becca011906

It's funny how age seems like so much sometime and longer you are together the less it seems... i was only 15 when i started dating my husband who was almost 20 and was mom ever ticked when she found out how old he was! LOL ... seemed so so much older then me. well that was almost 10 years ago. so we are now 29 and almost 25. so we are 5 years apart. Been together for almost 9 1/2 years and married for almost 7 years~

thanks guys... i guess i just get frustrated on forums often when the dang text doesn't come out the way i mean for it too... plus i really hate having my age brough up in any issues mainly b/c i see myself as a much older then 24 much older, i've been married for 6 years, w/ the same guy for 9 years, have 3 kids, I do understand why it was brough up though ... come to think about it maybe Junior 88 is right I mean usally he'll let me know if he wants a quicky, hand job, bj, ect and if i'm not busy sure i don't mind! But again i'm over it now if he does he does if he doesn't oh well... thanks for being understanding everyone and for pointing out things i hadn't though about!

guess my posts weren't really coming across the right way at all.... i'm so not jealous at all. I just figured after 9 years of being together i would have found him in the act more then 1 time... guess i was wrong. I just had read a few differant posts about being able to do it together and it sounds interesting... so i guess i'm not asking for him at all to never do it alone, i mean that'd be me giving up my time as well. I guess the line of communitcation to open up is something new to add to our play time but not to take it out of our own private time... sorry i was miss understood.

well i guess i don't want to find him in the act but just to know he does to it... i'm sure he does that after thinking it all over. i mean i do it often and haven't ever been found by him... but about 80% of the time it's while he's working although as i've said he could stop by the house any time he wanted to durring his working shift.

thanks for the suggestions adian, we will do that... I think we'lll give it a try tonight since dh worked all weekend we haven't seen eachother much at all so we are going to both be pretty ready for some action! LOL iha i guess I just want to atleast have a gspot O before i decide that i'm happy the way things are, i mean how do you know unless up get the next step up... maybe i'll hate the whole experiance but how do i know if it's never happend...

I wish he'd talk to my husband as well, i've been asking him since #3 was born to have this done... then i got baby fever about year and 1/2 ago, we rode it out and it's all gone now.... but he still leaves all BC up to me, the IUD is working well but a V would be even better! LOL

Oh i dont' mind that he 'does' at all. I just found it odd that in 9 years i've never found him in the act! LOL although i've always had a feeling it's been his 'shower time'. i'l find the time to open the line of communication when the time is right!~ thanks again.

LMAO!!! Ok i don't think we should risk it when he's at work... i'd be to worried he'd hit the 'call' on this radio ... he's a cop not to cool if he's conversation went over the radio!!! LOL we both always lock the door to the bathroom since the kids got old enough to let themselfs in... LOL But just be me start talking about differant things I think he was always worried to talk about differant stuff or to bring it up thinking i didn't want to and now that i have started talking about them he's so open and more relaxed!!!!

I have only caught him in the act 1 time in the 9 years we've been together. and it was about a week after having our 2nd baby so ya know we weren't exactly having any sex at the time. I walked out to the livingroom in the middle of the night to take a pain pill and found him looking at porn online... other then that i've never found him at it EVER!!! Although he does lock the door every single time he showers but usally he's in there the same amount of time never longer then others maybe he only does it in there... again i need to open up this line of comunication.... I only do it on nights he's working although i happens pretty fast for me i can be done in 10 min tops but he could come in on me at any time and i think that's kinda thrilling to me since he came stop in at home any time durring his shift. So again he's never found me in the act and I still do it so yet another reason to talk about stuff... i love all the things this great board has been bringing to my attention. we could both be having fun with the whole materbation thing... i think it goes back to when your a kid and told you only do that in private or that it's a dirty thing you aren't supose to do...

well wanted to update the other night hubby stoped at a local place and found some silicone lube so of course we had to try again... what we tried was a possition with me on top of him like cow girl style and it worked really well !!! I did some relaxation type stuff that evening long before we were 'in the mood' it was a method I used durring my last pregnancy (like birth preperation meditation almost). and i was extreamly relaxed and it just went in with out so much as a twing of pain or discomfort. I was even able to have an O this was too. not the best O i've ever had and it won't be a 'normal' thing for us i don't think but still something to mix it up once in a while!!!

