WendyNY

HW--I like Barney's idea. I'm sorry, I have absolutely no creative ideas for you !! Maybe give him a nice blow job while going through the Burger King drive thru !!!

Fly, I'm glad you enjoyed. No--your questions aren't too personal. I don't have much time but I will tell you briefly. I enjoyed the female/ female experience very much. It's always been a fantasy of mine. The fact that she and I have grown to be such good friends means even more. I will NEVER be a lesbian though---I think some people think that when women experience this -it changes them. It's sexual but at the same time I feel a connection with her because of our friendship. I know it brought my husband and I closer. That probably seems odd to some people. I can't explain it. We talk about it often. As far as what happens in the bedroom, we do talk about it during sex sometimes. It heightens the pleasure. Sometimes I reflect back in my mind on certain things that happened during my encounters with her. It's like things we each think about during sex or alone time to get you over the edge. (my husband calls it a "spank bank" LOL....)

OMG.....So hot !!!! Thank you--Thank you !!!! Makes me want to go out in a boat now.....

My first Female / Female experience---(In FULL detail.....) We met a new couple back in May. They both ride motorcycles like we do also. We met at an outdoor restaurant by the water. There was an instant connection with them. I felt like we had known them for years. The husband was extremely funny like the other full swap couple one. She was very sweet. We made plans to get together again. We drove out there--they live a little over an hour away. We met at their house and then went out to a bar/restaraunt for dinner and drinks. She looked very attractive. Very classy looking. She wore all white. She's very tan and had long brown hair pulled back. She kept refilling my drink ! We flirted a little bit also. She is very comfortable and easy to be with. We got back to their house and had another drink. She took me into the living room and we sat on the couch. The husbands were just around the corner in the kitchen. She whispered that she wanted to kiss me. We made out slowly--it was very nice. She put her hands on my breasts and removed my shirt and unhooked my bra. She took my breasts in her hands kissing and sucking on my nipples. My nipples were so hard. I was getting so wet. I took off her shirt and she then unbuckled my jeans. She slid them down and removed my panties. She took off her pants and she was wearing a white thong with a matching bra. I unhooked her bra and took her breasts in my hands. She has small firm breasts. She had tan lines so her breasts were creamy white. I took her nipples in my mouth sucking on them. The husbands peeked in for a minute. We looked up at them and giggled---- they went back in the kitchen. My husband told me later that he had to walk away because he almost came in his pants !! She laid me down on the carpet and spread my legs apart. She put her face between my legs and started licking my pussy. It felt so good..... She took her fingers and started putting them inside me slowly. This went on for a little bit. I sat up and pushed her back. I told her I wanted to make her cum. (I had not cum yet....it takes me awhile in spite of the fact that I was excited ) I kissed her all over and then put my face in her pussy. She had such a tiny pussy. Her lips were tucked all insider her. She was completely shaved (I have a landing strip which she liked ) I was worried I wouldn't know what to do--I figured it out quickly !!! I started licking her pussy slowly then faster and harder. She was moaning and squirming... I put my fingers inside her and fucked her pussy. I took her whole pussy in my mouth pulling and sucking on her clit. She got louder and raised her ass up and came so hard in my mouth. She laid me back down and started licking me again and fucking me with her fingers. I rubbed my clit at the same time. I came so hard... I did her again and again. I made her cum three times !! During this time the husbands kept peeking in and out. Her husband said he wanted to see each of us sit on the others face. I sat on her face while she licked me and she sat on my face while I licked and fingered her.The husbands were standing near us watching this. It was exciting knowing that they were getting excited by the show we were putting on for them. Afterwards we both walked around naked in front of the men. My husband wanted her to try on my jeans--which she did putting her naked pussy and ass in them. I knew he was getting turned on. (I've mentioned the jeans fetish he has in other threads on TT) I would've been completely ok with seeing him fuck her or even seeing her give him a blow job. We have gotten together two more times since then for sexual encounters. The second time the men watched us the WHOLE time. We laid on the carpet in front of them . They were GLUED to us !!! I kind of tuned them out after a bit and I was not nervous at all. It took me longer to cum but I was able to. The thought that they were watching me cum was extremely exciting. They loved watching each of us sit on the other's face also. My friend has met another couple where the woman is interested in being with another woman. She wanted me to meet her. I have spoken to her on the phone and have seen her pictures. (She looks like a model-----OMG.....) We are making plans to have a "Threesome" with just us women while the men watch. I am excited about it and I will share my story when it happens.

