I've posted before that my wife has not been able to become aroused for many years. It was something that happened slowly as she wanted sex less and less. And, on the occasions we did have sex she would "turn off' in the middle and ask me to please finish. She has had some medical issues so I was pretty much resigned to masturbation as my only release. My wife was also resigned to no sex and feeling guilty about it. But we made it work, though difficult at times, and lived the best lives we could.
Recently, we took and extended trip to visit her family and I came back a couple of weeks before she did. The day after she returned we went for a swim in the pool and after a bit she playfully pulled down my suit. This wasn't like her as she is usually a little concerned if a neighbor see so I decided to call her bluff and took it completely off. Then I pulled down the bottoms of her suit and to my surprise she took them off! Then she told me she had a nice surprise.
My wife got me hard and started pulling me to rub the head on her pussy and get me inside. I couldn't believe it, she was horny and wanted sex! She told me that after I had left she started looking at porn sites, reading sexy stories, and sexual desire started returning. We decided to get dressed and head up to the bedroom where I had my cock buried in pussy for the first time in about 27 years! We went for about an hour and she was wet, wild and insatiable.
My wife (and the rest of the family) has had problems with her mother for many years because her mother is a real drama queen that is very controlling. For my wife this really hit a peak when her father died and she wouldn't speak to her mother for a number of years. Her mother is still alive but now in a senior care facility and starting to do poorly. My wife said that on this trip she was finally able to let go of her negative feelings and essentially cut loose from all her mother's bullshit.
It seems pretty clear that some deep-seated mental aspects played a role in my wife's sexual problem. But boy is she trying to make up for lost time now and I'm loving it! So for the others here that are in the same situation, there is a chance things can get better. It might be difficult but finding the root cause of the problem is the key to fixing the problem. Don't give up.