WendyNY

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Hi Joy, I LOVE silicone toys ! They are a bit more expensive but are worth it. I haven't used this particular toy so I can't give any feedback on that, but the PROS of using silicone toys are: • Phthalate-free • Non-porous • Hygienic • Pliable • Warms to body temperature and retains heat You can only used water based lubricants with silicone. NEVER use a silicone based lubricant !!!! I'm sure someone will post some feedback about this particular toy you're interested in. I LOVE your "About Me" page and your website by the way---VERY HOT !!!

I LOVED these !! It's too bad more people don't handle stress with humor. I tend to be a very positive, happy person (even when I'm stressed) I never want to "drag" other people down. Unfortunately, there are lots of people who thrive on being miserable and take great pleasure in making other people miserable.

JHard---This is perfect. At some point you have to do things for YOU. Make some changes and just be happy. Life is waaaaaay too short to be miserable. You can only go so long before you either "blow up" or go elsewhere. Hyokahey--- Is the "laziness" in the bedroom spilling out into other aspects of your life with each other or is it mainly just in the bedroom ? If it's just in the bedroom, then you have gotten some great advice about trying to gently communicate the fact that you want to try different things. But---if it's like my life was, then you need to make some changes. In my case, I hold everything in usually and the problems weren't just in the bedroom. What I finally did was equal to the saying my friend has---- I "Pulled the RED STRING on the Train" !!" It was a wake up call to my husband about our relationship. But----we ended up finally communicating and things have spun around for us--- In the bedroom and outside. So, as the REO Speedwagon lyrics go--- "If you're tired of the same old story, turn some pages".

I agree completely-----I've been working out with weights for years. I love being in shape and weightlifting is definitely a stress reliever for me. (Oh yes......Sex helps too ! )

Mikayla--your comment made me think about an article I just read online ( The "Ask Jake" column----I love "Ask Jake" I've read this column for years. The column is funny and definitely puts you inside a man's head ) This particular column addresses this exact point---- Men DO fantasize about other women during sex or "alone"-- Usually about women they've been with or know. They replay scenes over in their head. Yes, women do the same thing too. I have a constant "porn scene" in my head. It's what sends me over the edge. (Although Brad Pitt does nothing for me ! Usually I fantasize about tits and "gangbangs" I just love watching all those men getting so excited about getting to fuck one woman) Enjoy the article ! http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2010/05/jake-the-guilty-little-secret-he-hides-in-bed

Mikayla, I love your analogy ! Yes, I agree---at times men need to just "rub one out". My husband uses this expression all the time. If some women are having a hard time understanding the stress and masturbation correlation you could liken it to the satisfaction that SOME women get from scarfing down a pint of Ben and Jerry's ice cream when they're feeling stressed ! It's the same thing ! (Well.....sort of....I enjoy cumming more than eating, but that's just me !) I do agree with some of the others that if men are watching porn and masturbating continually 24/7 and excluding their partner altogether-- well then, yes it may be time to call Dr. Drew ! I also agree with the point you made about how there are lots of things that are "pornographic" to some men but aren't actual porn. This is a PERFECT example of what my husband loves. He LOVES to look at pictures or videos of women dressed in sexy clothes, tight fitting jeans with high heels AND he LOVES to see women smoking !! This is "porn" to him and this is what he wants to look at when he just wants to "rub one out". I have no problem with that. Everyone is aroused in different ways by different things. I know exactly what turns him on and I will go out of my way to dress in the way that excites him when we spend time "together" when we're not having our own "alone time". And YES......occasionally I will "smoke" for him and "perform". It makes me feel sexy because I know he loves it and it makes it so much more exciting for him (and me)

Thank you Mikayla !!

As a woman---I COMPLETELY agree with you and understand. Yes, men are visual. Woman are too though. (some more than others) And yes----I think of sex quite often during the day ! (especially as I've gotten older !) I do not think less of my husband for looking at other woman. I actually point out all the "hot" woman to him !! I love to look at beautiful women also. (Sometimes more than men !!) Although I am not "bi-sexual" in the true sense of the word. I do understand the reasons why men look at porn. I see nothing wrong with it. I myself enjoy watching porn. I definitely enjoy watching it more than my husband. It helps with masturbation sometimes and can also be a sexual enhancer when a couple watches during sex. I have read some of the previous threads on here regarding porn. There are lots of women who are very offended by it for one reason or another. In MY opinion I think that insecurity plays a HUGE role in that. Some women feel that their partner would expect them to look or act like a "Porn Star" or maybe that they wouldn't want them anymore. Basically, men just want a little "something" to help with visual stimulation and sending them "over the edge". We women have our own "alone time" and men should be allowed to have theirs !(with or without porn) I mean---women use toys don't they ?? Do the men get upset about that ? Do they think that because we're using toys that maybe we don't want them --that they're not enough for us ???? No, not usually (unless THEY'RE insecure) So, with that being said, Porn is usually simply a "Tool" for men (and women) just like "Toys" are for women.

I'm revisiting the place that I first came to for help sexually so long ago. I'ts been a LONG time since I've looked at this website. I've recently started looking at it again. So much has happened in my life over the last year. It's been truly "life changing". My husband and I have finally "reconnected". I've introduced him to this site and we've enjoyed reading the different topics. For him---seeing "real people" in "real situations" having "real sex" puts a different perspective on everything. I've updated my "page" and am looking forward to reading more topics with my husband. I'm glad to see that so many of the original posters whose posts I had enjoyed reading are still on here !

Glad you enjoyed it !

Your poem is awesome !! I love it !! (Dr. Seuss day was this week also . )

Congratulations !! What a beautiful story-- I'm so happy for you both !

Welcome !! This in an awesome website. Enjoy !

That is SO sweet ! What a nice guy you are ! I'm sure she loved it.

I agree with Sun too-----It's your fantasy, that's what makes it so unique !

Yes, you're right ! I forgot about those. (probably because I don't like to use them ) They'll be good for someone just starting out though. By the way----your muscle pictures are very nice.

Oh My God---that's too funny !!! (I can spell really well, but I suck at math !)

I love the smell of cologne on men. (Not TOO much) Some men go way overboard with it. Just standing next to a man who is wearing some, does something to me......................... My very favorites are Curve for men and Polo.

Very Nice !!!!!

He's going to LOVE that !

Wow !!!! Very nice ! I don't blame you for wanting to show that off !

I hope that this works out for you---my fingers are crossed too. You asked about Love and whether it could conquer all....... I guess "Love" and "being in love" are different. Being "in love" always sounds like the beginning of a relationship to me. You know---- the head in the clouds, butterflies and heart pounding feeling. That "spark" that's there at first (and for VERY few---forever) But then, when the initial spark is gone what you're left with is what's really real. That's love. It's when you are so comfortable being with someone that you can really be yourself and they accept you just like that, the way you are. I guess the important thing is not to think you have to change who you are to please someone else. I don't know if the real statement should read "you conquer all" You have to love yourself first. You are a beautiful and special person and you deserve someone who can see that. Don't ever settle for second best.

Well, that's good to know ! Thank you---that makes me feel better. Yes, I will definitely let you know when it happens !

I have had orgasms while sleeping on and off for YEARS !!!! It probably is the bodies way of responding to a need. I haven't had any for awhile now. Maybe because I'm having so many more now while I'm awake !! But while sleeping (at least for me) the orgasms are total body ones and so incredible !! I've never had a true "G spot" orgasm while awake (I don't think) I'm not sure if the sleeping ones are Gspot orgasms or not. Enjoy them.