HW--I'm so glad what I've shared has helped you. Communication together is very important. While my husband is super intriugued by it he is even more nervous than I am. We were talking this week about insecurities.. He seems to be very insecure and thinks that there may not be anyone in this lifestyle who would find him sexually attractive. We talked about how being together for so long has made us feel with each other. You get comfortable with the one you are with. You don't worry about how you look or what your partner is thinking about your physical appearance when you are intimate together . (well, most don't ) BUT when you know you may be physical with someone else---someone new---you start to worry. He is EXTREMELY worried that another woman might not find him attractive. OMG.....He's quite attractive and I tried to tell him that. I tried to explain to him and tell him what women are really thinking. Most women-- as I mentioned in another thread--are not that shallow. I'm not as interested in a man's physical appearance as I am in the connection I feel with him. I love a man who is confident and has a great sense of humor. I think to really be a true swinger you have to have an amazing sense of security in yourself and a huge amount of confidence. Of course it does make you feel good to know that someone else wants you in that way. It's a huge ego booster. We will NEVER be true 24 / 7 Swingers though. Yes, I know a lot of marriages have been hurt by this. I guess it all depends on your relationship. I've had affairs. This is a little different. My husband and I have been through a lot together. In the last two years we have grown closer and have talked more than at any other time in our marriage. The affairs and the past are all water under the bridge. We are going forward and starting to explore new things in our marriage. I can't say what tomorrow or next year will bring. I don't worry about it or focus on repercussions that may occur from this.No, I'm quite sure this is not something that all couples could or should do. Not all couples are full swap swingers either. My female friend is only intimate with women. I guess each person does what they feel comfortable with. For some it's just being voyeuristic. My friend's husband is turned on simply by watching his wife with another woman and by watching other couples together when they do go to events. That in itself would be a huge turn on !! I think if and when we finally do go to an event we would probably just observe the first time. The event you mentioned above sounds quite exciting ! They do have those "Meet and Greets" at various times too. The other full swap couple we have become friends with have gone to a few of these. Now, the husband is the one who is nervous about all of this (and he's extremely attractive !) I had to laugh when they were describing the evening they went to one. He stayed in the car for a long time watching each couple go in and observing who was there. He's more nervous that he will know someone at one of these. (That would be funny--seeing your boss, your neighbors, your local PRIEST !!! LOL...) The event you mentioned does sound quite exciting. I guess we are easing into this having met the 2 couples we have met so far. By the way---our event plans have been cancelled, but we still plan on doing something fun. I am hoping for no kids at our house so we may come back here. I know that I am the one who needs to initiate this with the couple. I have spoken to her about it a little bit. She told me they are TERRIBLE at the intiating part but her husband is definitely interested in swapping. So, I plan on being the initiator. I will start by having she and I play in front of the men. Hopefully that will make the men more comfortable. (I'm gettting pretty good at being with a woman too !! LOL..) I will describe below my first time with my other female friend.

I am so glad that you both talked about it. Jealousy does get in the way oftentimes. It's possible (and healthy) for both men and women to have friendships with the opposite sex. As long as the two of you don't appear to be hiding anything from each other your relationship will continue to grow.

