Shypuppy, For many guys, once they cum, that's it. My DH can take all the buildup in the world, but once he has come, it is pretty much all over. He can often be reworked about half an hour later, but the hormones just are not up for continuing straight after the event. My solution is to ALWAYS make sure I have come first - or be aware that I will have to do it myself afterwards. He still enjoys watching afterwards, but it certainly doesn't have the same effect on him. I am pleased to see that your January post said you had talked about it. Communication is the key to great sex!