I was thinking that's what might have happended... damn it!!!! I think i need to invest in some toys for some help one of the times we stoped the finger playing was b/c he's arm was getting tired and almost to the point of cramping... off to read some reviews of toys... our vibrating toy was damaged in our home... go figure not the china my dang vibrater gets broke! LOL I think it would have helped getting one more clit orgasm maybe a bullet type toy and a Gspot toys!

Ok i have read the sex ed atrical from mikalya and it' so informitive, my dh read some of it he's a skimmer and then just says tell me what i need to do! LOL He's so great! So we start with lots of foreplay he finds the spot, i found the stop as well. started clit stimulation myself and had an clit Orgasm he said he could feel it swelling a little. then it started to get really uncomfortable, once in a rare while i'd feel the "i gotta pee" thing but mostly it was just not comfortalbe at all... no pain but no fun either. we stoped and started just intercourse for a while in the X possition so it was still hitting the spot and also a little more comfy until i got dissy from blood rushing to my head ! LOL got a few pilliows and we did it that way a little longer. then back to the fingers in the stimulation and same feeling alittle uncomfortable... for a while, then I couldn't take it any more... back to intercourse doggy w/ clit stimulation. i had a great clit Orgasm again... and i was just done... i'm not so good at multi orgasms so that was 2 and he was doen so was i.... but then i went ot the bathroom to clean up grabbed the towl and noticed almost like a pee sesation again and some liquide on the towl, not his cum but it was coming from the front, so i though i just need to pee sat down but couldn't pee had to push down to get the feeling gone, and it was clear liquid no order... maybe i should have kept up a little longer and had the big O but i didn't like the feeling... My hubby wants to try again b/c he really want to see the ejacluation coming from me... he seemed a little let down and thinking he couldn't 'get me too' till i reminded him that he did get me to have two great clit orgasms when usally i only have one and i wasn't at all expecting to have a G-spot O on the first try we'll try again another time no biggy so he didn't care so much after that! Guys and ego i swear drives me nuts some times!

Yes i have experianced this before. i was on the shot after my first child was born, had a period for the whole time all 3 months long, needless to say i never returned for shot #2 ... guess what came next baby #2! LOL I have alwful depression while on the BC pills tried quite a few after #2 was born. then had baby #3 and after that i got an IUD and have had a great time with it no weight gain, extreamly light flow like maybe spotting 1-2 days out of the month. no cramps (except for 2-3 days after it was put in). no effects of depression, oh and best of all it last for 5 years... although i think you have to have given birth and be in a long term relation ship to get one... again probably depends on the MD.

thanks again for the warm welcomes!!! nymph i have to agree it will be kinda nice to be only 40 when my youngest is 19 (well give her an extra year to get out since she's the baby and all LOL).

thanks mikayla I started the artical but never went on to page 2 last night when i was reading them over!!!

I totally agree here i think that's what happening b/c very often durring sex when i'm on top his fingers (up to two has been the limit) can enter no problems but i'm usally so stimulated in the front and into it that i'm not so worried or clenching at all.

Ok i'm going to re: to this... i'm 24, have 3 kids that were all 9lbs + a little!!!! I had them all natrally w/o epidural. although i didn't have a blocker shot w/ the first due to having forcept delivery, that was when i was 16 years old pushed for 2 hours. I had stitches with all 3 of my kids I always started doing kagels as soon as i was given the ok by my dr (few hours after birth). I've never had a 'too loose' issue for my hubby or using any regular size toy! LOL Oh to add to this i'm a very peitie person no hips at all. I'm 5'3 and was around 100#s when i got pregnant w/ my first i'm now about 125lbs. still tight although i admit to still doing kagles atleast 3-5 times a week. Do NOT risk major surgery at all unless you have to for medical resons. There is about 20% higher chance the baby will have complications i'm not sure what the mom's chance are off the top of my head.

I think main reason is that my man wants to experiement with it since we were able to at one time and from my end of things it did feel good in a differant way and i want to test thoes waters out again... i do really!!! So i guess i'll get some more lube and give it another try with a toy that's pretty narrow on my own and see where that gets me... again thanks for your great advice!!!!

hey are you stalking me! LOL j/k your answers are great to all my questions!!! i stated in my intro i'd have a lot of them! And i'm glad to get the answers, i guess it'd be kinda a fun challenge to try to have quite sex! also w/ the room set up the trundle bed is on the floor by the door so we could put our almost 8 year old on that bed on the floor then we'd probably hear him moving around before he could see us and then the 2 others in the bed next to trundle who are 5 and 3 and who are the deep sleep kinda kids! LOL I just wasn't sure it was ok to be doing it in the room... or if we should always move into the bathroom i'm sure we will some times for hot shower sex but not all week long. this is the family vacation we'll have 'our vacation' w/ plenty of vacation sex over the summer!

