(1) How hard is it for him to get an erection? it really depends.. sometimes when he yawns or stretches, he'll get an erection, sometimes when we are in bed, i'll be playing with him, or i'll go down on him & he'll get hard, but he doesn't "feel" horny..... other times, we can be playing with eachother and it can take 20 minutes or more, or not at all for him to get hard. (2) Can he get harder quicker when masturbating alone without you? He's never been a "solo-player"... (or that's what he tells me....) (3) Can he maintain an erection through foreplay, or does he have to go right to sex? well, like i said earlier, we'll be playing with eachother, sometimes he gets hard, sometimes he doesn't (4) Does he wake up with morning 'wood'- i.e. an erection? occassionally... on weekdays he wakes up way before me, so i wouldn't know, but once in a while on a weekend he'll wake up with one. (5) Does it get significantly softer when you are having sex (keep in mind, a normal erection doesn't stay ROCK hard all the time) Not during sex (that i know of).. but if I have to get off to grab some lube, or shut off the light, or put my hair up he'll get soft. (6) If you are having a night when he doesn't think he will get sex (perhaps you are on your period) does he get harder? No.. he's the type of guy that could live without sex (7) Does he ejaculate quickly once sex starts? He doesn't ejaculate hardly at all... 2 nights ago we were going at it, and we were both really into it (the only way for him to ejaculate is selfstimulation) and he started having the "need" to get it out of him.. he was masturbating, and still was unable to ejaculate, eventually his "need" went away.... But last night we were going at it, and he had to get it out.. so he started masturbating & was able to ejaculate within 5 minutes. (8) Can he change positions and maintain an erection? only if I can move really fast, but he doesn't have the stamina to be on top, so most of the time our sex is this: we play with eachother for a little bit, i get on him, i ride until I get an orgasm.. I get off & he'll either masturbate or finger me (making me squirt all over).... hope you can help sorry for stealing the tread...