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(Chuckle, Chuckle) Yeah Brandy I do tend to go the marathon route....get me in the zone and I could go for hours (must be that biological age factor again), unfortunately with my man that NEVER happens. (Like Nicole said..."hubby just can't keep up") So if I'm gonna fly solo you can bet that I'm gonna get all I want as hard as I want it. I've been known to wear the batteries out completely but usually you can feel when the juice is starting to go (the battery's- not mine! heh, heh!) so if I'm still stoked I will most definitely stop to reload and power up before they get too slow and weak! (Most vibes use 4 at a time by the way) I don't care...I consider it a good investment....Mama deserves to feel good!

Nicole, I've got that 8" Pleasureskin dildo that Blissful told you about and it's great! Use it by hand or with the suction cup... it's a nice ride! Laundry Goddess, what's you fave hands free? I'm looking for a good one.

Kelli, My heart goes out to you! I had 2 miscarriages myself before I had my daughters and I know the hurt and depression you have is numbing at first. Just trust that with time you will feel better. Life will bring to you something new that will give you joy again! As for this guy, you seriously deserve better than him. Someone like that would never care enough about anyone other than himself (you would not have been happy with him). You'll meet someone who treats and loves you the way you deserve to be...just don't settle for less. Remember there's lots of people who care about you! Best wishes!

OOOh LGoddess I agree with you honey! I must be one horny old bat 'cause I swear I go thru a 20 pack of AA's every single week. I've got my faves that stay loaded at all times and get used at least 2-3 times per day! My stress level has gone way down since I've been supporting the toy & battery companies (woot, woot!)

Thanks Howard I get what you're telling me and I'm looking forward to working on that nice, slow Tantric stuff. I like it "intense" anyway I can get it! Luv Ya!

Plain butt plugs don't do it for me either. Give me the real thing or a wand that VIBRATES and must have the DP w/clit stim to fly!

Very Nice!

Lucky You! Welcome and Enjoy!

Gotta go with the vibe and dual action (my fave is a Doc Johnson with a rotating head on the shaft) and mega clit power....The crystal flex they sell here is great too!

Once you get your first few shaves down it really isn't a problem. Like everyone has said just use a good sharp razor and I've been using that Bikini Zone Shave Gel....Just do it everyday when you bath and you'll be smooth as a baby's ass. I love that bareness and it feels good too!

Damn! That all sounds good to me!

Thanks Pappy I'll definitely check this out.

Howard I agree with you. I think it should be a required class for everyone by their senior year and they can't graduate if they don't pass the "Test" that includes all aspects of this both physical and mental. You can be the dean!

Ah how right you are and when one person has that ingrained "I'm the giver/caretaker" persona in a longstanding relationship and suddenly seriously starts to change things up and demand more the "taker" may be up for trying but just isn't quite able to keep up or truly break the old mold. I guess in this case it's like trying to train a retarded puppy.....you'll be patient for awhile, but if it doesn't catch on soon it's going out to the curb. Ha Ha!

You got it...life would be a whole lot easier for us all if everything was in black and white. Decisions would be easier to make. Mostly though it's shades of gray and you've got to figure out which side of the balance scale is most important to you but still remain true to yourself and your needs.

Yes Howard you're right! We're working on it....but I can't in good conscience just throw away 25 years when every other aspect of our life is good. Things are moving along slowly, but they are moving and I'll give it some time to see if it will progress ENOUGH. You all are a big help and inspiration in the process....(now don't scold me unless you want to include a spanking in there! ha ha!) Luv ya!

Ahhh if only! Alas, I'm afraid that no matter how much "education" and encouragement some people get they are just never going to be willing to try THAT hard and their partners are doomed to a sex life of mediocrity. Damn!

Amen to that!

Mmmmm......What a fine specimen you are!

Thanks! Had to go thru doc's nurse to actually get things rolling with this, but they reveiwed his records and cut one of his meds in half (beta blocker) that they felt might be the culprit here. He went in this morning to get his testosterone levels checked so we'll see were we stand, then we'll be making an appt. with the urologist. Looking forward to getting the medical part of it in line and hopefully upping his libido level. Will keep you posted.

Well since right now this is fantasy land I would have to say 2 men/1 female and the person being focused on is ME! MMMMMMMM......In the real world though I imagine it would be more logistically possible to get it going the other way around as it would probably be hard to find 2 guys who could let go of that ingrained homo-phobe fear. Too bad!

Here's a question to the OPL group or any of you with experience, as a 3-some is becoming an obsessive fantasy. Basically are all 3 members completely satisfied/orgasmed out by the end of your session every time or is one person sometimes left hanging? Even with just a couple that unfortunately is sometimes the case, but with three there would seem to be the problem of 2 hooking up more together than with that 3rd partner. Just wondering.....

This is fascinating! Looking forward to hearing alot from you all. Another question though...have you ever had problems with the territorial thing. I personally think it would be great to have 2 husbands but I think I might have a problem with having another woman invading my territory and authority around the house and the kids. I guess since you two were so close first that helps? Tell us more.....

Oh honey if you only knew how I feel for you! This is a truly frustrating situation and I've never been one to say throw in the towel too easily....If it's worth having it's worth fighting for, but being on the later end of it I've got to tell you that I hate to see any young person miss out on the pleasure that should be yours while you're still young, strong, and beautiful. You always think you have plenty of time for things to work out the way you want them, but time goes by so damn fast and if you don't stay on top of it you find you've invested years...sometimes it might get better, (but maybe still not what if could and should be) and sometimes it won't. If he's truly not willing to try to learn and grow then you've got to decide if this relationship (every aspect of it) makes you happy in all the other areas of your life....if it's really not then don't let fear and indecision keep you from going forward and finding your dream. There will be someone out there who will love you enough to care about your pleasure as well as his and not have these problems to put up with. Life is a gift girl....live it for all it's worth because you are worthy!

Ooh Freakygeri...this is like deja-vu. My husband was exactly the same way. I would read manuals, try all the tips, pleasure him like he was some kind of sultan or something thinking I could get him hot enought to reciprocate, but nada! He would take and enjoy all day but wouldn't hardly even touch me with any kind of foreplay, just expect me to get him aroused and he'd climb aboard for a 60 second hump, roll over and go to sleep. I would be so frustrated I would bite him or something and he'd be all "Damn what did you do that for?" It was like he was too squimish to touch or taste me. I was such a fool I didn't want to start fights so I just put up with this shit for years. Love the man dearly and he loves me, we're good in every other way but this is a big issue. DO NOT LET THIS GO ON! After all these years I am finally communicating my feelings and needs about this and when he realized I was serious and not gonna take it anymore he started to put some effort into it. He is definitely making progress, but now due to past health issues we're having to try to work on the physical side of erection difficulties. I really think some young men are as repressed and ignorant about sex in the beginning as some young women are and without communication and education these people just don't have it in them to learn or grow on their own. Please don't let the years go by being unfulfilled! Speak up, try to educate him and if after really trying he still doesn't measure up and won't try then move on before you wake up one day and find you've lost a big chunk of your life! Best of luck to you!