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I'll tolerate porn if I don't have to look at it too much -- as long as I can keep my face in his lap! Too much of it turns me off. Anal (especially when it's immediately followed by a blowjob in one shot, that's just too gross) and girl on girl turns me off. The only porn I can watch without flinching is vintage or real people, not professionals, because they look like ordinary people without surgery and body makeup and fake moaning.

WOW. I'm SO envious of all of you. I can only get off with my favorite finger, by myself, and my absolute fastest time is 20 minutes. Average time about 45 minutes, and at least 50% of the time I can't get there at all. I love playing with vibes but they always make me numb before I can come. If I could get there in a MINUTE I'd come 12 times a day!! Maybe more!! The ONLY time in my life it was easy and fast (under five minutes) was during mid to late pregnancy with my last two babies. It almost made all the many discomforts of pregnancy worth it! I didn't get that effect with my first baby though, because I hadn't had an orgasm ever at that point. I recently found out that the (Kinsey?) study that gets quoted frequently in sex books that says a majority of women don't mind if they don't come because they think the closeness and intimacy of sex is more important than orgasm was asked only of a group of women who were self-described as being easily orgasmic. Finally that finding made sense to me. It's like asking a rich person if money is important to them. Easy to say it isn't as crucial as love and happiness if you're rolling around in piles of it and can get more in a MINUTE!

I'm not interested in doing a girl, but if I did it would have to be a really dykey one, not a too-pretty movie star. But... I admit I'm fascinated by Buck Angel, self-proclaimed “first and only female-to-male transsexual porn star.” From a website; "...Buck Angel is a transsexual former woman who has gone to great lengths to look as overly masculine as possible, but kept the ol’ vagina perfectly in tact." "...masculinity of muscles and tattoos and a handlebar mustache make it ever so much more disturbing when your eyes pan down to where the twig ‘n berries ought to be, and instead find a weird, bald, giant-clitted mangina in their place" YEAH! I may be able to get into that for one night -- if for no other reason than to see if that big, testosterone enhanced clit works better than mine!

No way are you a sucker! Giving selflessly to a helpless creature builds up your good kharma, and the universe will reward you! Bask in the positive aura that surrounds you, I can almost see it from here, it shines so bright. You should be proud of the example you're setting for your kids. Even if she dies, this is the kind of lesson about doing the right thing that can't be taught by yapping lectures about responsibility (believe me, I've done it plenty) and they won't forget it when they have their own choices to make about what to do in a situation like this one.

My husband loves to have toys used on him, especially when he's tied up and blindfolded which he also loves. His favorites are nipple clamps and small anal toys, plus his fave cock ring that has a tiny vibe for his boys. Sometimes I use one of my vibrators on him, but not for long, he'll get impatient for my mouth after a few minutes. Personally I don't love penetration for it's own sake, just his, so I never use dildos or anything inside me anywhere except for him! I do have a selection of vibes that I use on myself for fun when I'm alone, but when I need to come there's just one thing that works, even though it ruins my manicure... my favorite finger, "Steve" whose nail is ALWAYS short, polish chipped, but it's worth the sacrifice!

I love the power my Hitachi has, but the head is so gigantic I can't use it for more than a minute, if that. I actually used it on my teenage son's back (of COURSE I washed it!) a few days ago when he did too many squats, it worked great for that but I don't really want it to become a permanent fixture in the weight room, although it may be too late for that since I overheard him raving about it to his buddies on the phone last night. If anyone other than my own sweaty kid uses it, I'll get a new one for Mommy. The problem is it makes my inner labia swell up like an oddly shaped hot pink balloon, and the swelling doesn't go down for hours. I love it while I'm using it, but because of the size it vibrates all over me and not just the tiny spot I want it too. Is the swelling irritation, or way too much blood pumping down there?

What school do you go to and what's your major?? I have lots of vibrators I use on myself. All the other sex toys we own are for me to use on my husband. My favorite toy ever is the Tongue Joy vibe, which I used as a finger vibe. I loved (it died after two months) it because it was tiny, but powerful when used with the battery pack. It loses too much power when the watch batteries are in it. Unfortunately, sex toys that are connected to an external battery pack tend to die fast becuase the fragile wire that connects to the pack doesn't last. Just like the wires in both expensive and cheap earbuds, they suffer from poor workmanship and will break if not exceptionally well protected. I'd LOVE a tiny vibe like that with a plug-in option, so much more durable!! What I've always wanted to find is a small non-insertable sex toy that does something else besides vibrate, but acts more like a finger -- one that moves back and forth and in circles. If it came with a plug-in option I'd be willing to spend quite a bit for that, since every toy I've ever had that used watch batteries (expensive and weak) or a battery pack (at least six) broke within ten uses. My husband likes anal stimulation, but he's leery of larger ones that would probably do a better job of stimulating his prostate. He'd love an anal toy that could expand slowly after it was inserted, which is always the intimidating part for him. Would you let us know what you decide to design? I'd love to see what the other students come up with.

