Kama

Hello all, I trust that most of you are open-minded. On another forum that I no longer post on, I was a bit surprised at how simply mentioning the term bisexual made male posters assume that this means having female lovers on the side or how she will leave her husband for another woman. Their exact words were, "I don't want to be some third wheel to another dyke competing for my wife's vagina." Wow, are you so insecure about yourself where you think your woman will leave you? Look, so many straight people cheat. Hell, I have therapist friends that say their straight female clients are having more affairs than the men. If you think marrying a straight woman over a bisexual woman is going to decrease cheating, think again. I identify as bisexual, but I have never cheated. I have no intentions either .When I'm with someone, I want to worship them and respect their wishes. To me, bisexual is just having sexual feelings and experience for both genders. Since many straight people have to smash their impulse for feeling attraction to other members of the opposite sex, I think it's totally possible for a bisexual to not act on their same-sex attraction. These male posters also told me, "Most men wouldn't want to get involved with a bisexual woman. You're going to have a really hard time." Well, it's not like I do anything bad. I'm loyal. I have a good job. I pay my bills. I believe in caring for and pampering my partner. I want to fall in love and have kids. What's the problem here?

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An update to this topic. I like giving more than receiving.

All I know is that I get tremendous pleasure from being spanked. Too much can start to hurt. I enjoy a few hard spanks when I'm performing oral sex. If it's too soft of a spank, I tell the person to do it harder. Every now and then, soft caresses on the ass are nice too.

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No, I think you have a right to your preferences. I don't like feminine voices or feminine habits in men either.

Nice to see that other women feel the same way! It's a myth that women only do oral to please the man..I get tremendous satisfaction out of it.

It's funny, because this topic just bumped in my head tonight. I think saying "A woman is only good in bed if she can take anal sex" is manipulative. It's like me saying "A man is only good in bed if he likes getting urinated on." Now that I'm older, I know that good sex is all about two people respecting each other and being attracted to one another. Those little things, like how you make them feel, make a huge difference. I also find that experienced men are well aware that every woman is different when it comes to her sexual preferences. The men that think that all women are the same when it comes to sex tend to be inexperienced.

I love having my face cummed on. The more cum, the better (as long as it doesn't get in my eye). It's one of the highlights of sex, IMO. I don't understand why it's seen as degrading? It's one thing to not like it, but I find it very arousing. There are some men out there that don't like to cum on their women, so I hope I end up married to one that does!

It looks like my "refractory time" is about 15 min. Do people have multiple orgasms within just a few minutes? I had one orgasm and relaxed until the after-effects of the first orgasm went away (it's an intense feeling). Then, I masturbated again for 10 minutes or so and then came.

Any tips on how to delay an orgasm? Still haven't experienced multiple orasms, even though I have tried. But, I cum VERY QUICKLY to the point where it's kind of embarrassing. Just a minute of clitoral stimulation can cause me to feel "done." This is why I feel bad when cumming first before the guy, because I've already lost interest before I get to do other sexual things. An ex told me once "I can't believe that lasted only 2 minutes." All of my ex-boyfriends lasted longer than I did, believe it or not. The only thing I can think of is avoid clitoral stimulation or do it really slow to prevent orgasming quickly. Since I enjoy other sexual acts (giving blowjobs, touching, carressing), I'm okay with saving clitoral stimulation for much later.

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My female friend looked at me weird when I told her that I feel cumming before the man. She said, "Why? Just have another one." Um, I can't have another one. I lose interest in sex when I've had an orgasm. It's a pet peeve of mine when people assume that all women are exactly the same when it comes to sex.

Is it possible for a woman to not be able to have multiple orgasm? We can't say that all the men are the same (like assuming that all men cum from blowjobs), so is it fair to say that all women can have multiple orgasms? I feel satisfied with after having one orgasm. I've tried going further past the first orgasm, but it doesn't feel satisfying. I feel "done." My friend said that maybe it's a mental thing for me, and I need to get over the mental block. I'm also the type of woman that doesn't orgasm through vaginal penetration. It's all strictly clitoral. how do you have a multiple orgasm ? To be honest, I'm also okay with not having an orgasm. The act of sex is pleasurable itself. I'm not going to get grumpy if I don't cum.

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That's interesting, randy. I've known men that do get pleasure from giving oral to their women. There's something very fun and exciting about that act!

There was a study that came out recently that said that most young Americans aren't having casual sex, but I don't remember how big the sample was. It's hard to know who is doing what, because I think the people that don't have casual sex aren't vocal about it. Whereas the people that do are more vocal about it. The few promiscuous friends I've had assumed that everyone else was having sex on the first date.

Ha, I think a lot of dudes do

It's important to know that not everyone is the same. I too also prefer performing oral than receiving it. Receiving feels good, but I wouldn't complain if I had to live without it.

I've always been a woman that enjoys giving oral sex. I can get very aroused by it. In fact, I prefer giving oral sex over regular intercourse. I don't find intercourse as pleasurable as performing oral on a man that I'm really attracted to. I'm the type of woman that needs a certain type of foreplay for intercourse to be pleasurable. With oral sex, I'm all revved up and ready to go at the thought of it. I don't need to spend 20 minutes doing foreplay or taking deep breaths to relax. No wonder I feel that oral sex is easier. The other day, I overheard a group of men saying that women only do it to please men and that they don't get pleasure from it. Really? These men ranged from their late 20's to early 40's. Are there any other women that feel the same way as me? Or is it rare that a woman truly enjoys giving blowjobs?

I just wanted to add that turning to porn as a teacher is the easiest teacher when your parents would rather die than mention sex. My ex also came from a family that cheated on their wives and used prostitutes, but would pretend to be holier than thou in public. As pathetic as it sounds, I didn't know that a man pressuring you into sex was disrespectful until my 20's. I read it in a book before anyone told me at home, at my conservative school or amongst my friends.