SensualWoman

FANTASIZE!! Masterbating is great, but fantasizing makes it so much more greater!

I say that if your unhappy with your size, and you have the money, change it. But don't do it because someone told you to, or told you that you should. Do it because YOU want to. I personally love the feel of real breasts, smaller or bigger, although big breasts are a little too much for me. Necking with a woman with nice larg-C to small-D sized breasts is AWESOME. Sorry, got side-tracked...

I personally didn't date this guy, but a friend was married to this guy that didn't want anything to do with foreplay! Nothing. Not even lingere. He just goes in, does his thing, and then they cuddle. She has her toys to prepare herself before hand. That is the closest I've gotten to a guy like that... And I must say, I think it is very strange.

Since you are new to toys, start with something not so intimidating. Perhaps try a multi-speed vibrator. It can be inserted but also can help you to achieve just a clitoral orgasm; which trust me, is a great begining to helping you with bigger and better orgasms. I do second that you should probably invest in a bullet to help you find that right feeling and to get more comfortable with toys. As for dual-action/rabbits, the suggested above is a great start to using dual-action. My suggestion would be the Butterfly Kiss http://shop.tootimid.com/butterfly-kiss.aspx it is smaller/less intimidating, made for the G-Spot, and is waterproof. So you can relax in a spa, take it into the bath or the shower. It has many great reviews and is at a great price. Good luck with choosing the right toy!

I have found that duracell have lasted the longest for me. But I am with the rechargable club all the way!

Kinda reminds me of the X-Ray of a chick giving a dude a BJ...

As much as I want to be rid of my stretch marks, (as I'm sure any woman with this "flaw" has thought the something similar) but I would never actually go under the knife. I have never been under, so the thought is a little frightening. That last sentence is very true, my hubby would never let me do anything to my "already perfect body". As much as I would want to to feel more sexy, I wouldn't do it if it made my hubby uncomfortable, and not recgonize me. Just can't wear two-piece bathing suits, I don't to begin with. Bring on the stretch marks!

Thank you very much! Like Mikayla1 said, I am so glad that we have a Doc on here. My Doc recommended the same thing, but she didn't tell me a specific period of time to try it. My HB did do that for a little while, but I found that it didn't do much to help, so he didn't feel the need to do it. Which isn't his fault as I wasn't asking him to do it anymore. I have tried working on consciously relaxing my vaginal muscles, but it just seems to work on the first half of the vaginal muscles... Which does help a lot, but still is a little frustrating, so I give up before even getting half way there. I have been trying to find a happy medium with my fiber intake. Either I'm having too much, and I am having too many bathroom visits or I'm not having enough. Basically it is a working progress. And I have been letting it get to me when I should just keep being patient. Just letting out my issues on here has got me thinking a whole lot, and talking a whole lot with my HB, who is the most patient and understanding man I know. We have worked out a whole lot over the past few days and I'd say that the problems are fixed or are being worked on. We got a new baby-doll outfit today, (something more comfortable and let maintance to get put on. And something that I feel comfortable in) And I must say that it is really cute. He does love my corsets a lot, and doesn't notice the bit of fat bulging, but I need to work on my self confidence and work out/loose weight to gain some more. Every little ounce that I loose is a little more confidence. Thank you very much for the advice and help, because it is being put to use.

I did some of this stuff before my first boyfriend (now HB). Although I would love to do the rest. I know what to do if something happens between my HB and I.

I'm not big on porn, I'm the kind of person who likes to leave some things to imagination. It doesn't gross me out to see another guy's penis, erect or not. I just don't get the enjoyment out of porn like some people do. It is quite boring for me actually. "Oh... They are fucking the shit out of each-other... Yay?"---is my usual reaction. Porn is not for everyone. I would get enjoyment out of watching people in real life having sex. Real sex. Just thinking of watching real people makes me all wet. And I never giggled at the sight of a penis. In fact, for a very long time, I have gotten aroused at the sight. I just want to make my HB's penis hard when I see it flacid. Much more fun when hard.