It's nice to see you back on here Boo !!! (very hot story too, by the way---as usual !! LOL) I have not been on here much myself. Summer is flying by and we've been quite busy. I do have my own fantasy come to life story to share as well !! I had gone back and forth in deciding if it was something I wanted to share with all of you. I'm still debating on posting the whole thing. I will tell you just a little bit about it before I decide. This is something that first happened back in MAY !!! It's happened a couple more times since then. There is a couple we met. A husband and wife. We hit it off immediately and made plans to get together again. The wife is so sweet and very easy to talk to. We had an instant connection with both of them. The catch is this though-----the husband only likes to WATCH his wife with another woman. There is no male interaction AT ALL. Are you all on the edge of your seats ??? I finally had my first Female / Female experience. It was incredible and quite surreal. I was very unsure of whether to share all the intimate details with you. I may at some point. (It was VERY HOT !!) We have since gotten together a couple more times for some intimate encounters. She and I have developed a nice friendship also. We have gone shopping , out to dinner etc. Its much more than a one nighter. We do regular things together as couples with them and we have an awesome time together. They do not live very close to us so we can't get together all the time. The other full swap couple I mentioned several posts above, we have seen almost every other weekend. We do things with our kids, go out to dinner. We have a great friendship and we are on the edge of more with them. If the couple swapping happens with them it will mean much more to us as we've gotten to know each other so well. I have stopped focusing on whether it will or won't happen and just enjoyed our friendship.I do not think my husband and I would ever be true Swingers. We simply aren't cut out for that I don't think. We are enjoying the build up and anticipation of what may come. There was an event we were supposed to go to last weekend with this couple and our plans were cancelled. This coming weekend the full swap couple and ourselves are making plans to go to another event. We have talked a little bit about this being the "big weekend" that something between us may occur. I am looking forward to it and if it happens I just may share it with you !

Yes, welcome Mr. Rock and Roll !!! Toy is right---- (that's exactly what I was going to say !) If what you are looking for is simply sex, then perhaps the Craigslist personals and "Fuck Me Hard. com" would suit your needs much better--LOL..... If you are looking to add to the discussions here and share your stories with us--we would love to have you !! I'm sure you have lots of stories to tell--especially if you are a Rock Musician. (all those groupies and after the concert one night stands !) I know we would love to hear all about it. Welcome to TT , and please feel free to post .

You must be so excited about this !! Of couse safety is key and you must do everything you can do to avoid any STD's. I know that it seems as though it would break the mood. You have to look out for yourself though. Just be upfront ahead of time. Talk about it beforehand and have everything you need before that night. (just in case...) Have fun !!

There is one song that comes to mind. It's more for FUCKING though--not romantic lovemaking. It's ACDC's "You Shook Me All Night Long".... My favorite.......

I started a response to this awhile ago but had to X out. You cannot leave us hanging like that DKM !!!! I was reading along and expecting some hot story and then you ended it !!! I grew up on boats --I love being on the water. There is a calming effect that comes from the boat rocking. I've never had sex in a boat but I can imagine it would be quite exciting. Plus- there would be the added movement of the boat rocking in the water to help with the excitement. It would be quite romatic to be out in the middle of the water with no one else around. You could make as much noise as you wanted and no one would hear you. (well I guess it depends on how close to shore you are --I know the sound travels on the water....LOL..) Please expand on your story. Please describe your Boat Fantasy in FULL DETAIL......

Welcome to TT Carly !! To answer your question--there is no right or wrong age. There is no set amount of time for a masturbation session either. It all depends on the person. If you have not yet masturbated --that is ok. You are completely normal. The first time I masturbated I think I was 16 or 17 . I didn't do it all on my own though. I had been reading the book "Forever" by Judy Blume. They talked about masturbation in there. I was very curious what it would feel like. So, I tried it. I didn't know what to expect. If you feel you are ready to try it, that's fine. Find a place and set a time when you will not be interrupted. Go at your own pace and just explore your body. Sometimes you can get frustrated if you try too hard and you're not able to let go. Just take your time and enjoy the experience. Please feel free to ask any questions you may have. There are no stupid questions on here ! We look forward to hearing more from you.

Oooooooo......fucking at work.......that is so hot Sunday !!! Soft limits....I'm not sure. I do not like pain. I like spanking---but that's it. I may be ok with having my hands tied. I don't think I could be tied up for too long. (I'm so boring, I know !) You definitely need to have lots of time to do something like this. I think the whole turn on is that the two of you are seeing a different side of each other . It's almost like role playing. We all need to think outside the box every once in awhile to put that excitement back in our relationships. Whether it's making up your own "Fifty Shades of Grey " contract--or having sex standing up against the bathroom sink with the kids right outside the door !! LOL...that was a first for me..... I'll work on letting him tie me up... Have fun and keep sharing more with us Sunday !!