Ok so we have done anal before only about 2-3 min of it never all the way in by any means but head maybe 1-2 inches more (not a lot but enough to make hubby want more LOL) but this was 4 years ago... we only did it 3 or 4 times though then i got pregnant with the 3rd and we didn't try durring the pregnancy but maybe 6-12 months after the birth... and we have tried off and on ever since w/o much luck at all so for the past 3 years we have tried, not alot of trying but once in a while we will give it a try and it never seems to work. We are using lube and i think it's a lot of lube usally we spoon so that i'm in control. I'm just wondering if it has something to do with trama that happend in my 3rd birth??? it was an extreamly fast fast birth went from 6cm. to baby's head crowning in a matter of 5-10 min. the nurse was holding the baby's head while crowing telling my not to push and wait for the dr for about 10 min or so. i had bad hemroids afterwards but it's healed up well according to my OB. All my kids were just over 9lbs and had episodimies with all 3... i'm just at a loss... maybe we need to try some plugs for streaching first?? Fingers usally aren't an issue but any time we try we bearly get the head in and i'm in a lot of pain.

iha, thanks for putting that into prospective too... new blade every single shave!!! Got ya! I think i got such bad razor bumps in the bikini line before was b/c i'd always just use the same razor as the one i used on my legs and pits so i'm sure it got lots of germs into the pours and then i got bumps... since using a new razor i've not gotten any we'll see how it goes in the am after shaving against the grain tonight!!! Hopefully it goes well b/c hubby is off tomorrow night lovely 3p-3a work schedual sucks big time so his nights off are all good!!!

thanks nymph, i had read the artical but rebrowsed it. I'm kinda a major barget hunter and extreemly frugal person LOL think along the lines of penny pincher! LOL so i got a venus embrace today at CVS for $5.99 and also picked up a loofa sponge as i read on another site that could help out to. now hopefully i can talk hubby into shaving as well...

Exactly you hit it head on. I'm very worried about his ego and feelings both. he usally is the one to suggest things and ideas, often it the anal topics which is a whole nother post in it's self... but he's ALWAYS has a .... hum i guess it's like a little self consience (sp?) about his self esteem NOT low slef esteem but just kinda shady i guess???

Ok i'm very new to shaving and have never shaved any more then needed to for a regular cut swim suit. But over the weekend I took the plung and took it all off actull i took most off one night maybe what a dry electric would have enough that it wasn't going to leave me itch when i grew back mainly b/c i was scard out of my mind that i'd end up with a pussy full of nasty razor brun bumps, b/c i always always get them when i'd shave my bikini lines but i went and got some bikini zone sutff and it seemed to do the trick no bumps at all. but when i shaved the second night to get it closer and take it down to the skin it didn't go very close left about 1/4 a cem. of hair and dh said it about rubbed him raw. So tonight since it's been 2 days since shaving i was going to give it ago again and try to get it all gone and a smooth finish... i think i'm going to go get a higher quality razor b/c what i was using was a desposible 3 blade gillet razor new sharpe, ect but maybe higher quality woudl be better. Also i never went against the grain (is that the right term??) i only shaved in the dirrecting the hair grew b/c i was so worried about razor bumps and pain ect. but i didn't seem to get any so i guess the bikini zone jell worked very well. Any suggestions would be great! Thanks!

Ok i know the easiest thing is to just come right out and tell him, but that's not like me at all and he knows that I'm more of a suddle hints, and along thoes lines. I'm not sure what's happening to my sex drive over the past month or so but it seems to be higher then it was when we first met (9 years ago). Is it normal for a womens sex drive to hype up some in their mid 20's?? He use to try to introduce things into the bedroom be that toys, games, trying differant things but just for a short time and then back to same old, same old... i think he's lines of think were if we keep the toys, ect around to much that I wouldn't be happy with just him alone. I'd love to try new things actully a lot of new things after reading so many of the articals in the ed section! WOW have we been missing out on some stuff. So are there ways to ease into the differant ideas or do i just need to get over it and sit him down and tell him????