That is very helpful. As I was writing my answers down last night, I realized quite a few things that was rooting the problems I was having. So I talked with my hubby again, just with more "oomf" to have him understand that variety is needed. He pointed out that I wasn't realizing that it was me as well as him that was not doing their part. So we talked about it and have come with an agreement to get more passion and liveliness back into the bedroom. The belly thing has always been there, but only recently has it really bothered me. Physical attraction is there, especially his arms. His arms alone can get me hard-core in the bed. Although I can see that the time spent with him isn't long enough to be utterly attracted to him. I love him so much that I want to please him to the utmost of my ability. And I am the kind of person that doesn't see that the other person is doing what I asked, only that they aren't doing other things, or that they arn't doing it the "way I would do it". So yes, very much so a figuring out thing, not really a pill thing. What I mean by less vanilla is: More of everything. Positions, props, different ways of initiating sex, variation in foreplay. I did talk to my HB about this, and he agreed and said that he was needing the same thing. So that has been taken care of. Well, at least we will know when this monthly moon flow goes away. And pain during the begining. Hmmmm. basically it is a ripping feeling. We don't literately use a whole bottle, but there are times where we have used a lot. I can be aroused and ready and have orgasmed three or more times and still the pain is there. But only at the entering part, then after his whole member is in, we can start thrusting and there is no more pain. The bowel thing is that... Well... How to explain this... My movements, once in the bowels, don't really move for a bit. So basically they just sit there for about 12 hours. I have always had this issue. But this has hindered sex. The bowels and the vagina are so close together that you can feel the stool just by putting your finger against the wall that separates them. So during sex, the stool is pushed back on by HB's penis. Lets just say that it hurts LIKE HELL. So, this stops deep penetration and any positions that encourage it. I love and get most pleasure from DP, so I don't get as much pleasure when we are only doing shallow thrusting. I don't think there is anything that can be done for either of these things. So we just work with what we got. There is one position that we have found that we can use during these times, and it is the best one I have found for g-spot rubbing. (Now I'm hot just thinking about it.) I was thinking last night that lack of confidence is hindering my wanting to be seen naked or even half naked. I love wearing lingere, but I don't. I feel and see where the fat is hanging out. My boobs are my best asset, but I can't wear bodices or corsets because the fat under my arms bulges out. Lets just say that the sexual and self confidence goes out the window when I see this. I can't stay aroused when I am frustrated and uncomfortable. Thus the loosing of weight that I have been doing. So that is in the works. I also have connection issues, which has done a number on our love-making. When I am only a little bit mentally aroused, I can either have sex or not. If I do, I get bored though. So I base the decision on how much my HB wants to do it. However, this was also talked about last night, so that much is being taken care of. I am going to start focusing on wanting him. And we are going to get lingere that I feel confident in. I wasn't raised to think that I was good looking, or skinny enough. So even though I was only 118 pounds, I still felt fat, and was never really told that I was "thin". So that is the root of my confidence problem. Wow, just talking about it has helped me to see where the real problems are... Being asked questions that I never thought of has helped so much! Thank you! It is not just him that needs to change, I need to work on a lot myself. I didn't know until he told me of course though. He is a man. Nuff said. Took two years of asking what he needed and wanted to get him to tell me.

Wow, I never thought of those questions... Let me see: I physically get aroused, (engorging labia and clit, heart rate goes up, all that jazz) and a little mentally in the mood, but as soon as foreplay starts, the interest just goes away. I am 20, and haven't gotten totally fit yet, a few pounds over-weight. Although now that I think about it: when my hubby and I were working out a lot, there was lots of sex. But I have been getting in shape again, and that hasn't really changed much. The physical attraction to my hubby is there, it's just a little hard with his belly to get into things the way I like it. Meaning positions sometimes can't work, or there is a.....slapping sound. Which bothers both of us. (He isn't working at changing that... I finally just got him to stop eating fast food after almost four years. ) But that was there when we first started having sex, and it didn't bother me. However a year or so later, my boobs started really hurting, my mood swings were worse and my general interest in sex dwindled. I talked to my doc at that time and she said that the sore breasts, mood swings, and possible low libido were normal. The sex is really vanilla, and because it hurts at first, we have to start really slow, which is a bit of a mood killer, especially during more passionate times. (We can start with a whole bottle of lube on him and in me and nothing helps. If it can help with the pain, we have done it) I have talked to my hubby about bringing more passion into the bedroom, and to look at tantric ways of making-love, and even reading on the articles on here and reading "How to" sex books. Nothing seems to get him to do things differently. So that might be the underlying issue now that I think more into it. I did tell him that I would work on initiating the sex, since I never do. I am the kind of person who finds it more of a turn on for him to start things, but it can't always happen like that. And to answer that last question: It started about three-four months ago. My drive was less than I would have liked before, and then it just kept getting lower. Sex is always the same. We go into the bedroom/we take clothes off/I get onto bed/he kisses a little here and there then gets straight to oral(but not till orgasm, as it takes for freaking ever to go for me)/then I give him a little oral/he starts going in me/then missionary for a bit/perhaps a little doggy/then done. I have bowel issues, so sometimes we can only do it in one position, as it is EXTREMELY painful to do any others. No props, I don't feel comfortable enough in lingere to stay in the mood. The more and more I think about these answers the more I am thinking that it is less of a B.C issue... Oh, and we talk about everything a lot. I have mentioned my needs to him before with no avail. Or he tries something that I asked and it is just too hard with his size (more his height than his width for most things) That is a lot of info... I hope that it helps!