Well -- I do because of Mikaylas's article, which actually calls it the Holy Grail in the title no less, and all the similiar ones I've read. "...for many women a G-Spot orgasm is the end-all, be-all of orgasms – the one that will make their sexual life complete..." According to her 85% of women can achieve it. I just want to be in the majority! I've got closeness and intimacy all over the place, and it's great, I totally love it, couldn't live without it but those things have never made me come, and ever since that first fabulous O at age 31 I've been addicted, and I just haven't had enough yet. I don't want to overlook any possibilities I might still have, selfish as I know that sounds. Anyway, no matter how self-involved I sometimes get during the day by myself (I guess this is what happens when you work at home, heehee) it doesn't make me lose interest in having sex with my husband and showing him a good time, and I don't have any intention of asking him to do anything tedious to me with a toy for an hour. Thanks for all your help, I truly appreciate your input, and as long as I have another hour and a half before the kids come home from school and my work for the day is done, I'm going to neglect my dirty laundry and bound up the stairs and have at it again.

According to my doc, I'm not in perimenopause yet. My testosterone is in the high end of the normal range, as are my other hormone levels. I'm afraid of menopause -- I've read lots of scary possibilities about what can happen to your sex drive and sensations, and since orgasm has always been really difficult for me (first one at age 31) I feel like my days may be numbered. Yeah, I know it doesn't work like that for all women or even most women, but most of us don't have to wait as long as I did to find out what all the fuss was about! I have three kids, no damaging or traumatic births. IC is fun and all, but I've been having sex pretty regularly since I was 18 and I've never felt much during it, besides the emotional closeness and the cheering-him-on aspect. I'm definitely not looking to have a G-spot orgasm at all, I just want to know if I have the capacity to feel pleasure there and not just pressure -- and I don't expect my husband to really participate, especially if it's going to take a long time. There wouldn't be much in it for him, after all! But -- if I can feel something there eventually, I feel like I only have a short time to find out before menopause catches up with me and I lose my chance. I actually did squirt once -- but I had nothing inside at the time. I was masturbating under a set of weird conditions. I didn't really like it and felt very strange the rest of the day. Repeating that is not my goal either -- I just want to know if I have the capacity to make the having to pee feeling CHANGE to pleasure, like I've read about happening. If I could make that happen I would keep going and try to come eventually.

My husband is a lucky man -- he can actually orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. His are much, much more sensitive than mine, and I play with them constantly. I love it when he calls me from work to tell me they're driving him crazy rubbing against his starched shirt because they're raw from being worked over the night before.

Hi Sexperts -- I've listened to the podcasts for awhile, the topics help keep me interested during my early morning runs -- which led me to this site. I've spent quite a bit of time here, among other places, looking for an answer... and while I've read lots of info about where the G-spot is, the anatomy of it, and how to poke at it during IC, what I need to know is does this spot function eventually, or are there some people who just have an insensitive one? I can find mine easily. If I push as hard as possible with my finger, I'll get a weird, faraway feeling like I may need to pee. That's it. No "changing" to pleasure. The one time my husband decided to try, I didn't know he was doing anything. Apparently he was stroking for awhile, but I honestly didn't know he even had his finger in there at all, I thought his hand was just laying against me. I was occupied with both my hands and my mouth at the time and just not paying attention, I suppose. I had some extra time a few days ago so I dug up my G-spot attachment for one of my vibrators. Poked around until I got the pee feeling, then turned it on. After a few minutes I felt so little I pulled it back out, it had flipped over and was pointing down. This happened a few times -- I'd lose the pee feeling (sorry I know it sounds gross, it's just the only feeling I can identify) have to angle it sharply and find it had twisted around. I stopped and masturbated the way I always do. After I came I tried again, but it felt the same as before, just more slippery! My vagina normally hasn't much feeling -- I Kegel daily, but it just feels like a muscle to me. When I masturbate I never penetrate myself. Having something inside blunts my clitoral sensation and lessens the contractions. Still, I was hoping that if I did the right thing long enough it might wake up. Try again or is nothing going to happen, ever?