accents and *some* English accents really do it for me. And I don't know how you would classify his accent, but the guy from The Mummy movie with the tattoos on his face had a different sort of look/accent about him and he was damn fine!

So here's a question for you... In your opinion, what's the ideal width for a toy? Specifically I mean an insertable toy, of course. For myself, it turns out that I'm not a huge fan of something that's too wide or too thick; the only insertable toy I have right now is the Double Impact Vibe, which I really enjoy, which is 5 1/2" long and 1.5" wide--but even that's almost too much for me. I think anything more on the length would be uncomfortable, and same goes for the width. I'm wondering if that's just how I'm built, because sometimes it seems like I'm gripping it too tightly, so that the width is almost too unyielding. (This has never been a problem during sex, though...) A lot of women seem to prefer something longer, though I'm beginning to get the impression that that width is plenty for many. Now I know that all women are built differently in that respect, as are all men, but do any of you have a preference for something that might sound a little on the "smaller" side to most people?

So I may sound crazy, here, but here goes. My boyfriend is still technically married to another woman, but the two of them are in the process of getting a divorce--it's been a long time coming and everyone in our social group can see it's time. Not that anyone knows about him and me, yet, though, because we have been keeping it very much on the down low. I don't want to cause problems for him and he doesn't want to make me seem like "the other woman" for everyone to get mad at. I know this probably sounds like a very stupid situation to a lot of people reading this. He approached me, and he doesn't just want an affair; he's actually already somewhat committed to me even though he has to finish this process with his almost-ex wife. And the crazy part is that even though all this is going on, I know I want to be with him, in a serious relationship, and I'm willing to wait for him. However, something has been coming up the past several weeks, and that's the issue of kids. Even before we were really seriously thinking about an "us," there was talk of kids; everyone knows that I want them--obviously not now, but maybe YEARS down the line. But recently, he seems to have decided that he doesn't want them. Personally, I think the reason he's suddenly freaking out about this, which is something that shouldn't even come up for years, is that he's already so worried about everything else, with the divorce and money and all, that he doesn't want to even think about that responsibility right now. I'm very lost as to what to do. We have such a good way of communicating, and we really do have perfect chemistry, and I don't want to throw this possible relationship away because of something that probably won't be an issue down the line, even though he's got so many issues to worry about right now. I honestly just need some advise. I've been talking to my friends and they've been very helpful, but what do you guys think?

Well, I'm a fan of whipping and spanking. I also like a little bit of scratching, or the feeling of being held down in a forceful way. I suppose like to have a certain amount of force exerted on me... And one thing I think is interesting is that while most women--at least women who enjoy a bit of pain--like having their nipples played with/pinched/etc., it doesn't do anything for me at all!

I do have TMJ, actually, and I've been trying to work on relaxing my jaw just while I'm sitting in class and such...

I have an issue that I didn't even realize was an issue until I started reading more about effective ways to masturbate... But I clench my jaw and usually the muscles in my shoulders and neck when I'm trying to reach orgasm. I was thinking about this the other day, and I realized that this may be the main reason that I have a hard time with my lover. I can orgasm with him and get myself to orgasm fine, but I've never had anyone else actually "give" me an orgasm. Do you think this jaw-clenching thing might be contributing to the problem?

Well, none of my friends know I'm on this site... My lover knows that I've purchased toys, but I can't remember if I told him from where... Mostly, I feel like I need a place to discuss sex with someone who isn't him; does that sound weird? It's not at all that we don't communicate; we talk about sex (and everything else) all the time, but I like to get perspectives other than his, sometimes. My friends don't really talk much about sex; a few of them are too shy, and one of them seems actually uncomfortable with the subject altogether. So I like having this wonderful forum as my own little personal outlet...

Ok, so, through some experimentation, my lover and I have discovered that I enjoy anal stimulation, and that I'm actually quite interested in actually trying anal sex. However, a few weeks ago, we tried it, using what I thought was a generous amount of lube... but that wasn't really the problem. There was some pain, but it wasn't from friction, it was the muscles down there. Of course, we stopped immediately and I insisted that that try didn't count. I've tried reading a lot of sites and the information on this site, but I'm having trouble finding the best way to actually prepare myself for anal penetration. It seems like it's something I should be doing myself; is that true? What do you guys think?

So over the past few months with my current boyfriend, I've learned that there are many things about BDSM that I'm really into; however, there was one thing that came up a few weeks ago that I can't quite wrap my head around, and that is the whole ball gag fetish. I just can't understand what is appealing about them; I looked at a few pictures to try to understand how people use them and why they might like them, but I just didn't find any of those pictures sexy or arousing at all. Now, in this situation, I'm trying to think of it as something sexy to do for my lover, especially since I'm not the one who has to look at me if we were to involve a gag in play; however, I just can't see myself using one without feeling very silly. What do you guys think? And if any of you are into that, what makes it appealing to you?

My personal opinion is this: a lot of porn is simply trashy and badly done, and is (FOR ME!, but to each his own!) kind of painful to watch. However, I do also believe that people have a hard time controlling what turns them on, and I think the porn industry makes so much money because they realize there are certain things, mostly taboo things, that are highly arousing for some or even a lot of people. It's always hard, however, when you and your SO aren't turned on by the same things; it makes one of you feel like you have to compromise. Personally, I don't think you should feel that way. You know what you like, and you can allow your boyfriend to like what he does without feeling like it's any slight to you.

Hey all, kind of a random question here... What some of your thoughts on hair pulling? For me, personally, it's a big turn on, and I don't even really know why. As in, if I'm not even thinking along sexual lines and someone (ok, well, a certain someone....) pulls my hair, I'm automatically in the mood.

Well, I've always swallowed; I think there might have been one time when I didn't, not quite out of choice, either, and I learned from that experience alone that it was just too messy, and certainly not as sexy, for either of us. The weird thing about it is that except when it comes to oral, I have a terrible gag reflex, but from what I've heard from several people I know, that's a common thing...

I get a lot of complements on my eyes, but as far as body goes... I'd say legs. And I actually like my tummy. Is that weird, gals?

Hey, I just received this product in the mail; gotta love quick delivery! But has anyone else had issues with the battery pack? When I went to put in the batteries, the whole pack itself seemed to come apart from the main body of the toy--so that I can see the wiring and stuff at the bottom. That's probably gonna affect its ability to be waterproof, right...? Was mine just a faulty product?

Hi everyone! I found this site a few months ago, and I'm really glad I did; I've mostly been browsing for the past few months, and this is a really great, informative, friendly site. I'm glad there are so many knowledgeable people here who are willing to share! Thanks for giving us less-than-informed people such a place to participate. Also, I've never had a toy before, and I finally made my first purchase! Yay!

I must admit that I, too, really enjoy and rather get off on the romanticized version of vampires in movies like "Interview with the Vampire". The first time I watched that particular movie I was with my boy, and let me say how glad I was that we were alone!