I have been on The Pill for a few years straight now, and the same brand. I do get horny, and when I do, it is intense, however I am not mentally in the mood very much. In fact, I would say that only 50% of the times that sex is involved am I actually in the mood mentally. I try to just go forward with sex and hope that I will mentally get into it. However, as I'm sure there are people on here who have done this, sex gets boring when there is no mental stimulation. I LOVE sex, and anything to do with sex, but I can't seem to enjoy sex as much as I used to when I first started. This might not be a pill problem, but I'm not on any other medications. Any advice would be so appreciated.

I thought that you had just gotten married? Or I might be talking about someone else... hehe

I am the same way. I LOVE breasts. They don't have to be big just big enough that I can grab and/or enjoy admiring, gotta love em.

Wow... I'm glad that I missed this very heated convo... I didn't realize that breastfeeding was such a controversial topic, well, at least not a greatly heated one. All I have to say about it is: it disturbs me when men get aroused by it. That, and showing off breasts more than needed. Although I am with the BRING ON THE BOOBIES! remark. *backs away slowly*

I was just thinking about how I always use the same vibe during solo time just recently. The first toy by HB and I got for me was a G-Spot vibe locally, and I haven't really been able to use it for G-Spot purposes, but I LOVE using the small tip clitorally. I have a big rabbit, but never use it. It's not that it isn't great, I just don't need penetration during solo time. So I guess that I haven't really got into bigger and better things. I have bullets that I only like during foreplay, cards that tell you what to do or say, dice, cuffs, anal beads. But I always go to the same toy. I have yet to venture into glass as it is too expensive for a student, (would rather buy food) but I am looking forward to trying something new. I don't need stronger vibes, I just need different speeds, and they have to be waterproof. So no evolutionary process for me.

This toy has been free a few times. But the most recent time I didn't have the money to pay for shipping. (Being in Canada sucks for shipping costs, the last free item that I got I had to pay $12 for shipping. )

You could try the Spectra Beaded Anal Vibrator. http://shop.tootimid.com/spectra-gels-anal-toys-beaded-anal-vibrator.aspx My hubby really enjoys it, and the first three beads are thin. Although, perhaps you should get X-10 Beads http://shop.tootimid.com/x-10-beads.aspx first since the beads are even smaller at the tip. My hubby also has the same one and was able to use it comfortably. Hope this helps you find the best toy to begin anal avenue with.

The toy that has gotten my hubby and I all excited is the Vibrating Strapless Strap On. http://shop.tootimid.com/vibrating-strapless-strap-on.aspx Hubby has been enjoying anal stimulation for quite some time now, and is wanting to be able to enjoy it with me. We have a very vanilla-type sex life that really needs some variation, and this is the toy to do just that. We won't be able to buy sexual toys any time soon unfortunately, so being able to have this toy would take some stress of our hands.

Shameful, just shameful... Even my lingere sets have more coverage. Shame on the adults who let these CHILDREN dress and dance like this. *goes on a cursing rampage* There are times when I want to become Amish for the sake of my future kids...

My mother-in-law has the same advice. Just get married, there is always divorce if it doesn't work out -- Easy in, easy out. I don't know how you can have a happy love life if that is a person's opinion. It took a year to get married for my hubby and I. We have the same ideas for the future, but there has to be thought and time put into the relationship first. Marriage should be a life-long commitment, not just done on a whim.

Thank you. And Basically going at it all night. unfnny: That is extremely creepy... I would have been concerned.

I feel the most when masterbating my hubby, second most with oral and third vaginally. I actually find it really interesting when masterbating him to feel the shaft ejaculating... I must be weird or something.

Well, in this tiny place... 3(technicly 4). We had done it in many other places in a different house, but this one, don't really have rooms to do it in.