My husband does not shave at all down under. And that's fine with me. I think that each person has their own sense of comfort about their bodies. (He would HATE the stubble that comes from shaving) I do love to pull on his hair and stroke it (it's so soft ) Now for myself--- I shave all but a triangle at the top.(a landing strip) Although,there are times that I would love to strap him down and wax him like they did in the movie "40 Year Old Virgin". LOL....I'm so mean.......

100 degrees in Upstate NY is WAY too hot !! I am ready to jump in a vat of ice cubes COMPLETELY NAKED !

Oh, I have no doubt that you can Square !!

Very exciting Sunday !!! I do have this book although I haven't had much time to read it. I've gotten just past the part where she decides to sign the contracts. I know we are anticipating an awesome update from you !!! Have fun !!

The birthday surprise does sound exciting.....however....you have stated that he does not really know what to do. I guess half the fun of it is learning about it together. I suppose you need to approach it slowly little by little. I am not into BDSM at all but I do know there are lots of people on this site who are very much into it and there are some who even live that lifestyle 24/7. I think you really need to have a heart to heart talk with him about what YOU want. Tell him what will excite you before you even enter the bedroom. Have the talk in a separate place and not on the day you are planning to have it happen. What you want it to be like and what the outcome will be are probably 2 different things. It takes a couple a long time to know what the other wants and to feel comfortable with each other. He may not feel comfortable with all of it and may be afraid he will hurt you.I understand what it's like to not see your husband very much .You want to make the most of your short time together. My husband and I worked opposite shifts for years. I think communication is the key to having it all work out in your favor. And you can have lots of fun just practicing !! Just enjoy the moment and let it happen. Please let us know the outcome.

Welcome back !! Yes --I agree about the picture--I love it !!! VERY SEXY !!! Look forward to hearing more from you-

I am so very sorry about your mother. I think that you are using the online chatting as an outlet for everything you are holding inside. Not having had sex in so long and not having anyone you can share in that way with is very difficult. Sometimes being anonymous is nice as you can be yourself without fear of being judged. As far as the sexual chatting goes, I've never taken it to that level but I can certainly understand the feeling that must come from being in charge of being able to get someone else off. (especially someone you don't know) Since you are feeling ashamed and even guilty about it now, is a sign that it's time to stop the chatting. I think you are very much in need of some one on one personal contact. No, not necessarily sexual but I do feel that you need to open up to someone about everything you're feeling . I know you have been trying to meet someone on that dating site. How is that going ? I'm not sure if I've been of any help but I know there are lots of others on here with more insight who I'm sure will be posting soon. In the meantime please try not to get down on yourself about all of it. Do something for yourself this weekend and who knows--you just may meet someone when you're not looking for them in the most unexpected place !!

Welcome to the site Patty ! I'm sorry that you and your husband are having marital problems. I understand -I can relate to what you are going through. I've been in your shoes also as I've mentioned on numerous threads on here. People have affairs for different reasons. For some it's to make up for lack of an emotional connection, for others as yourself it's for sexual reasons. For the most part-- people don't go out in search of an affair. It usually just happens. One minute you're talking and then before you know it you're getting closer and closer to that person. You gradually become more and more connected to them. Then, in the blink of an eye you're involved sexually and in way over your head. An affair is like Quicksand. It's very difficult to explain the feelings and emotions that take place to those who have never had an affair. While the lack of sex at home had nothing to do with the affairs I had, I can understand your frustration at your husband's Erectile Dysfunction. My husband has a bit of this also. It has gotten worse as he's gotten older. I'm not sure if some of it is due to age, or just purely stress related. You need to talk to your husband about it. I know it's a difficult subject to bring up. But, you deserve to have your sexual and emotional needs met. Since you have already spoken out about the affair to your husband he does realize that something is missing in your relationship. Marriage is one of those things that you will have to consistently work on. It doesn't get better all by itself. There are other ways he can satisfy you sexually . The toys are a great way to start also. We have a strap- on that we use occasionally. (for when I'm fertile, or he's just not in the mood or can't get hard. ) Have fun with the toys !! You've come to the right place for help. There are lots of people who've gone through what you have. Good luck and please feel free to ask more questions !!

Mostly on my bed, or in front of the computer if I want to play while watching porn ! I have also done it while driving, on a beach, on my deck and even as a passenger in a car with other people. I can be very discreet and quiet when I need to be !